Next time the waitress speaks pidgen English, tell her (in Thai) that you can't speak English (there are some expats who can't speak English!) Next time the waitress doesn't give you a menu, ask for one in Thai. After you all get menus, ask each one what they want. Then the waiter/waitress comes to the table, you do the ordering in Thai. I often do that with my wife.......never had a problem. I'm nearing 70.....never have a problem in restaurants when alone, but when I'm with my wife, staff will tend to avoid me and check with my wife first. I don't have a problem with that. I do find it amusing that I generally pay the bill but the staff will almost always give my wife the change. That's ok.....she needs the change at the market.