To the OP - Can you give "us" a rough idea of location of your husband's work? (on Google Maps?)
I live at The River and love it here.
BUT that is because my wife works a 5 minute walk away at ICONSIAM.
I would always say live as close as possible to your place of work. Travelling 3 hours a day will wear very thin, very quickly.
Traffic can be a nightmare - however, if you husband doesn't mind getting up and leaving early you can easily miss it. (Seems Thais wouldn't dream of arriving an hour before they get paid!)
My wife owns a house near the Airport and it is great out there too! A lot more real. Airport Link is fantastic although it does get very busy.
On Monday (which was a public holiday - it took us 25 minutes in a taxi to get to The River from near the Airport - but on a normal day if you leave at 6.30am about 40 minutes)
I must've looked at 20 condos before we moved here so if you can:
1) Give a rough address of your husbands place of work.
2) The list of condos you were provided.
As others have said you could rent a great house out in the suburbs - I can't see why your company wouldn't pay?
Don't base your whole life about the one or two evening business meals/meetings your husband may have.
P.S. What nationality are you? People have different ideas of what makes an "home".
If I give London as an example - for the same budget would you live in Mayfair or Notting Hill? Totally different experiences.