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alcoholics - anyone else having problems trying to get semi sober

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How strange.

 

I drink a lot but only beer and wine cooler (Spy).

 

But the last couple of months I have cut down a lot.

 

Why and how?

 

It sends me to sleep! Never used to.

 

Two or three small bottles of beer or Spy and I have to lie down for two hours. And the sleep is blissful.

 

I wake up and carry on with what I was doing.

 

Like several posters have said "everybody is different".

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The best things of not drinking include that I have no need to check the car when I get home eg blood on the bonnet; no DUI ever.

 

I admit that when I was drinking I was lucky but luck runs out.

 

In fact, I was looking forward to being pulled up by the police. It did happen and I told him that I was returning home after attending a meeting of AA.

 

BTW, I know police who are in the program.

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Being an achoholic is no longer a massive stigma as it once was. People from every walk of life become for one reason or another get seduced into thinking alchol is the medicine they need to get through whatever demon's are in there head. Mine was images of good mates no longer with us. We all have coping mechanisms. Sometimes they go Awol and the need to find another is all consuming. Mine was OVD (dark rum). I wentninto a very dark place for a couple of years (wont bore you with the details). The love of my then wife and children along with a bloody good GP and AA meetings slowly but surley draged me back to the light.

I was a 24hr drinker drink sleep for a couple of hours drink again. Been sober for nigh on 20 years now, nearly  had one slip up along the way when my wife died of Cancer. But for her i would been long dead now. So i poured a glass of OVD out. It was still there two weeks later when i moved away from our house. Op be strong in the end if you want it bad enough theres lots of help out there. 

Im still a recovering Alchoholic and always will be.

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My previous wife was the catalyst for me becoming a member of AA (I had never heard of it). I am deeply grateful to her.

My current wife has never seen me drink thankfully.

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,For an alcoholic there is just one way out: stop drinking alcohol!!

I tried to " cut down" for 25 years after 25 years heavy drinking. I always came back to the same.

10-15 beer a day for 2-3 weeks; sober some weeks, then the same again.

3 years I stopped totally. The first months were hard, with bad sleep, nightmares, then I felt better and better.

Now I enjoy life more than ever.

Unfortunately I have away 50 years to something as bad as alcohol.

My advice to anyone who has an alcohol issue; STOP DRINKING!!!

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To the OP, you need professional help, not just friendly advice,  as has been said, everyone is different. In my case I finally became aware my drinking was a problem was when a Federal guard at a fed building I was entering at 8 in the morning reached over and smelled my breath saying ugh drinking in the morning (but it was from the night before), and she said you need help. for me things came to a head when I was seeing images of a woman in the corner of my room and I could no longer function... Scary. I was in the UK at the time and went to see a Physician there who happened to be a retired military doctor, he took one look at me and gave me a form to fill in, to which he announced I was suffering from PTSD... For thirty odd years I'd drunk excessively (functioning drunk) and finally here was the reason, I was trying to forget my military past which was violent, but I had to face it. I spent six months in counselling with other vets, and came out of that able to function normally without a drink. Now I have one beer when appropriate.  I am alcoholic but I appear to need more than one to go into a relapse. Good luck my friend... Just maybe your bad dreams are things you're trying to forget and you're using alcohol to do that.

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I don't agree with the concept of some inheritent flaw in someone's make-up that makes you an alcoholic. My take is that it can happen to anyone if they just kept drinking long enough and/or went through some tough times. There always is some underlying problem which you need to look at. Once you sorted this out, your desire to drink will eventually subside. 

 

Cutting down doesn't work, but after you faced your demons you won't even want to feel the constant need for a buzz. Just my opinion.

 

And for the record: Let OP take his sleeping pills for the first few weeks if he has to. It is virtually impossible to get dependant on stuff like Benadryl but proper sleep will boost morale immensely.

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10 minutes ago, wump said:

I don't agree with the concept of some inheritent flaw in someone's make-up that makes you an alcoholic. My take is that it can happen to anyone if they just kept drinking long enough and/or went through some tough times. There always is some underlying problem which you need to look at. Once you sorted this out, your desire to drink will eventually subside. 

Absolutely agree. My way of expressing that concept is everyone is born with a credit card for alcoholic drinks, some fortunate people get unlimited credit, for some it's zero drinks and yet others maybe 5000, 100,000 etc.but eventually if you drink and don't have unlimited credit on that card you'll become alcoholic. Guaranteed, and no use complaining. The OP is to be commended for looking for help, as they say, that is the first step.

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2 minutes ago, PeCeDe said:

some fortunate people get unlimited credit, for some it's zero drinks and yet others maybe 5000, 100,000 etc.

But I think you just described some inherent flaw there... as if alcoholism was completely in your physical make-up and not just a co-factor. I'm pretty sure your "unlimited" person will also become an alcoholic if he suffers from some trauma and starts drinking a liter of vodka a day.

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  You  are on the  mend , takes  time .

    No turning  back ,  walk one hour a day in the early evening .

    Goodnight  10 pm .

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21 minutes ago, wump said:

But I think you just described some inherent flaw there... as if alcoholism was completely in your physical make-up and not just a co-factor. I'm pretty sure your "unlimited" person will also become an alcoholic if he suffers from some trauma and starts drinking a liter of vodka a day.

Agreed. But, there's nothing wrong in having an inherent flaw, type 1 diabetics can't help their health, it came from their parents and parents parents, familial tendencies to cancer also, the same is true of alcoholism, the list is long. But as you say, often what kicks people who have this tendency to alcoholism from regular non-problematic drinkers into practising alcoholics is life's events and continually resorting to alcohol to hide those events or memories whatever they may be, then at some point according to our individual makeup compulsion takes over, and we know the rest.  Alternately there are those to whom no "life changing" events happened but they just became alcoholics because they drank themselves over their limit.  For example, their are presumably lot's of Mormon alcoholics (perhaps 1 in 10) who don't know it because they don't drink and therefore never reached that limit.

 

Hope this makes sense.

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1 hour ago, wump said:

I don't agree with the concept of some inheritent flaw in someone's make-up that makes you an alcoholic. My take is that it can happen to anyone if they just kept drinking long enough and/or went through some tough times. There always is some underlying problem which you need to look at. Once you sorted this out, your desire to drink will eventually subside. 

 

Cutting down doesn't work, but after you faced your demons you won't even want to feel the constant need for a buzz. Just my opinion.

 

And for the record: Let OP take his sleeping pills for the first few weeks if he has to. It is virtually impossible to get dependant on stuff like Benadryl but proper sleep will boost morale immensely.

 

 

true. although some may use alcohol as an escape or coping mechanism, others simply get physiologically addicted though the common denominator is the net result of addiction will destroy all of them equally. aka .  all roads lead to rome.

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5 hours ago, nasanews said:

I would recommend Xanax to help quit alcohol and treat insomnia, you can get it from nearest clinic.

 

 

u must be careful with xanax because it is famous for being addictive and benzo withdrawal can be very dangerous as alcohol withdrawl.  should be medically supervised if taking xanax, which by the way can work quite well for smoothing alcohol withdrawal symptoms.

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Well I quit drinking for about five years once, started again with a beer or two during evenings, Liquor was never a problem for me, cause I didn't drink it very often, just beer.  so here I am still with my two (maybe three) beer limit 15 years later.  It's a matter of choice, and I will take Bad Dreams over Scirosis of the Liver  any day.

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4 minutes ago, atyclb said:

 

 

u must be careful with xanax because it is famous for being addictive and benzo withdrawal can be very dangerous as alcohol withdrawl.  should be medically supervised if taking xanax, which by the way can work quite well for smoothing alcohol withdrawal symptoms.

It has also been attributed to suicidal tendencies in some people, they get a strong feeling of remorse while taking it.  I wouldn't take it once on anyone's orders, doctors or otherwise.

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