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  1. Good post. Thank you. We know a racist not because a person has prejudiced thoughts towards others, but because instead of working to overcome such thoughts, they luxuriate in them; instead of seeking to understand from where their thoughts derive, they seek to export their destructive thinking to others; instead of keeping their thoughts mere thoughts, they act upon them: they create policy based upon prejudice. they inflict upon others for self gain, they institutionalize racism. I never called you a homophobe. All I ask is that people be aware of the pervasiveness of homophobia in thinking and in speech and in how they approach a topic, particularly in a gay form. That we're allowed our humanity too. Now I understand what you say about shying away from talking openly about sexuality regardless of orientation, But what is the alternative were that absolute? Closets and hiding and whispers and dark places where prejudices fester. Certainly few need know all the details, certainly some situations are more appropriate than others. But what the OP said is not out of line given this gay forum and given his situation. He's not simply referencing for no reason domination and arousal though certainly he's free to express how much he enjoys his partner and why. There was nothing unstandard in the gay world, for a gay forum, about what he said. But even for the str8 observer, here's what he's actually said... He described how the domination aspect -- though naturally exciting and joyful for him and his partner (how nice for them that they found each other) -- is causing some conflict in his head with regard to meeting the parents because, he said (if I remember the op correctly), he wants them to think he's man enough for their son and he's expressing a correlation between "man enough" & "domination". Also he notes that he's not the most masculine of guys which he's also expressed conflict as to whether or not that reflects upon being man enough. So he made a perfectly reasonable query, offering adequate detail with which to get an appropriate response.
  2. When it gets too graphic about what might not be my fetish (and sometimes even then) I might avert my eyes to it; otherwise I'm okay with str8s expressing their sexuality. I'm not okay with their hypocrisy that they think they either get to express themselves but think we shouldn't, or that they'd not "correct" their hetero brethren who do it while they think they get to "teach" us "manners". They can take their manners, wad it up with their hypocrisy and shove it where the sun don't shine, which, in case anyone is worried, is not me being sexually expressive. 100% correct + = While NCC likely was not being purposely homophobic (as generally he strikes me as being a thoughtful, often funny guy) "hung up on" vs "over that hurdle" highlights the difference between acceptance of reality and the homophobia of hetero hegemony that permeates so much thinking. Hung up on--be it applicable in this case or not--seems to place the burden more squarely on the parents & their perceptions. It speaks to what might be their hang ups regardless of whether or not justified. But over that hurdle, while also speaking to the parents' perceptions, like gay marriage in misplace of marriage equality requires thinking that being gay is an other hurdle to get over which does not place squarely but rounds out the results which inadvertently at best or conveniently includes blaming a quality of a gay child for a parent having to have something to get over, you know, like a parent has to get over their child being hetero. We're not asking for much, just some long overdue parenting equality to go along with our new found marriage equality.
  3. Only heterosexuals are allowed to express their sexuality on ThaiVisa. For random example... Gay people get admonished for being sexual beings expressing their sexuality while heteros get, what, smiley faces for expressing theirs" Sounds suspiciously like homophobia to me We've seen str8 folk flaunt their sexuality for years
  4. I'm still a little confused as to your relationship. Is he a power bottom & you're an effeminate top? But seriously, If you want to blend in on TV, as held evident by some comments to your post, you should never openly speak explicitly about sexuality in these heterosexual forums. Someone might out you as a time traveler visiting this Victorian era. For more info, you'll find a whole host of topics on Tardis visiting Thaim travelers in the visa forums. Enjoy
  5. Such research might seem a bit niche so not sure you'll find it easily. Perhaps try an expat org, mag or dotcom that's done such surveys. Retiring well means something different to each person. Some shop malls to try and make themselves happy; others get no thrill from champagne. Income or "wealth" is relative to what you spend and to what stuff costs. $1,500 a month might buy a comfortable middle class carefully lived life in Chiang Mai or Rai, or a lower income life in Pattaya maybe risking minimal or no health insurance to pay higher rents or it might only pay for one month's health insurance premium Stateside. Alternatively, you might feel rich in Bangkok but poor in Monaco. Differing costs of living means a person of lesser means in one location might be a person of adequate or even of considerable means in another. Generally true but also dependent on a person's comfort level and you simply never know with absolute certainty what might be tomorrow. Some are more comfortable in cash even if it just sits there being eaten by inflation. I rationalize the 800k baht, for instance, as a hedge against whatever remote possibility of a home country hyperinflation event which might last a year so it makes sense to me to put aside a year's living expenses in the currency of a country of residency. As to what's liquid, also somewhat relative. Stocks/bonds considered liquid unless you just had a big drop that might make you want to hold for it to come back first. Alternatively, a house can be suddenly somewhat liquid if you bring your price low enough. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_wealth_per_adult This is a list of countries of the world by wealth per adult, published annually in Credit Suisse's Global Wealth Databook. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Credit_Suisse Credit Suisse Group AG is a Swiss multinational investment bank and financial services company founded and based in Switzerland. Headquartered in Zürich, it maintains offices in all major financial centers around the world and is one of the eight global "Bulge Bracket" banks providing services in investment banking, private banking, asset management, and shared services.
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