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Sometimes I really envy people who don’t have kids, having kids adds so much stress and worry to your life, there are so many things that can go wrong, it’s not guaranteed that they will develop into well rounded happy individuals. Our own lives are not perfectly happy so why bring kids into the same situation, more new humans to feel stressed and anxious. In my opinion the less kids you have the better your life is, the personal sacrifice is too much for me, I love my 3 kids but I wouldn’t do it again, I hate the responsibility and pressure to be a good parent, I want a stress free and easy life but I don’t have that because of having to raise kids. Most people I talk to agree that it’s not a wonderful experience but our parents are afraid to tell us that so the cycle continues

I am curious to know how you can make money from this when nobody else can, do you have a consistent track record of profit from year to year or have you just started, if you have just started then please don’t think that you can earn a living from it. The advice that I read somewhere is that if your positions are interfering with your sleep then they are too big. And if someone is selling software or advice then ask yourself why don’t they just use their own knowledge to get rich instead of flogging advice on the internet, and no, they are not trying to share the knowledge out of the goodness of their hearts.

Thank you everyone for your opinions. The reason that I am putting any effort into this relationship is because this girl has a unique personality, she is very smart and has a great attitude towards life, she is an independent thinker, doesn’t waste time or money dressing up and wearing makeup, I like that natural look. She is very affectionate, loves to hug and cuddle in bed. She is very consistent in everything she says, never any contradictions, and we talk for at least 1 hour every day in Thai and never run out of things to chat about. We also message constantly, I can read Thai fluently so it’s not just basic communication. It’s that feeling that this person is really into us that makes us feel we have a better connection than a relationship where the other person is not really warm and open. She has a good job and salary so I’m not supporting her so I will see where this goes in time, life is short and also an adventure.

For the doubters, yes I have visited her at work, I have also visited the Chinese in-laws with her because her son lives with them, they are not very wealthy Chinese. She met her past husband in university in Bangkok, people who think that issan people can’t mix with middle class Bangkok people don’t understand Thai society, it’s too simplistic a view because even in issan there are very modern and urban people along with very uneducated and obviously very poor rural people. I don’t have a problem if a woman has children already, regarding her age, I am 49 so I don’t want to date anyone younger than maybe 35, actually I would feel that a relationship is more genuine if the age difference is not too large. There are a lot of very attractive 40 year old girls in Thailand. I traveled twice under the test and go system November and January. paragraphs are not my strong point, I agree. I used to live in Bangkok 20 years ago and I learned Thai back then. I have been separated for 6 years so I’m not fresh out of a relationship and insecure and vulnerable, actually I have been quiet happy alone and single. We post our experiences to solicit other peoples opinions and views because we don’t always see everything clearly ourselves, thanks for the comments above everyone except the twit with the inevitable rude comment. I was trying to show how we can suddenly find ourselves in a new situation that we didn’t expect to happen, I never believed in connecting with anyone over the internet, and I still think that it’s an unusual thing to happen.

3 years ago I started talking to a girl online, I live in Ireland, I don’t know what I was expecting but I am very straight when chatting online, I don’t pretend and I don’t talk disrespectfully, I only chat in a very casual manner, I never lead girls on with false nonsense. Anyway we chatted on and off for 2 years initially, she had a very different manner and attitude to other girls, not the usual boring chatting template that most girls have and which quickly becomes hard to sustain interest. I was not free to travel at the time due to my sick father then covid shut down travel for almost 2 years, we had long periods of several months where we didn’t talk but she always got back in contact with me and I came to believe that this girl is really committed because she never forgot about me after over 2 years of on and off contact, exactly 1 year ago we started talking again and I felt that there is something special between us so I basically opened my heart and we agreed to be in a relationship even though we had never met and couldn’t due to the travel restrictions. I would never have considered an internet romance before but this girl won Me over because I felt that after 2.5 years of communication that there was a bond of sorts between us. I could never sustain any chat with any other girl for more than about 3 days before. This girl is 37 and I’m 12 years older, she doesn’t speak English but I have fairly good Thai and I can read fluently so communication between us is easy. She is a manager in a convenience store in the suburbs of Bangkok. We finally met in November last year and in person she is actually very lovely, lots of good personality qualities, not pretentious and not interested in luxury things, she has a very good attitude to most issues, she is very small in height but has a fierce no nonsense straight talking character, her bosses are even half afraid of her. she is from issan so a poor background. I only visited her for 10 days first time and then another 8 days last month, i am back home again now, I feel that I have really fallen for her even though it’s a difficult situation being a long distance relationship, something that I never thought was a good idea. what is unusual about her is that I never talked sweet or showed interest in romance over the first 2.5 years of our on off chats but she never forgot about me and always made the effort to contact me, she would get annoyed with me always because of my lack of interest, it was a funny relationship we had because something kept us both coming back together, hard to explain the feeling but I felt a bond with her all the time and she was very cute in my eyes so I was always keen to meet her eventually. She is a bit of a loner in some ways and has a very strong and independent personality, she doesn’t go out but does like to drink alone in her room sometimes. She never lies to me, I have never doubted her sincerity about us which is unusual, because she is always very transparent about what she is doing and where she is, and is always contactable 24 hr/day, she is devoted and committed to us, almost in an obsessive way, this girl is not standard beautiful but is quite pretty and has no problem getting male attention but she was not desperate to meet anyone and was willing to wait for a good connection with someone. She had 1 son 12 years ago and split with the father when the child was born, he was a lovely guy but she didn’t love him, they lived in a nice house in Bangkok and he was from a well off Thai Chinese family but she didn’t want to settle for a comfortable loveless marriage, in the 10 years after that she only dated one guy but had a bad experience which scared her off meeting anyone until I came along. I find her totally believable and honest and I am the most sceptical person alive. She acts up and has her tantrums fairly regularly about my personal situation because I am going through a divorce here and she picks fights with me over this issue regularly, I think that it’s her insecurity that causes her to act up this way, she will stop talking to me for a day or two and threaten to end our relationship but always calms down. So we have this rollercoaster relationship where we are lovely for a week or two then we have these same fights again and again over the same issue. I never imagined that I would find this type of bond with someone, I feel that we really are good together in a way that I never experienced in any other relationship before, the feeling is that this is the person I should have met 20 years ago. I am hoping that when my divorce is finalised that she will have no reason to feel insecure anymore and then no more tantrums, I don’t know where the relationship will go in the future but it’s been a whirlwind in my life since I met her because she is the most important girl that I ever connected with. She is incredibly affectionate and lovely as well as having a very strong no nonsense personality. She does cause me some stress with the tantrums but she is incredibly devoted to me and very honest, I have never felt so loved by any girl before and her devotion is what won me over, but that’s a double edged sword because it’s been a serious distraction in my usual life and I am now vulnerable to hurt if one of these tantrums are the end of us, I really don’t think that I could find another relationship like this because a lot of Thai faring relationships are a bit more of an arrangement where the girl just wants a good stable man to take care of her and she takes care of him but she will not really love him like a crazy teenager, a bit soulless really. it all started from a casual hello on a dating site 3.5 years ago and I was expecting nothing more than the usual standard conversation that gets boring quickly, but this has been some adventure for me so far, that’s what makes life interesting I suppose, this is the first time in my life that I feel a genuine warm affectionate bond with someone, I hope that our story continues long in the future.