Ladies in Thailand.

[amvet]

Rich guys find out early.  Women are women.  Nationality makes no difference. Can't hide old money.  Ladies can smell it.

Edited September 16, 2017 by amvet

[Ridge]

4 hours ago, Tony125 said:

Many never had any social skills to leave behind which is why they came to Thailand, unable to get a girl in their own country but if they have some money can probably get one here.

Please delete "probably"

[MyFriend You]

2 hours ago, grollies said:

Yeah, like the obese English women chasing black guys in Gabon.

The Gambia is full of them, all with a young buck on their arm, come down for two weeks, go home to Hubby with a smile on their face, then the Hubby goes to Thailand - vicious circle.  BTW The Gambia is a nice West African country to vacation in, and definately affordable.

[Roger Harris]

Your wasting your time here mate, all they want is to screw you for as much as they can get. don't bring money here, don't fall in love, don't buy anything apart from food and living. There Scroungers

[1FinickyOne]

plenty of nice girls in the countryside looking for a nice guy... your post sounds a bit contradictory as to what you might be looking for... it helps if you can speak Thai but not a necessity... patience and cultural awareness goes a long way too... 

[jeab1980]

13 minutes ago, Roger Harris said:

Your wasting your time here mate, all they want is to screw you for as much as they can get. don't bring money here, don't fall in love, don't buy anything apart from food and living. There Scroungers

So why are you here then?

[BKK1969]

Well you daid it yourself andwered your own question. Im not an exeption to the rule there are many more like me than there are like you.

Jeab1980 has a point, my friend married a bar girl 28 years ago and it worked out well but that's rare and she wanted to get out of the scene and never go back. That old saying about " taking the girl out of Patpong is easy but taking Patpong out of the girl ain't" is usually the norm. Things get tough and she goes back on the tools.
These days they farang guys marry Thai girls their own age and use dating sites, that works better and overall educated Thai ladies make very good wives.




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[connda]

Start frequenting your local Buddhist Wat.  You'll find lots of them at your upper age range.  

Edited September 16, 2017 by connda

[smotherb]

8 hours ago, cms22 said:

Wiser, mature? You're having a laugh... I've dated Thai girls aged from 17 to 40. All immature and jealous and stupid and silly and completely unlike farang women. That's why I love em!!!

You must be looking in the wrong places. I know many older Thai women; women with good jobs or businesses and they are not immature, stupid, or silly-- jealous may be a different issue, they may have reasons to mistrust or be suspicious of farangs. Go where normal established women go, join the local Rotary or Lions Clubs. Try local retail shops; they have to talk to you. I've met several doctors, pharmacists, nurses and optometrists--I live near a private hospital and frequent their coffee shop. I have an absolutely lovely Thai lady friend who owns an up-scale restaurant; too bad she is almost as old as I. I know a university professor in her mid-30's, quite attractive, fluent in English, widely traveled and single--too bad I am married. You need to stay out of the bars if you want a better choice of women; stay well-kept, sober and talk to them. The bars, I believe, stifle the women who work there and turn them into less than desirable relationship mates. Now, that doesn't mean you cannot find a decent woman in a bar, but it's almost as difficult as trying to pick a winning lottery number--the odds are stacked against you. However, the average bar steward here seems to go for the easy sure thing who has that negotiable virtue.

[Rc2702]

2 hours ago, Roger Harris said:

Your wasting your time here mate, all they want is to screw you for as much as they can get. don't bring money here, don't fall in love, don't buy anything apart from food and living. There Scroungers

Rodger must have been well and truly Rodgered. 

[smotherb]

8 hours ago, jeab1980 said:

Funny im married to a Thai lady and have never heard those stories or been asked for money or been hinted at for money.

But hey dont let the truth get in the way of a good story.

Yours sounds like a great relationship, congratulations. Nonetheless, it's not just a good story; it happens all too often. The problem is most farangs only meet prostitutes--just read some of the tales of woe here on TV where the man is cuckolded and treated as a long-term customer rather than a husband. However, even bar girls can change and want out of the game. I know several western men with wives who were bar girls, and they are happy together. Unfortunately, I know many more who are sorry they ever married their easy catch, bought them houses and cars, and supported their parents, children, and "brothers."

[bill59]

All the guys i know married or living with a thai have come to the same conclusions as me, so maybe not quite the exeption as you seem to think  or as this forum would have us belive. By the majority i presume you mean TV forum members? As i said dont let the facts get in the way of a good story..
Why do i need to be congratulated for dispelling a myth and telling the truth by the way.

I agree. Been married 7 years and know many happily married Thai-American couples through our temple here in the US. The women did not come from bars and most have good jobs. The guys don't make a big deal of it by regularly posting on expat sites like this. Too busy living a good life, working and raising their kids. We do joke about the sexpats though that spend every night of their lives sitting on a bar stool on Soi Cowboy or Nana talking up a prostitute thinking he's found his dream girl. That's just sad. Same crowd here that spends their time in strip clubs looking for Mrs. Right! And just like here, it's not the norm, and Thai society has the same view of these guys as we do here. They're pathetic!


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[elgenon]

Take classes that women would tend to take. Hopefully they are classes you enjoy. You will meet women and have something in common. Maybe a woman will know a women for you.

 

Then it's not just approaching a woman cold.

[elgenon]

On 9/15/2017 at 4:13 PM, Bang Bang said:

I read this and thought Sheryl's mistyped but, dang, there's a teerak forum I never knew about.

Where did you find the Gneerak or teerak forum? I couldn't find it.

[Aussieroaming]

18 hours ago, jeab1980 said:

Funny im married to a Thai lady and have never heard those stories or been asked for money or been hinted at for money.

But hey dont let the truth get in the way of a good story.

Normally its me hinting to my wife that i need money honey

[Henryford]

Dating sites try Badoo and Thai Friendly, plenty on there

[Roger Harris]

Heard it all, The sick uncle or aunty, grandad needs his teeth out, kids need new school outfits, and of course the very sick buffalo that can not pull the hoe accross the fields anymore. Work on the fack Pattaya girls are hookers looking for a good time and getting paid for it. Very few good ladies here.

[jeab1980]

40 minutes ago, Roger Harris said:

Heard it all, The sick uncle or aunty, grandad needs his teeth out, kids need new school outfits, and of course the very sick buffalo that can not pull the hoe accross the fields anymore. Work on the fack Pattaya girls are hookers looking for a good time and getting paid for it. Very few good ladies here.

Lol very few good farang either. Im sure the decent girls in Pattaya of which there are many think your a buffalo.

[roger waters]

I'm 65 and live 10 years in Thailand and I think it's not hard to find a serious woman, just do not attend bars and massages that are not serious and you can find a woman anywhere, supermarket on the street, at the park, just smile and be kind to them and see what happens
I've been doing so and now I live for 8 years with a former Bangkok hospital nurse she is very young and also cute and affectionate, she has left her job to live with me and I am not a wealthy man and she never has me asked for money .... maybe I got lucky? in Thailand the majority of women are serious, just look and find the right one .. avoid Bar with Lady or similar places

[murraynz]

i liked this question also---similar problem for me---there is no need for any sarcastic replies from the loosers on this forum---

not all bar girls are bad--but -its nice to meet somebody who actually works at something more reputable....the problem  i then find is---they usually work long hours,have no time for social contact,or are very tired...thats doesnt suit me..

the ladies on thai cupid,usually too far away,no english and limited ability to come to pattaya...

i will try bamboo bar or billabongs---35-45 age group appeals to me.

i met a very nice lady at walking st go go---she was only new there--others told me the bar fine alone was 3000 bht...how ridiculous is that..

sometimes it suits,just to pay a bar fine then tip the lady-have some fun and say goodbye in the morning---i dont get bored with them that way and no committments...but for for me--it would be nice to find an honest,active lady to travel  and do interesting things with....

 

[bbbbooboo]

Hmmmm......... mature woman and Thai = oxymoron ?

[Kadilo]

i liked this question also---similar problem for me---there is no need for any sarcastic replies from the loosers on this forum---
not all bar girls are bad--but -its nice to meet somebody who actually works at something more reputable....the problem  i then find is---they usually work long hours,have no time for social contact,or are very tired...thats doesnt suit me..
the ladies on thai cupid,usually too far away,no english and limited ability to come to pattaya...
i will try bamboo bar or billabongs---35-45 age group appeals to me.
i met a very nice lady at walking st go go---she was only new there--others told me the bar fine alone was 3000 bht...how ridiculous is that..
sometimes it suits,just to pay a bar fine then tip the lady-have some fun and say goodbye in the morning---i dont get bored with them that way and no committments...but for for me--it would be nice to find an honest,active lady to travel  and do interesting things with....
 

I was on Billabongs Friday night. Good vibe and plenty of older ladies as well as live music. Good luck.


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[oldies1]

23 hours ago, atyclb said:

 

 

you have quite a "finesse with words"

you don't have to "brown nose" the man ! :)

Edited September 17, 2017 by oldies1

[Thongkorn]

19 hours ago, jeab1980 said:

So why are you here then?

 Probably a sex tourist, From a String of broken Marriages, all their fault of course, Who would not dare do most of the things that go on here, in their own country,

[chrissables]

On 9/13/2017 at 10:52 AM, mikesensei said:

Thanks for reply. I understand the problem. I'm just a bit fed up with short timers,escorts and massage parlours. I did have a great 3 day GFE last week and would love to repeat it sometime.

BTW are you a fan of Sir Richard Burton?

 

Mike

The issue is maturity (of the mind) with the ladies here does not come with age. In fact with a lot of expats here too!

 

There are many dating sites, many working girls on them too. But also normal ladies looking for more than money and sex.

[jeab1980]

30 minutes ago, chrissables said:

The issue is maturity (of the mind) with the ladies here does not come with age. In fact with a lot of expats here too!

 

There are many dating sites, many working girls on them too. But also normal ladies looking for more than money and sex.

Not having a dig at you by the way but you use the word  "normal"

We need to get this word "normal " sorted out.

Are you saying a girl working in a bar is somehow not "normal"? But a girl working in a restaurant is "normal".

What exactly is "normal".

To me it means being sane, rational, in charge of your thoughts and deeds.

So to me a girl / woman working in a bar is as normal as a girl/woman working behind a check out in Tesco.

Now if you said a bar worker is more libale to end up in bed with a customer then yes nature of the job ifs that what they want of course.

Now  what would you  call a  50 + yr old man  who regularly takes a 20 yr old girl to bed a  "normal" in the West i doubt it. Would you call him the same here in Thailand!

 please tell us your take on "normal".

Edited September 17, 2017 by jeab1980

[mrfaroukh]

On 9/13/2017 at 11:29 PM, Ruffian Dick said:

I'm told I have a resemblance.

 

Believe it or not, there are women who are interested in the sort of relationship you're after. You just have to figure out where they go when they are trying to find you.

Believe me you can't find serious girls in bars and disco. Try universities, schools, hospitals, banks etc. The age you looking for is a advisable if you want long time relation.

[scorecard]

On 9/16/2017 at 2:14 PM, atyclb said:

get a hotel room in kuta beach, bali. hang out at local restaurants and shopping areas in the daytime. easy to meet japanese women and also taiwan women. imo quality way above the average thai woman you meet unless in professional circles. and (make sure you are sitting) they dont need your money nor ask for it or hint for it or tell you stories about sick family members.

 

thai dating sites imo are largely women looking for serious aka financial support

 

Our Thai female neighbor married her 4th farang 12 months ago, the other 3 all passed on and not that old. She's 65 yo, in-shape, always well groomed, looks 40.

 

She owns / lives in a very large close to new house with several staff (who she treats like shxx) and drives a BM and a Benz. She owns several large and upper priced condos and apartment buildings for rent in several provinces.

 

She speaks and reads English at an advanced level. She has mentioned many times that she spends hours scanning dating websites for Thai women looking for farang husbands.

 

Her latest catch hails from Germany and owns a large and very successful engineering research consultancy. The hubby comes for a week about every 2 to 3 months. The Benz in her carport appeared just after they married. 

Edited September 17, 2017 by scorecard

[roo860]

Believe me you can't find serious girls in bars and disco. Try universities, schools, hospitals, banks etc. The age you looking for is a advisable if you want long time relation.

Schools????? I take it you mean the teachers and not the teenage pupils.

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[FritsSikkink]

3 hours ago, jeab1980 said:

Not having a dig at you by the way but you use the word  "normal"

We need to get this word "normal " sorted out.

Are you saying a girl working in a bar is somehow not "normal"? But a girl working in a restaurant is "normal".

What exactly is "normal".

To me it means being sane, rational, in charge of your thoughts and deeds.

So to me a girl / woman working in a bar is as normal as a girl/woman working behind a check out in Tesco.

Now if you said a bar worker is more libale to end up in bed with a customer then yes nature of the job ifs that what they want of course.

Now  what would you  call a  50 + yr old man  who regularly takes a 20 yr old girl to bed a  "normal" in the West i doubt it. Would you call him the same here in Thailand!

 please tell us your take on "normal".

I think he wanted to say non-hookers