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  1. 60 years ago I had little idea of what the vagina looked like or how it cold be stimulated by mouth and tongue to multiple orgasms. I was in too much of a hurry to satisfy myself.
  2. My girlfriend/wife is 40 years younger. I'm 82 she's 42. We've been together exclusively for the last 10 years. She still takes my breath away. I support her financially as completely as my father supported my mother and five kids in the 1940s and '50s. She devotes herself to the care and education of her son and nephew. She never complains. I'm no Brad Pitt but I'm not fat or bald or infirm. I'm also far more generous and skilled in the bedroom than I was in my twenties and thirties. I think it fair to say we are both much happier than we ever were before.
  3. I appreciate the info in the post even though I'm not a Pattaya denizen. I have had two experiences in Bangkok-Phuket hospital in the last few months and they both were excellent. I couldn't recommend it more strongly. Not cheap, but excellent value.
  4. I'm sure no two cases are the same, but I can tell you a few things I've learned caring for my wife in New York who does have dementia (diagnosed ten years ago and is now immobile). 1. It is enormously preferable to keep the patient at home if possible. In the US, institutions established that during covid. Even at home, 4-5 years ago my wife would sometimes say (she was still talking) she wanted to go home (meaning her bedroom). 2. Continuity of setting and care is also preferable. Two or three constant care givers is better than different ones sent each day. 3. It's very important to have care-givers who can engage patient, not just do the tasks. 4. Don't assume there is nothing going on in her mind. Don't talk baby-talk. She hears everything and processes more than you think, even if she is not talking. 5 Try to keep her exercising however is suitable.
  5. While I don't see any evidence here, I wonder if it might be time to consider the impact of global warming. Certainly the air quality is a continuing problem. But this hot season seems to be setting records, no? 97-102 F highs in BKK last two weeks? My Thai mia noi who wants a sweater at 75 F is running the AC all day, complaining it's Hot, Hot, Hot, and willing to come to New York.
  6. Dementia does not decrease or eliminate the need for creature comforts. It might create a level of anxiety that makes basic comforts more important. We do not know the inner life of a dementia sufferer, but we shouldn't assume it is pleasant oblivion.
  7. They each consider me their husband. My American wife since 1980 may not always remember my name but she seems to enjoy our regular WQXR Midday Mozart air-conducting and dancing from the wheelchair and our Netflix viewing at night. My Thai "wife" since 2014 knows she is next in line but expects correctly that someday she will be first. There was no official ceremony. Shortly after we met she had me buy a ring and she put it on the 4th finger of her left hand. I told her: In America that means we're married. She said: Same in Thailand. I ordered Champagne and we toasted. (I suppose I even gave the family a sin sod in a house.)
  8. Retirement is treating me far better than I thought it would. I enjoyed college teaching for over 50 years. Only gave it up during covid, at the age of 81, afraid that if I contracted the disease and passed it on to my bedridden wife, I'd never forgive myself. I am enormously thankful for the free time. I come to Thailand 4 times a year (3 weeks each) now instead of 2 (2 weeks each) and am not limited to vacation periods. I am not bored since I spend my time with my 42 year old Thai "wife." I stopped writing history and am enjoying trying my hand at historical fiction. I keep my rental in Manhattan for an imagined future of half a year here and half a year there. While my wife is alive (with late stage Alzheimer's) I am blessed with a superb care-giver for her. The future is mixed, but in many ways I've felt younger.
  9. Just her or your other wife too? Just her. First wife divorced 50 years ago. Current wife bed-ridden with late stage Alzheimer's. Just mia noi.
  10. Spent over 50 years tied down by work schedules of me and two wives. Now I pay the salary that makes her available anytime I like.
  11. Fascinating table. But I assume this covers men as well as women and is not broken down by gender, marital status, or age. Any idea what is adjusted?
  12. Americans (US passports) require prior permission from VN to get a visa on arrival. I didn't know that when I tried to fly from Phuket to Danang last month. I was denied boarding in Phuket. My Thai GF was fine. Thais and most others can get visa on arrival. Of course, it cancelled the vacation. We'll try again next month. I got approval from the embassy through an email through Vietnam electronic travel authorization online (about $80).
  13. Casablanca The Godfather The Godfather 2
  14. I tell myself and friends that I signed up for the 140 year plan, not because I'm a good prognosticator, but because I believe optimism keeps me going. But I finally retired last year and now at 82, I and my 41 yr old TGF are now exploring retirement locations.
  15. At this moment the AQI at Bangkok and Phuket is 57. At New York City it is 27. The noise on my balcony at Kata Noi is the sound of the waves. The noise at my 5th floor window in NYC is from the birds.
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