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  1. 8 hours ago, lannarebirth said:

     

    So, in other words, you've been a pretty lucky son of a bitch so far, either by fate or your own efforts, and you've learned some truths along the way. That's not a bad life at all and well ahead of 95% of the people on this planet. Well done!

    your talking through your arse here, he said he did not know whats going on hes just adrift wandering around with no direction

  2. 1 hour ago, topt said:

    I would have to completely disagree with you there.

    Have a look at the links I provided a few posts ago (#55) and see the many different posters who presumably enjoy wine.......

     

    What do you have against people who like tennis? :unsure:

    people who like tennis want to be seen drinking a fine wine for a match, and would not be caught seen drinking a cheap beer during a match

  3. never got the attraction of wine in thailand

     

    used to have a neighbor in cm who was very into wine. he sat in an aircon bungalow all day and went out in the evenings to expensive places with wine trying to pretend he was in another country. he also liked tennis, go figure

     

    just not a good fit for those into wine culture which usually goes with the wine thing. but since your complaining about duties im not sure this applies to you, there are exceptions and maybe you just like wine, but thats rare

     

    last i heard the neighbor relocated to portugal & paris and loves it there. the door kicked him in the arse on the way out!

  4. On July 27, 2018 at 8:18 PM, Batty said:

     

    So your calling me a cock.  Thanks.

     

    You are analyzing with cliches and sound like an student physiologist and I dont mean to be rude in suggesting that error as many people do the same.  But I must be honest and say Its such a boring, well trodden reasoning to suggest "there is another guy, running from his problems, head buried in sand, scared to go home".  Christ mate its so dull and predictable and its almost always the first port of call when two chaps on a bar stool (or concrete table outside a maa paa shop) are blasting a fellow ex pat.  This guy has issues.  Clearly here to escape something.

     

    Some of us just stumbled here through, I admit, absolute ignorance at worst and lack of planning at best.  I am here after 15 years because... it just happened.  Cant that be a reason?  Must I be a social misfit who didn't fair well back home with people?  Or a fat stinking mess with zero charm, unable to chat up the birds back home and bailed to Thailand heading straight to the go go bars?  Make sure to wai the mamasan on your way in you know, respect local culture.  Then see how many fingers you can get up number 32.  Go on lad.

     

    I had a pretty good life back home, quite eventful and dam good fun.  I had a mobile phone dealership selling contract phones on-line from 2001 through 2003 and in July of that year the business imploded for reasons out of my control.  I walked away with 30 grand, a rented house (no ties) no kids, and a car.  I thought sod it, I am 30, lets do a bit of traveling, spend 20 of the 30 grand I have and then come back and start another business.  I needed a break.  America sounds fun and I had visited a few times as a kid.  And with very little planning I decided on flying to Los Angeles and starting there.  Only I didn't.  During my final customer credit check with Orange on the phone (cell/mobile phone company in UK) I got chatting to the agent about moving to America.  He had just come back from Thailand, and told me about the way of life there, the cheap villas on the beach you can rent.  Fried rice and chicken with a beer for a pound.  Friendly locals. The beautiful women who love westerners.  Amazing islands and adventurous mountain destinations. And all around it, you have these mad countries to explore like Vietnam, Loas, Malaysia, Singapore, Hong Kong. I randomly searched 'house for rent in Thailand' and this amazing 3 bed house popped up, surrounded by coconut trees, 5 minutes from a beach. 300 pounds a month.  I had spent that much the night before on a bender in London, I remember thinking.  300 pounds!  For a villa!  On an island!

     

    I remember sitting on expedia website with two browser windows open, one for a L.A flight and one for flight to Koh Samui, undecided.  Eventually I chose koh Samui, booked a flight, put my furniture, car and electrical stuff in a lock up on a 6 month contract and buggered off to Thailand, telling my pals and family I would see them at the end of the year.  Everyone was surprised I was doing it, but pleased for me.  It was In hindsight looking back, totally random, deciding to travel.  I suspect if I had put more thought into it I would have stayed back home.

     

    They call it chaos theory, dont they?  How a single small event can change the course of humanity?  I ponder that from time to time.  The Orange call center had 500 agents.  If I hadn't spoke to that one particular guy, at that very time, i would have never traveled to Thailand.  I wasn't even sure where it was to be honest.

     

    I had so much fun in koh Samui, 6 months turned into 2 years but I burnt out.  I had spent a lot of time on the beer and partying I needed to move on.  So I went to Bangkok for a year and did even more partying.  How does that make sense?  Burn out in Koh Samui, so move to Bangkok?  I have no idea what I was thinking in that decision. So, even more burnt out after a year living just off Soi 4 and now at 33, I decided to move to kanchanaburi where it is green, lush, laid back, and cute.  A perfect place to slow down a bit.  I stayed there for 5 years and played golf in the day, and set up an on line business that I worked on at night, which did very well.  During no point in this first 8 years did I ever think 'ok, what am I doing?' Is this my life now?'.  Family and friends always pestered me about coming home.  What are you doing out there?  Why are you still there? But I never had an answer.  Its honestly something I never thought about.  I took everything day by day and just figured one day I will go home, when I feel like it.

     

    More years went past and eventually I met a great girl, moved North and got married, brought a house and settled down.  My dad died 3 years ago and during that time I went home 3 or 4 times a year while he was sick and it was at this point that I woke up a little a realized that I had pretty much abandoned my country and suddenly missed it.  I would land at Heathrow and there would always be 2 or 3 friends waiting for me, before we headed off to the pub to meet more friends and have a great night.  I would spend the days visiting my Dad and family and aimlessly driving around the countryside, remembering how nice it is back there, wondering why I abandoned it, and the nights in the pub with mates having a great laugh.  It just suddenly happened over those 2 or 3 years of visiting the UK - I became uber home sick - and every time I returned to Thailand I felt bummed out to be back.

     

    I guess I just stumbled here through blind chance, failed to plan, and woke up 15 years later thinking bugger, I am still here?  I own a house and stuff?

     

    I built an amazing on-line business through my time here and now it is over, I regret squandering the money I made from it.  I could have saved easily enough to buy a bloody huge house back home but I didn't.  I was an idiot. Business class flights everywhere, hotels always had to be Hiltons, Sheratons, Mariots.  Wardrobe after wardrobe of expensive clothes. Bikes, cars.  All the trappings. I had friends in Miami and over a 4 year period I would fly there, business class, three times a year for 3 weeks each visit, blowing money. I look back on all that now and think I guess I wasn't truly happy here and filled a void with crap that I didn't need.  I got jaded with the bar scene years ago, got fed up with golf and for a good few years didn't do very much here: just a quiet life with lavish holidays back home, Miami, Caribbean, and all over S.E.Asia mixed in.  I should have been honest with myself at the time and admitted I wasn't truly happy in Thailand, time to go home.  But for some reason I just figured everything would work itself out and plodded on, with no plan, spending money.  And when you have money, it is easy to use it to fudge over problems.  And for that reason, I wouldn't blame you for calling me a cock.  It was foolish and short sighted and now the business is over and I am making a modest living, I feel stupid.  For a bright guy, I made a dumb mistake of winging it in life with zero plan.  So fair enough - call me a cock for that, because I am.

     

    But I am most definitely not a cock in the way you might imply.  I am not a social misfit, I can easily sit in a bar full of strangers and tell a few stories, get everyone laughing.  I do have some measure of charm, unlike some of the morons you meet sometimes here whose soul level of concern lies with the cost of Chang going up at Dream Girl bar, baked beans in Macro being too saucy, and how Davids wife is cheating on him with a Thai guy.  I just made the mistake of taking everything for granted, failing to plan: and now i miss home, dont realy want to live here anymore, but cant just 'go back' and sofa surf with my wife who I adore, watching her suffer with the same feelings I have now in being home sick for her country and family/friends.  If I had a good few hundred grand in the bank I would buy a house back there and spend the summers there with her.  Or leave her here and get my fix of England for 3 months a year.  Either of those scenarios would be fine for me and I would enjoy the other 9 months in Thailand quite happily.  Maybe one day it will happen, I do have a track record of getting back on top financially when chips are down so maybe I will make something else work and get the money together in a few years.  Or maybe crypto currency will go up ten fold and I can cash in and do it that way.  

     

    But for the time being, here I am.  Just a bloke who didn't plan and stumbled here, for a long time.  Its not a bad life, dont get me wrong - I own a house, a couple of nice cars and bikes, owe no money to anyone and have potential to make a living.  I just feel a bit bored and lost here these days. It suddenly feels arbitrary, my living here.  I feel silly for not predicting this years ago, and stupid for not being wiser with my money. 

     

    Feel free anyone to analyze all this but let me be clear - you can jazz this up however you like but I am telling you now, there is no underlying reason for 'bailing' on the UK.  It just happened.

     

     

    for anyone scrolling on a mobile phone i just wanted to re quote this in case you missed anything. great post!

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  5. 22 hours ago, Hugh Lao said:

    Coming back to Oz is dependent on your income. If money is no problem its great. If you are renting and on a limited budget it becomes harder. The increase in political correctness is getting almost oppressive. It is no longer the free and easy country of my youth. You also need in demand skills if you intend to work. Many middle aged to older workers (over 45) find it increasingly difficult to find work as they age. The over 55s have a very low re-employment record after retrenchment. The horrendous number of migrants is not helping.

    where im from finding a good job over 50 combined with a decent gap in work history from living in pattaya is near impossible unless your applying to be a walmart greeter.

  6. We'll, if they were really trying to get you and went through the trouble, telling you would be the last thing they'd do...

     

    sounds like an an email trying to get you to respond. Emails can be changed once received and they still have the header and ip on them which can be possibly linked to you legally though would take some serious effort. 

     

    Forget responding, block the email address, and if it's a web email service they may have your password on their computer somewhere which were stored, the list goes on...

  7. Sounds like your missing communicating with your wife

     

    Is your wife around? She should tell her son to not bring guests, but you need to speak with her first obviously if it makes you uncomfortable.

     

    if she won't do it your stuck with the visits while your still with her, unless you agree together that you should tell him. In that case tell him and agree on firmer measures if he does not comply.

  8. the thai have a lot of this sort of pent up anger. it is a result of them ignoring problems everywhere they go and never taking negative issue with anything. so it comes out all at once periodically in mob violence or just over the top type anger stuff which looks over done at the time.

     

    you usually cant fix it and it does not seem to get better, esp since there is not good mental health or counseling around for the majority of people. they would also have to admit they had a problem to get help!

     

    if you put up with it you may be able to calm her down, but eventually YOUR going to get real pissed off, lose face and she will likely walk. esp if it happens in public.

  9. 18 hours ago, BritManToo said:

    I scored one ten years older than me. (back when I was 50).

     

    She did really nice Sunday roast dinners for me and her family, we'd sit drinking wine in front of a roaring log fire of a winters evening.

    Sadly I had to end it when she asked why I never held hands or tried to kiss her.

    I still miss those Sunday roasts.

    It's nice to know there are options out there, other then choking my chicken...

  10. I found myself shunning other foreigners after my first year in Thailand and also surrounding countries, esp those who looked like they hailed from my home country.

     

    i'm not sure why. It got worse as time went on. By the fifth year I was actively avoiding eye contact passing on the sidewalk. With locals I was ok even with the language barrier.

     

    In my home country I feel normal and fine with interaction, though I'm no social butterfly And do avoid gossip.

     

    I never really understood why this developed. I think it was some sort of long term culture shock and also trying to avoid the same questions over and over that tourists seem to as like where u from? What u do? Etc etc

     

    anyhows I never got over it and it bugged me for several years until I started doing more trips back to my home country USA between travels

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  11. 5 hours ago, Damrongsak said:

    Years ago at the old Sanam Luang weekend market in BKK, I had that happen. I was just idly looking at some fruit.  A Thai bought some.  The vendor thought I was interested and indicated a substantially higher price in Tinglish.  I remarked in decent Thai that the person a moment ago just paid xxx for the same thing.  And walked away.  555. 

    That works great if you can find an honest vendor. When they all overcharge you are left with being hungry or shopping at the 7-11 where you pay more but save face on not getting cheated.

     

    If this type of thing bothers you your lucky to be in Thailand and not some of the other countries around the area.

  12. Have had some of the worst flat and warm drafts in Thailand that I've ever tasted anywhere.

     

    i do still enjoy a bottled tiger now and again if it's cold.

     

    if you actually wanted those extra ounces you won half the battle.

     

     

  13. 11 hours ago, jenny2017 said:

    ........then you don't need enemies.......

     

     

      My wife was just recently asking a "good friend" and we thought that we'd get 10 K for a month, but it turned out that she takes 5 %. 

     

      I don't really know now who our Thai friends really are. 

    You got to remember that most of these bozos can't even read or do math, so even if you did want a deal it's unlikely you would come up square even if you did pay it back as agreed.

     

    They don't know wft they are doing has to be considered with any kind of deal here no matter what it is.

  14. On June 3, 2018 at 12:25 AM, geriatrickid said:

    I can see why you worked as a kitchen porter.

     

    Now, I certainly appreciate that the sky is the limit and that young people can do anything, but unless you have some job skills that  they need in SE Asia, or lots of money ( e.g. 1 million pounds +) your prospects are limited, very limited.

    Limited to what most people here enjoy...

  15. If your mobility impaired, or not, try ko tarutao, one stop before phi phi on the same ferry.

     

    its a a national park non party island and has a shuttle to bungalows on the far ends. Places mobility challenged would not usually enjoy (don't let the park rangers tell you to stay by the dock, you are allowed to go anywhere on the island and catch the cart to the far bungalows around the shore at the far ends)

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  16. 4 hours ago, Bonobojt said:

    has anyone seen the Nicolas Cage movie Leaving Las Vegas ?

     

    at the moment I feel like doing something like that but replace the alcohol addiction with porn/sex addiction and call it Leaving Pattaya/Bangkok/Phuket not sure which city I'd choose yet.

    I loved the movie, but don't remember the part where he asked permission.

     

    if your into personal validation though Thailand is a great place to be if you want to answer questions about your personal plans from other expats. It's everywhere and inescapable.

  17. 11 hours ago, Bonobojt said:

    well I'd definitely wash dishes if it meant I could live in Thailand but as you should, its illegal, so I'm sure it wouldn't last long, not worth it.. 

    Hi bozo,

     

    they are "really anal" about foreign workers here.

     

    not like Europe where you can cheat and skimp by, no one cares.

     

    here everyone points and comments if your seen working, even mending a fence in your garden. Keep that in mind. If no work permit, Your gonna be stuck with low pay teaching gigs, or youtube video ad type stuff.

     

    but when it's all said and done a man finds a way either way. Some are like mobey dick and go out fighting, others masturbate, or just drink on a bar stool.

     

    But who says they can't all find paradise in their own way, man.

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