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  1. 5 hours ago, Brewster67 said:

    For a hell of a lot of those people, Thailand IS their home and have been here long term... many are entire families and have nothing to return to in their home countries. Your reply probably accounts for a bit less than half.

    All the more reason Thailand should be offering them a pathway to permanent residence in the same way other, more compassionate countries do.

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  2. 57 minutes ago, jacob29 said:

    I just heard in Vietnam you get a $10 fine the first offence for not wearing a mask in public, second offence up to one year jail. Unsure if this applies at province level, or nation wide.

     

    Wonder how many arrogant westerners will get caught out by this, as it seems some would prefer jail before they submit to wearing a mask.

    All the people I see in Australia who are not following social distancing rules are 'arrogant' Asians wearing masks.

  3. 1 hour ago, ianezy0 said:

    All of the reasons to wear a mask will eventuate once the health services have a steady supply. You, like all other sheep, have believed for so long that a mask has no protection. Wake up and smell the roses. Wear a mask for the following reasons:

    1. To protect yourself.

    2. To protect others.

    3. To be respectful to the culture of the country you choose to live in.

    4. To protect against the air quality.

    5. To wear to protect others if you have a cough or cold.

     

    In the day and weeks to come, you will all realise the importance of wearing a mask. 
    Do not (Should be in bold capitals) listen to your government on issues of your own health.

    Or better still go and live in a more sensible country.

  4. 27 minutes ago, Muzzique said:

    You are in a pickle but it is a rod of your own making. Thai culture is based on respect and for a girl to go with a man especially a Ferang before marriage can seriously damage her reputation in her village community. This is doubly so if you do not marry. Just because she was married before does not mean that she is easy and you should have respected that but despite that she gave herself to you expecting you to be the one. 

     

    Once she became pregnant she expected you marry her. It is not unreasonable for her to ask for this for the sake of her and her families reputation.

     

    As part of this it is expect of you to pay a dowry or Sin Sod. This is not a cash sum for the sake of it. It shows how much you value her and you are paying back her parents for the way they raised her. During the wedding the whole village will be shown the Sin Sod and it shows that she is a woman that you value and you are refunding the investment  her parents made in making her the woman she is. This is a matter of pride for her and without this it indicates you have no respect for her or her family and she is worthless. Her reputation will be destroyed and her family will feel ashamed.

     

    The money asked was too high and you could have negotiated. For a woman on her second marriage and with a previous child a figure of 300-400,000 would have been more reasonable.

     

    When you refused her family would have thought it was just negotiation and perhaps your partner told her parents you would offer 500,000 to ensure they would allow you to marry but was reluctant to tell you.

     

    When you said no to her you totally shamed her, you basically said she was worthless and let her to go back to her family pregnant and without honor. She would think you used her then cast her away like an old shoe. That you had no compassion and she meant nothing to you.

     

    From then on she was motivated by the pain you caused to her. If you would not value her then she would not value you. 

     

    When she tried to reconcile I assume you still did not understand her. She gave you another chance but again I assume you put your foot in it. You had another chance to apologize and perhaps give her honor again but you didn't take it so she went back assuming you had another reason for not marrying her. Another woman perhaps.

     

    She decided to forget you and to find another guy who would respect her and when you got angry she tried to hurt you. Thai women can be very unforgiving and if you hurt them will hurt you back. Then you contacted her new guy it was basically saying I don't want you but you can't have anyone else.

     

    Then you asked to come to the delivery. She was having a child out of wedlock which is a huge shame for her, you had refused to pay her Sin Sod, and you just wanted to come and watch the results of her dishonor delivered. You really rubbed it in.

     

    I am not surprise she didn't want to see you or let you see your child. You totally destroyed her reputation and shamed her and her family. She would want to treat you as a low life and take as much from you as she can to get back at you.

     

    Then when she did offer an olive branch she sees THAT picture which totally confirms her belief that you were going with others behind her back.

     

    Thai woman have a power temper and if you cross them you will get back a whole heap of trouble. Trust me I know.


    You used her, shamed her, cheated on her and left her with a totally destroyed life. You are the one who created this and you are the one being made to suffer for it by her. Instead of offering to provide a home for her and your child you stepped over the fact of what you did and treated her as if she was nothing to you and said it is just for your son.

     

    She is the mother of your child and if you love your son you should take care of both him and his mother as she is the one who he will love and be closest too. Hurt her and you will drive him away from you.

     

    I hope you will now see what you did and what it created. I know this was done out of ignorance and you did not realize the consequences of your actions but this is what you did to her. This is why she treats you like she does.

     

    How you move forwards is up to you. You made this mess and fixing it it up to you. 

     

    The advice you have been given here is relevant, but if for a year you were fine and she wasn't asking for money at this time I feel sure that was not her initial motivation. What you did next made this mess.

     

    If you offer money to give you her son I think you will make the mess even bigger. However I think you should know what you did. It might not fix anything but it will give you a clearer insight into what you did to her.

     

    Maybe too much water has gone under the bridge but perhaps you can talk to her about what you did and how ashamed you are of your actions It might change things.  There is no simple answer to your dilemma I'm afraid.

     

    Seriously?

  5. 1 hour ago, moojar said:

    This week it is just sharks circling, sensing blood in the water - cashed up pr!cks trying to take advantage.  People seem to think the market has already dropped 15% - 20%.

    I sympathise! Good timing is often just a matter of luck.  Hope you sacked the agent?  But being cashed up and being a pr!ck are characteristics that are not related. It is human nature to try and get the best offer.  It is low life to be a pr!ck. They probabaly need a bigger place to store all the toilet paper they're hoarding.

  6. On 3/23/2020 at 9:01 PM, Russell17au said:

    You chose that visa instead of choosing a 90 day Non-Imm O visa and then getting your 1 year extension based on your marriage which would have required you to have 400,000 baht in the bank for 2 months before your extension application and then you could have drawn it all out until 2 months before your next extension application or have a minimum of 40,000 baht per month in a Thai bank account transferred from overseas and you would not have to do border runs every 90 days because you would do 90 day reports instead which many can do online. But by the sounds of things you do not have the money so you chose to get a 1 year Multi-Entry Non-Imm O visa based on your marriage and that does not have any financial requirements at all but you must do a border run every 90 days so it was your choice of visas. The thing that you have not checked on or know about by the sounds of your little rant is that when the 90 day border run is due you can go to your local IO and apply for a 60 day extension to stay with your wife which will cost you 1,900 baht then at the end of that extension you have to do your border run. You have not done your research very well because with the visa that you have you can do a border run 2 days before the visa expires and you will get another 90 day stamp and then 2 days before that stamp expires you apply for a 60 day extension and that will give you 17 months for a 12 month visa.

    When I was in Thailand I DELIBERATELY chose Non Immigrant O because I traveled multiple times every month. I had a sh*t ton of money in the bank when I was refused a renewal of my Non O.


    The World does not revolve around YOU  and YOUR choices.

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  7. 5 hours ago, sanuk711 said:

    Well, I left school at 15 with no qualifications whatsoever and it didn't do me any harm......

    So you don't value education. Some do. Without it we don't have doctors, engineers, chemists, vets, pilots, architects, lawyers, software developers, dentists, teachers...

     

    You can live without all the things they produce and do I assume?

     

    Time for this populist nonsense to end!

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  8. 4 hours ago, geriatrickid said:

    I have read your statement and read it again and again, trying to understand your motive in an effort not call it ignorant and selfish, but I cannot. It is obvious that you do not have much of an education, particularly in respect to basic secondary (high school) biology because if you did, you would understand that diseases do not operate in the manner you assume.

     

    How do you know the virus is everywhere? MERS is a virus and is not everywhere.

    Ebola is a virus and it is not everywhere. They are not everywhere because  governments took draconian measures to contain the infections.

     

    How do you know how many have been infected, when many governments especially Thailand  have failed to test and to determine the extent of the infection. 

     

    The SARS Cov-2 virus is not a flu virus, not even a "hard" one. It is a Severe Acute Respiratory Virus.  You assume that there will only be a few hundred deaths in Thailand. Are you blind? Deaf? In Italy there are 3400 dead. The ONLY reason why the Italian deaths are not higher is because of the  emergency measures taken and because of the access to an advanced medical care system. Italy is a population of 60 million.   Thailand is 70 million. Although Thailand has a smaller population of elderly, their access to quality health care is rudimentary at best. How many ventilators do you think Thailand has available for anyone who isn't a hiso with connections?

     

    Thailand is more likely to have the Italian experience because it failed to close its borders when it had the opportunity. Thailand has been welcoming infected carriers for months when it  could have  contained this  crisis. Had it taken a 30 day pause in January, it would not be looking at  being isolated by much of the world in the coming year.

     

    Yes, many people will die in car crashes and other illnesses. However, Covid 19 means that  thousands more will die before their time adding to that death toll.

     

    We are now seeing some significant  differences in  who is getting ill as the infection progresses. Whether it is because the virus has mutated or is a different strain than that which  first hit Asia, or there are management  differences, the virus is an equal opportunity deliverer of pain and sorrow;

    The US experience is showing some very  different results to China;

    - 50% of all infected patients are  hospitalized.

    - 40% of the infections are in  "young" people, the group that was supposed to be resistant. They too are  ending up in the hospital on ventilators.

    - 1/3 of the hospitalized need to be on ventilators. This is why so many western countries are in panic mode because they do not have the equipment.

     

    You statement is ignorant because you have no idea as to the state of general health in Thailand.  We know that people with underlying health problems are at higher risk. Included in that group are people with immune system related illness, Hypertension, diabetes and heart disease. Are you aware that in Thailand;

    -There are in excess of 2,000,000 diabetics

    -There are in excess of 7,000,000 with hypertension 

    -There are in excess of  7,000,000 with heart disease

    -There are  in excess Diabetes in Thailand is usually estimated to afflict in excess At least -35% of the  adult male population are smokers, that is 18,000,000+

    - 500,000+  have HIV. 

     

    Some of these people have one or more of these chronic conditions. These are the people who are most at risk of infection, in addition to their immediate contacts and health care providers.

     

    The reason I use the term ignorant is because you ignore the millions of Thais who are at risk of serious illness requiring  ventilators if they are to survive. There are not enough respiratory therapists or ventilators to respond to respiratory disease crisis. 

     

    People survived in China because they had access to the necessary health care. It is not available in Thailand. You have decided that millions of Thais have no value. Well, go and tell that to their family and friends. Go tell the mother that her child who is immunosuppressed because of cancer that the child can die.  Go tell the kid his 55 year old father can die  because he has diabetes and   high blood pressure.

     

    Do you get it now?  When people start dying en masse, you can go yell at them for ruining your quality of life.  

     

    What is up with  you people that  see a conspiracy in everything.

    The WHO has not invented this  to ensure world domination. The medical professionals you hear are in your  head, or perhaps they are  telling you something else, more specific to your fantasies.

    I admire you patience in explaining simple facts to uneducated fools who no one have listened to in the past. That is until the internet came along and gave them their day in the sun.  Suspect that day is drawing to a close.

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