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FarangULong

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  1. I don't have an issue with people doing drugs itself, I have an issue with the crime that goes along with it, depending on the drug. Sure, it's not much good to lock people up purely for having the drug on them/taking it (if it's in quantities that are obviously for personal consumption, not for dealing), I agree with that sentiment. But people who are on certain highly addictive drugs, that require them to constantly come up with money to finance their habit, usually turn to either prostitution (that's more women though, but not exclusively) or violent crime in order to finance it. It starts out with petty crime like thieving, then gradually becomes stuff like robbing people and/or breaking into homes and shops etc. And if they're really itching and someone is trying to be a hero or hardman might get himself stabbed or killed, for not wanting to give up the 30 € he has on him and/or his mobile. THAT is where my problem lies. I'm an ex junkie (opiates, and because we have a relatively liberal drug rehabilitation policy that allows easy access to a lot of substitution medicines I ultimately got hooked faster and worse on those than on the cheap, boshed up heroin I was buying from the Africans at the subway train station) but I was a comparitively high functioning one (I committed very little crime, and those I allegedly committed I targetted dealers, not random people) who held down full time jobs for years and was mostly able to hide it from his family. But that's not the case for most. A lot of the people I was "friends" with (more like affiliated co-drug users, in reality, since most people are no longer capable of true friendship when the drug always ends up coming first) or knew are either dead from overdoses, in prison/multiple prison stints behind them, with very few who got clean like myself. And the vast majority turned to one form of crime or another to finance their drug habit. This is not just true for opiates, but also for meth addicts (which is why it's a lie when American leftists claim that Blacks get harsher drug sentences with Crack, since Whites get punished approximately just as hard, except with the laws regarding Meth... just different strokes...) and certain other drugs. You can offer as much help and substitution as you want, if people aren't themselves REALLY ready to quit it won't help. In fact many are on much higher doses than they actually need, so they can sell the extra capsules (ie Substitol, which is an opiate substitue prevalent here, that contains wax balls in a capsule that you can cook up, let it cool down so the wax settles on top, remove that, then filter it into a syringe the same you would with heroin) for extra money, creating even more addicts who're not in any program and who get hooked faster due to higher quality and then commit crime to be able to buy more. I agree that the war on drugs is unlikely to be ever won, but is giving up and liberalizing and decriminalizing hard drugs really an option? I don't care about the marijuana, obviously. Decent people with decent morals can and will turn into real rats (violent and treacherous), who simply don't give a <deleted>. Not to mention the impact on families, the burned bridges, the deaths, et cetera. Yes, decriminalizing, liberalizing and maybe even legalizing brings in additional revenue for the state, and sometimes (but not always) drives organized drug traffickers out of business. But there's a cost attached here as well, and I'm not sure it ultimately adds up to less.
  2. What an idiotic system. Normally (with exceptions, obviously) banks will give you more interest the more money you park there. Because it's more money for them to lend out, et cetera, and thus make money with. Not sure if that's still up to date, but they have to roughly keep 10% (or thereabouts) of deposits, on average, and can lend out the rest + get a multitude of that as a loan from their respective central/national bank, at very low interest. Even in the age of low interest...
  3. And this is one of the main reasons, why I like going to Thailand for holidays, but why I will never consider settling there, investing/buying property there, let alone retire there. Kinda makes me laugh, that allegedly it's "the best country in (South East?) Asia for retirement"... Yeah, maybe in the 80s, perhaps 90s even. Now? With the Baht the way it is now, with the power any immigration officer has over you (sometimes seeming more arbitrary than based on any regulations or laws, from what I've seen in these threads), the way they went about Covid, and many other factors... That's a huge "hell no" from me. But each their own, and good luck to OP...
  4. I have no idea, I don't live in Thailand. It's probably not going to be huge, esp. being that interest is generally low these days, but it's better than nothing. Particularly if the money is just sitting there anyway. Why throw away free money, even if it's not much? When I was working doing deliveries (not food, and quite a while ago), I noticed something.. those living in the run down apartments/lower end apartment blocks were always far more likely to tip me, particularly come Christmas time. They'd be the ones leaving me 10 Euros, sometimes even 20. The ones with the nice houses, that are 500k-750k (Euros, not Dollarettes) a pop at minimum, didn't give me <deleted>. I only ever got money from one of those houses. Don't get me wrong, a) I didn't feel entitled to anything (huge problem nowadays, seen some of these kiddos rage over getting a 20 dollar tip, for ONE delivery, claiming it's not enough...) and b) I don't think it was greed. They simply didn't consider giving me even one Euro, as I was just doing my job, and because they have more appreciation for their money. It's just a euro, or ten or 20. Nothing really. But it's money that can go into an investment (obv. with other money). I learned from that, to appreciate my money more, and to always get max value out of it, when possible. I'm 36, I work less than 25 hours per week and I make more money than the average person in my country.. Which has one of the highest living standards in the World. Cute doggo, btw. I have a Rottweiler girl myself. Best dogs imo.
  5. This is exactly the mindset and "reasoning", why some people will always have more than others. Because change or not, money generated at no risk/not doing anything anyway, is still money, and with inflation also being a factor, the depreciation is less. Most, but not all, wealthy people have far more appreciation for the value of even a single dollar, than those who have less. Not talking about some daddy's boy from Dubai, but in general & esp. people who created their wealth themselves...
  6. I can't speak about Panama, but Colombia has extremely high crime, lots of women willing to set up foreigners (both tourists and expats/people planning to be expats) and killing them even, et cetera. Sure, that probably happens in Thailand too (at least setting them up), but to the same degree? Naw...
  7. I partook in hookers. I assume (apparently wrongly?) that bargirl is merely another euphemism.
  8. All this, and still you question why I say the stuff I say about (most) women? ????sheesh... That being said, my condolences you had to go through that. Good thing you recovered, it's hard but not worth it getting hung up on people who treat you like <deleted>. Good for you.
  9. Neither old, nor skint. Just not willing to pay for a 14 day quarantine. Don't need to go Thailand, if I want to indoors/only go out for a swim, for that long & pay for it on top of that. Although I read that they want to open certain "sandbox" areas without quarantine? I'm not vaccinated though, and probably won't be anytime soon either. I'm NOT an anti-vaxxer (I probably have had more shots than the average person), but I'm not too excited about taking anything, that was emergency approved and where there aren't any mid- to longterm effect studies yet. I might have to, if they introduce more restrictions, but we'll see about that.
  10. A) that's <deleted> up, but it's the norm in our "women are oppressed + male priviledge" system in the West. I'm sorry to hear that. B) Well if that's the case, then that's great. I simply avoided anything long term with women BOTH here (in the West) and while in Thailand, if they mentioned kids, because here they usually are like (when the kid does something wrong, and you discipline it [NOT beating the kid, before 2long or jak etc. put words in my mouth...]) "YoU'rE nOt HiS fAtHeR", yet expect you to play daddy otherwise. Is that a thing in Thailand in general, that they - the women - give you full parenting "rights" as well as wanting you to assume the responsibilities, or is that more of an exception? I still wouldn't do it, just wondering. It'd be just one more thing, where they're less c u next tuesday-y than the average lovely lady here..
  11. Why am I hung up on prostitutes? You specifically talked about bar girls, and my comment was in reply to that. I'm just saying, that imo it's naive to be like "they're not bad people". Of course you're not a bad person, because you sell yourself. And of course not all of them are just out to take your money, while having 3+ other guys send them money at the same time. I think I even stated in an earlier comment, that best chance is probably to find one, that only just entered the business, as they tend to be less messed up in the head, lower chance of being addicted to yaba and such, lower chances of being an alcoholic, etc. Can't remember if it was this thread though, and too lazy to scroll. There's no longer such a thing as getting free sex, technically speaking, at least not in most parts of the World. Except when you're still a teenager and too young to go to ("normal") bars etc. They all (or rather almost all of them) expect at least a drink, but that's hardly the same. Why do people always put words in my mouth on this forum? How is replying to a comment SPECIFICALLY about bar girls "being hung up on prostitutes"? Or are there bar girls that just do the drinks for company thing, and might hook up without paying for it? Because if there are, and that's not a rare exception, then I was wrong, and I "apologize" for making wrong assumptions. I've never been to one of those types of bars while in Thailand, other than to play some pool with mates, watch sports, and have a couple drinks. Just heard, that "bar girl" is just a euphemism for hooker / that the drinks for company bar girls hook up if you pay them/pay the bar fee.
  12. I don't go by emojis, since certain people have nothing better to do, other than to react to some peoples' every single post with sad and laughing emojis. So this is meaningless to me. Just like someone isn't right or wrong, judging by the amount of positive or negative amount of emojis (and/or feedback) they're getting to a comment. Majority consensus is pretty meaningless, even in scientific theories. Even more so on a forum like this. I never said I was the ultimate authority, nor did I ever claim that every single woman is the way I'm describing either. However divorce statistics, along with the main reasons for divorce, many polls on who is cheating on whom/more often, etc., as well as a string of recent articles written by female authors regarding themselves or women they know cheating on their men, and feeling justified in it, seem to agree with my point of view. Not to mention books written by females, thus out of the horse's mouth... Then of course, there's my own personal experience, the experiences of people I know, plenty of threads on this (and other) forums, etc... Not that my own (&such) experience(s) are relevant in terms of empirical data... then so again are the experiences of some in here (this thread & forum), who claim they know women so well, because they have (or think they have) a happy marriage for 3-4+ decades... Women are far less complicated, than men think they are. Still more complicated than us, and far more of a hassle to keep happy. But hey... facts, data, statistics, etc. are all racist, misogynist, sexist, etc., and emotionally charged mimimi, devoid of any logic or reason, is king/queen/(not sure what the 439583409583409853049853049580349580349+ gender correct terms are, but insert them here) these days... Don't put words in my mouth. I didn't "come at you" either, unless asking you not to claim you know what peoples' motives (ulterior or otherwise) equals "coming at you". I didn't call you any ad hominem, did I? When I write a comment, it's devoid of emotion, other than maybe mild irritation at some people and how blind they imo are, except when it comes to politics. I'm not writing a job application either though, so it might also lack in the politeness department. Feel free to be offended, feel attacked, or not. It is naught to me. P.S.: I just saw your other reply. You "attack" me personally, make assumptions about whether I get rejected, am bitter, etc., and then whine about me "coming at" you, because I called your comment "high minded", and suggested not interpreting any (ulterior or otherwise) motives into peoples' comments? Ha. I love irony.
  13. How is that contrary to the stereotype, that they just want a financial care taker? I will never understand this mentality either, why raise some other man's kids (where you will NEVER have full say), when there are plenty of women who don't have kids yet? For me that's already a deal breaker, being a prostitute is yet another. They might not be "bad people", but again. There are women who are not prostitutes, who are not spreading their legs for dung loads of guys, etc. So why would I pick the former? If it's what they want to do, that's fine. That's their life. Same as a guy who would want to be with/marry someone like that. Doesn't mean I have to or should want to either, though.
  14. I agree. Someone else claimed certain things were Thai only culture, when really it's just a general overly spoiled women who never take (or are made to take) responsibility for their actions thing.
  15. That's because the average to attractive ones are busy riding the male chicken carousel in their 20s, and their level of attractiveness goes down hill fast in their 30s + they're getting panicked about needing to find "quality men" (as in the type she ignored or never even acknowledged their existance, when she was in her teens and 20s, that can provide for her all the <deleted> she doesn't need but wants, who's easy to control and manipulate, and easy to distract so her personal trainer or hwatever can smash on the side). Then with the whole lighting and make up tutorials available, wonderbras, tight, revealing clothes and plenty of simps willing to call girls that are barely average even WITH all those tricks "LIEK OMG SHE'S SO HOT" on various social media, to feed her ego non stop, they then feel they're owed more than they're really "worth". Creating highly unreasonable expectations for themselves/their future man... basically the majority of women thinking they're fit to compete for the top 10-1% of men. Stuff like tinder allowing the top % of men to order them up like fast food, and afterwards they're bitter and wonder why he didn't stick around. Quick to spread their legs on there and after the club, etc. yet the "quality men" later are going to be made to wait, because "am I not worth waiting for?". Makes me both sad and angry for/at most guys, at the same time. Not that I'm top 10%. I'm not. But I'm not the average guy either, in certain respects, so I don't have to nor will I ever beg, humiliate myself, etc. for any woman. Even if it sometimes does lead to stretches of no kitty, but whatever. My dignity is more important to me, than trying to scratch my itch. Of course not all of them are like that. But more and more are becoming that way, the ones that already are feel the need to drag down the ones who aren't, because misery loves company (lots of future very angry, lonely cat ladies in the making, as I'm typing this). And because "cool culture" like this almost always spill over from the West to everywhere else, you're seeing the same phenomenom everywhere else, albeit for now to a lesser degree. I guess you were lucky iwth yours, since a lot of Chinese women are quite heartless as well, or rather their heart is a cash register. Or maybe that's just the mainlanders, I can't say I've met Taiwan women before, met a couple Sino Thais though. But their culture is more middle/upper class Thai, and not Chinese, so that doesn't count...
  16. I agree with that part, but the rest is merely a bunch of high minded sounding "stuff". I didn't read every single reply, but I did read most of them, and I didn't see anyone laughing at him, or saying "mean things" for no reason. Some men just need to be told directly, that the situation they're in sounds toxic and definitely not normal, natural, whatever. The guy has been trying for the last 6 years, and finally has had to ask on a forum for help, which is already a pretty low point... wouldn't you agree? At what point is enough enough? I don't think this is salvageable, I think he should've drawn the line years ago, and imo the best he can do is get away from the situation. It even sounds a lot like he wouldn't be happy, even IF the wife wasn't so distant and putting out. I'm not super social myself, but I'd go batcrap crazy, if I spent years with very little social contact outside the wife, kid and occasional phone calls to old friends' back home, who are so removed that they won't take time away from their golf game to give you a little support. The situation as a whole sounds toxic and unhealthy. The whole wife being distant and not being intimate etc. is just the icing on the cake, and the final deal breaker. He should try to salvage what little he can, which is that she gets as little as possible, figure out whether she has cheated or not (just so maybe he will recognize situations that were odd/didn't make sense in the past, but he let them go at the time, and so he can therefore recognize the signs faster next time around), figure out if the kid is his or not (the worst part imo), and then figure out IF he wants to be in the kid's life, especially considering it does seem that while he's physically there, he's not in the kid's life at all. Then again maybe he is, and he just left out that part, but it doesn't sound like it. But hey, if you want to be in a loveless situation like this for years and years, waste some of your best (or not so great anymore, depending on how old/healthy he is, but years are years...) years on a person that doesn't seem to be making any effort in turn either, then good for you. And just maybe don't presume what the motives of people posting in here are, just so you can feel better about yourself and what sort of man you are/because you happen to disagree with them....
  17. Totally unrelated, but that's an extremely cute Rotti on your profile picture.
  18. My banking verification app requires a pin to login to as well, probably for that very reason that if your phone is cloned or someone does the whole sim card replacement. Many other apps don't have a seperate pin for the two step, but they don't show you your own phone number fully either, only the last digits.. so even if you go into your details, they won't be able to get it that way. I think that's another good way of improving security, but nothing you or I can influence though.
  19. yes, this. A shop/dealer will never give you what you can get on the private market, as they need to have resale value for themselves. Since chances are it might not sell right away, and thus it will take up space, that resale value needs to be in the 10-20% range at minimum. If you have any modded parts and still have the original, I suggest putting the originals back on and offering the modded parts seperately for extra cash, as many buyers aren't all that willing to pay extra for that, since whta you like might not necessarily be what they like.
  20. It's just some scammer, trying to trick you. Unless you actually have money booked off of your paypal (and don't ever click emails and links in them, even if the sender says @paypal or @(insert your bank name here), but type in their web address manually into the url bar, to check for yourself if there were deductions etc made, as some of them will spoof the email address and the hyperlink in the email leads to a fake, recreated website that looks like the original... so when you try to log in with your username and pw, it will give you some error message and then they have your login credentials.. which is also why I suggest you add 2 step verification to your online banking and stuff like that. it will send a code to your phone by text or you have to verify by using a specific app of your bank, and such.. that way even if you DO make the mistake of getting phished, they still can't get in, and you got plenty of time to change your password...
  21. As I always put it to the ladies: Personality is important, of course, but it doesn't get my male chicken hard...
  22. There are a few I wouldn't mind pounding a few beers with, followed by pounding a couple bar girls. Then there are others, where I wouldn't want to meet them even if there was money in it, as I have zero intention of ever seeing the Bangkok Hilton from inside. Then there are those, where I can almost smell them through the screen, from what and how they write. ????
  23. Of course it's not always no matter what they say. I thought it was clear, that this statement was in regards to the leading thing (as in the men taking the lead). There are also always outliers and exceptions, but the vast majority say one thing and mean the total opposite. Or, for example (wasn't specified in the original comment, just elaborating further, but initially the statement was only meant in regards to taking the lead, but it DOES apply to other things as well), when they fall for you, and then later on they bitch and moan at how you are, and want you to change. But if you actually do change for them, then you're boring and not the guy she fell in love with (not to mention she won't respect you one bit for making the effort). They don't REALLY want you to change. Sure, you can make some MINIMAL adjustments, as nobody is perfect, but if you give in to every change she demands, it's already over and she'll either end up leaving or cheating or both. Women are a bit like the far/extreme left in that regard. They say one thing, and then they do the opposite. Watch what she does, not what she says, and go by that. Of course I'm not always right either. I've made plenty of mistakes in relationships, and learned a thing or two the hard way. But I learned, which cannot be said for quite a larger & ever increasing number of men... And I'm also fairly sure, that nobody wants a doormat, that has no opinion of her own, and always does as she's told, either... Why is it, that some people always have to interpret things from one extreme to the other? Like in the other thread, where something similar was discussed, one guy immediately started acting as if I and BT had advocated for slapping women around and raping them, if they're your wife and don't put out. When nobody ever said that, but the message was that nobody should accept going sexless for 6+ years in a marriage, and that only a spineless simp would accept that, and only a fellow spineless simp would be like "well ask what's wrong and what she needs you to do, maybe you did this that and the other wrong, maybe she needs bla bla", instead of telling him to wake up and smell the coffee, and that he should've laid down the law years ago, that this isn't acceptable, and then either work it out or leave...
  24. Which nuclear families are those? That's no longer a thing in the West, and hasn't been for quite some time. Whatever is left of it, certain people are working very hard to destroy that as well. It's not just Thais, that don't work to get the fire back. That's people in general, specifically women. Once they're bored, they'll look for fun elsewhere. Men too, though men have had a steady decline in actually BEING men. Instead they turn into servile, weak willed creatures, that only resemble a man at first glance. That's nothing to do with the whole "alpha" thing, nevermind all those "dating coaches" and their books & videos, it just is. In ANY culture (though there might be some outlier...) if you're a man and you do not act like one, women won't respect you, they'll cheat on you, take everything they can from you, and eventually they'll leave you (or if they're particularly nasty and you have a lot of money and assets, they might try and convince you to stay, so they can suck even more out of you first)... So that's not a Thai exclusive thing. The only major differences, is stuff like if you marry one of them, you pretty much marry the entire extended family. And even there you CAN put down the law to a certain extent. It's not your job to finance them and their "business plans". You just have to make things like that clear from the get go, otherwise you're deceiving her and you'll other problems. You CAN help, if you CHOOSE to and WANT to, but not because she demands it / the culture "demands" it.
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