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10 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

 

One user noted that another was a supporter of a free Palestine. They went to suggest that Palestintians have killed a lot of gay people, yet this person, who supports gays also supports Palestinians in their fight against Israel, is also a supporter of gays. I went on to point out that Israelis will have killed far more gays than Palestinians have, therefore there is no reason to not support Palestine in their struggle against Israel, simply because of the view some Palestinians might have of gay people.

 

As you can see, what I was discussing is of direct importance to claim being made by the first user.

Exactly, so I replied to the correct post. You are mixing up correlation and causation, please see my earlier reply to you.

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5 minutes ago, parallelman said:

Point taken, but my comment was really a double point, which I admit I did not make clear. The 'coming out' was a choice too. The only problem I see, suppose 'Neeranam' doesn't actually like his brother's companion, as a person. 'Neeranam' will then have to make a choice, voice his opinion or not?

Coming out is a choice, we agree on that.

 

I won't speculate about Neeranam, though.

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44 minutes ago, mfd101 said:

Of course, but this is about the decision to 'come out'.

Yes, I agree.

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11 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

 

What question? I didn't pose any questions.

 

Could you be replying to the wrong comment?

May be, cannot find the post I reply to now. Someone asked how many gay Palestinians were killed by which side, that's what my comment referred to. Anyway, that question is moot.

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Just now, G_Money said:

If one was to pitch (oral) once in their life would they be labeled a pitcher for life?

 

A friend wants to know.

No. Many young guys (often in their early 20s) give it a try with a guy and later fall in love with a girl instead. 

 

It's who you fall in love with that makes you gay or straight. Many a gay man has had sex with a woman. That didn't make them straight.

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1 hour ago, newbee2022 said:

Well, being gay is one aspect of diversity. And since when AN is a gay forum? Did I miss something? Tell me.😳

This is the Gay Forum of AseanNews. Welcome to our group!

 

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Just now, newbee2022 said:

Diversity:

noun

1.

the state of being diverse; variety.

"there was considerable diversity in the style of the reports"

2.

the practice or quality of including or involving people from a range of different social and ethnic backgrounds and of different genders, sexual orientations, etc.

"equality and diversity should be supported for their own sake"

 

I think my post is very much related to your story

No, this topic is about being gay. It's just one aspect of diversity. Otherwise, we would talking about colour of skin, physical or mental disabilities, fashion, and everything. Let's focus instead.

 

This is the gay forum, not the "everything you want to say about diversity" forum.

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2 hours ago, parallelman said:

Why apprehensive? Your bother has made a choice that perhaps you wouldn't have but how many other choices has he made in life that perhaps you wouldn't have. No need to change anything between you and your bother just carry on as usual. If you overreact one way or the other the relationship will change, which I assume you don't want. At times during the year you might meet and if your brother had a girlfriend she would get an invite too (I assume) so do the same in this case.

I agree with what you want to say, but being gay is not a choice you make. You find out at some stage in your life that you are attracted to guys. That's it. You don't decide that.

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4 hours ago, newbee2022 said:

Is this what is called diversity?

In some countries you can change your gender once a year.

🙏

This is totally unrelated and has nothing to do with the topic of this thread, but please do name one of these countries.

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13 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

60 years old is way to old to begin doing things like that , he could easily slip a disc bending over with all that exertion going on , especially if his back muscles arent used to all the strain 

60 years is not too old to fall in love, I can assure you.

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16 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   What does coming out mean then ?

You have a new best friend who is the same gender as yourself ?

No. It means that when you fall in love, you fall in love with a guy. Unexpected fact: Sometimes, you will never have a relationship with that guy, as he does not fancy you. So, dear Nick, no sex. But still gay.

 

Have you ever fallen in love with a girl and not have had a relationship with her? If so, does it mean that you are not straight?

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17 hours ago, G_Money said:

I’ve heard that someone is gay only if they’re a pitcher, not a catcher during oral sex.

 

According to a friend.

 

Then they said someone is gay only if they’re a catcher, not a pitcher during anal sex.

 

Is this true?

No, it isn't. Someone is gay when he loves men the way you love women. It has absolutely nothing to do with what you do or prefer in bed, or whether you do anything in bed at all. 

 

What you said actually is something I have heard from Thai people. This guy always had boyfriends, but he thought he wasn't gay because he was the giver, not the taker. Sorry, but that's not the definition of gay. He loved guys.

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19 hours ago, Ben Zioner said:

Had my brother turned out to be Gay, I would have cut all ties. Yet he was a bit of a panzy but that was bearable. Real men must be tolerant.

This is funny, as you are saying you are not a real man, as you are the textbook example of someone being intolerant. Unlike your brother, you are unbearable.  It appears he is much more of a man than you.

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20 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

 

I wonder who has killed more gay Palestinians, the Palestinians or the Israelis... 🤔

Regardless of the answer to that question, none of the gay Palestinians were killed because they were gay. So, this question is moot.

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20 hours ago, FritsSikkink said:

Very interesting as a lot of talk on this forum is about sex.

Yes, Nick Carter is obsessed with it.

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20 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

  If they are not in a sexual relationship, would they still be gay ?

Yes. Someone is gay when he likes and loves men the same you way apparently like and love women.

 

Will you stop being straight if you don't have a sexual relationship with a woman? How long do you have to have no sex?

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20 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

  Simon did mean that he has no need to publicly state his sexual preferences and the gimp suit reference was just a humorous exaggeration and wasn't equating it with homosexuality .

Glad to hear that you are speaking for Simon.

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21 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   Are you saying that he just loves another man and they aren't in a sexual relationship ?

They are just best mates ?

I did assume that was what coming out meant . 

It needs some clarification as to whether they are in a sexual relationship or they just hang out together and no sex involved . 

No, I am not saying that. You are really obsessed with sex, aren't you?

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7 minutes ago, simon43 said:

Huh? I'm not heterosexual! Whatever my sexual preferences are, there is no reason to shout these details out to everyone.  The only relevant person is my partner (if I have one) or a potential partner.

 

 So zero points for you to assume that I'm announcing all over SM that I'm straight.....

You put being gay into the same category as liking rubber gimp suits. I am only used to such nonsensical arguments from straight people. Sorry about that.

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10 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   This thread is about relationships and relationships often involve sexual activity .

If you weren't having sex with your partner, would they still be in a relationship or would they be just good friends ?

   Isn't having sex the difference between being friends and being in a relationship ?

Not really much point in being in a relationship if you are both celibate . You would be just friends then 

The brother did not discuss sex, he mentioned a love relationship. Sex is a physical activity that people have with or without love.

 

It is telling that you first think of sex when people talk about relationships. I feel sorry for you.

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27 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   If my family all want to meet up and discuss their sex lives and who they are banging , well go ahead, but just don't invite me along to the meeting .

   Imagine if a son announced that he was gay and the Mother said *That's OK, me and your Father often have anal sex, that may be where you get if from*

   Would you really want to know that information ?

If anyone wants to tell me about their sex life , I will have to disappoint them , as I wont be listening to it 

I think this thread is about love, not "banging". I certainly doubt that the OPs brother told his mother what he does in bed with the person he loves. If you think sex and love is the same, I feel even more sad for your and your family.

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44 minutes ago, simon43 said:

As others have said, your sex life should be your private life.  No-one announces to the world that they are straight.  I don't announce to my family and friends that I like rubber gimp suits and dressing up as a French maid whilst being slapped with a smelly kipper.... and then wait for their questions about when I discovered that I liked this fetish etc etc, blah, blah blah!

 

Maybe I'm old school, but sex of any kind is for the bedroom, not something to announce and plaster all over social media.

There is no reason to keep it secret whether you like men or women. If I am invited with a +1, I bring my husband. It's nobody's business to comment on that, and I don't see any reason to hide it. So sorry for you, my husband is as private as your wife. You show everybody that you are heterosexual, don't you?

 

Everybody announces to the world that they are hetero (if they are). Why did you just plaster all over social media that you are hetero, I wonder.

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49 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

I have no interest in other peoples relationships or sex lives.

Just get on doing whatever you want to do and no need to tell me about it .

If you weren't interested, you wouldn't even be in this thread. 

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55 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Where's he living. 

If he's living in the west I don't blame him for going queer. 

 

Buy him a airplane ticket to Thailand, after a few weeks here in Thailand he'll go heterosexual again. 

Care to elaborate?

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5 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

  I would be annoyed , because I have no interest in any of my families sexuality or what they get up to .

    Just keep it too yourself and no need to tell everyone as I am not interested at all .

Do whatever you want , but just keep it to yourself .

I feel sorry for you and your family.