observer90210 Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 Cases of male pedophiles regularly flood the media with their lot of sickening issues. But what about the female pedophiles who abuse underaged boys ,[or girls] ? Does Society act with clemency and be more lenient when the pedophile is a female ? If so, why ? What is your opinion on the issue ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rc2702 Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 1 step at a time a bigger issue is amongst us with male paedos so castrate/kill a few first then next step, maybe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gruff Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 (edited) It is a good point OP and interesting that nobody really wants to talk about it. In some ways i am reluctant to express my views as well ! But slowly, slowly the issue will come to the fore. Only recently is it coming to light that just as many men suffer from domestic violence as women but there is nowhere for the guys to go for help. Edited November 9, 2017 by Gruff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 (edited) Underage isn't always pedophilia. Consult a dictionary. Females having sex with underage people is much less common than male perps. Nobody is surprised. Yes there is often a double standard on how societies view these situations. Nobody is surprised by that either. Edited November 9, 2017 by Jingthing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanLaew Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 Why is this even debatable? An adult female sexually abusing a juvenile of any gender can't really be anything else but pedophilia can it? Just because it is relatively unknown or people are uncomfortable talking about it shouldn't be an excuse for not addressing it with the same vigor when it arises. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gruff Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 45 minutes ago, Jingthing said: Females having sex with underage people is much less common than male perps. They used to say the same about females and domestic violence as well, until 'enlightenment' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 (edited) 8 minutes ago, NanLaew said: Why is this even debatable? An adult female sexually abusing a juvenile of any gender can't really be anything else but pedophilia can it? Just because it is relatively unknown or people are uncomfortable talking about it shouldn't be an excuse for not addressing it with the same vigor when it arises. Look up the definition of pedophilia and get back to us. Having sex with a 17 year old when the legal age is 18 is not pedophilia. I think in such cases it's often assumed the male was willing and can benefit from the experience, when it's done by a woman. Enforcement just isn't as aggressive in most countries. When there is a power relationship like a teacher - student, it probably raises more eyebrows. Edited November 9, 2017 by Jingthing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 9 minutes ago, Gruff said: They used to say the same about females and domestic violence as well, until 'enlightenment' Perhaps. But again, there is a double standard in social consciousness even when the laws may treat the situations equally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruffian Dick Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 OP, do you have a specific instance in mind or are you just indulging your imagination? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanLaew Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 (edited) 1 hour ago, Jingthing said: Look up the definition of pedophilia and get back to us. Having sex with a 17 year old when the legal age is 18 is not pedophilia. I think in such cases it's often assumed the male was willing and can benefit from the experience, when it's done by a woman. Enforcement just isn't as aggressive in most countries. When there is a power relationship like a teacher - student, it probably raises more eyebrows. Based on the ages that you have introduced, your definition is correct. However, you introduced the broad descriptive of 'underage' and also introduced the rather narrow construct of the 18 year-old having sex with a 17 year old. Is predatory sexual behavior by females 18 and older on juveniles younger than 17, infrequent as it may be, make you uncomfortable or is it somehow still different and less harmful when the genders are reversed? Whether it be abuse committed by a teacher or other person in authority or abuse committed by a friend or family member, trust is shattered and young, formative minds are scarred. The notion that an under-age male can somehow 'benefit from the experience' of being sexually assaulted by an older woman is quite Victorian. Put it this way, one summer about 45 years ago, I was banging/being banged by my 28 year-old, married biology teacher. It was 100% mutually agreeable and totally enjoyable at the time but looking back, the experience probably didn't do either of us any good. Edited November 9, 2017 by NanLaew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
observer90210 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 2 hours ago, Ruffian Dick said: OP, do you have a specific instance in mind or are you just indulging your imagination? I'm sure you can post something more constructive to the debate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scott Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 The thread has been reported and is not Thai related. //Closed// Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scott Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 After a discussion with a member, we will let this topic run for the time being. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bert bloggs Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 Well in the Paper today there is this 23 year old teacher ,she had affairs with two pupils and been arrested ,i must say its not fair ,all i ever got from my female teacher was 100 lines ,some guys get all the luck . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naam Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 i was 15 when my biology teacher molested me. she had red hair and a sweet smile. a week later i asked for more molestation but she refused and i was quite disappointed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 3 hours ago, NanLaew said: I was banging/being banged by my 28 year-old, married biology teacher. It was 100% mutually agreeable and totally enjoyable at the time but looking back, the experience probably didn't do either of us any good. As a male l wouldn't of thought so as long as the husband didn't catch you at it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinnieTheKhwai Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 It must be different because the topic is running for half a day already and we don't have 6 pages of people suggesting torture and mutilation to the perps. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanLaew Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 1 hour ago, WinnieTheKhwai said: It must be different because the topic is running for half a day already and we don't have 6 pages of people suggesting torture and mutilation to the perps. But there must be more to it than just being unable to lop bits off with rusty blades or be strung up by them, no? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scott Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 Female pedophiles are not as common as male pedophiles. They do exist and in a previous life, I did have to deal with a few. By pedophile, I am talking about pre-pubescent children. Like male pedophiles some of the behavior is pretty revolting and included women who forced young children to perform oral sex on them, masturbating young boys, performing oral sex on young children and penetration with objects (usually as a form of punishment). Most of them were very sadistic and along with the sexual components there was a great deal of physical and emotional abuse. A fair amount of the abuse was very sadistic in nature. Quite frequently, the sexual abuse had an accomplice, usually a husband or boyfriend, but not always. Most of the abusers were mothers or step mothers. The children who were the subjects of the abuse were very severely damaged as a result. Women, and mothers in particular are nurturers, more so than men. They literally had no one to turn to for protection or understanding. Once kids hit puberty, then it is really more a legal matter than a psychological situation. Females who victimize adolescents are really quite a different profile than a female pedophile and generally the damage done to the victim is less severe or traumatic, but not always. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simon43 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 It's interesting that some (I assume male) posters treat pedophilia where the adult is a woman as something of fun and to brag about if one is the young boy being molested. How double-standard is that?!! If it were a male teacher molesting a young teen girl, would you consider it in the same light? Weird double-standards at play here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanemax Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 6 hours ago, WinnieTheKhwai said: It must be different because the topic is running for half a day already and we don't have 6 pages of people suggesting torture and mutilation to the perps. That is because this isnt a story about one actual specific event and there are no people involved to suggest any action against them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naam Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 49 minutes ago, simon43 said: It's interesting that some (I assume male) posters treat pedophilia where the adult is a woman as something of fun and to brag about if one is the young boy being molested. How double-standard is that?!! If it were a male teacher molesting a young teen girl, would you consider it in the same light? Weird double-standards at play here. welcome to reality! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naam Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 13 hours ago, NanLaew said: Why is this even debatable? An adult female sexually abusing a juvenile of any gender can't really be anything else but pedophilia can it? Just because it is relatively unknown or people are uncomfortable talking about it shouldn't be an excuse for not addressing it with the same vigor when it arises. ''abuse'' and ''molestation'' are matters of perception, perspective and especially age, respectively physical condition of the ''molested''. there's a difference between the abuse of a 17 year old in a country where the age of consent is 18 and the abuse of an 11 year old prepubescent boy or girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 (edited) The horrific cases that Scott described surely wouldn't be seen as good fun for the boy by anyone reasonable. I was talking before more about the type of thing where maybe a 16 year old boy willingly gets some sexual education with a young lady or perhaps a M.I.L.(x). I think it's a fact of life that regardless of laws society is going to regard the latter as not particularly serious, and in many cases, socially approved (and bragged about by the boy). Yes, that's real life. There IS a double standard. The question is, should there be? Edited November 10, 2017 by Jingthing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saakura Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 (edited) Oh well, when i was a young boy of about 14yrs, i was hoping to be lured by a sexy lady but unfortunately it never happened. Edited November 10, 2017 by saakura Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
champers Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 11 hours ago, NanLaew said: Put it this way, one summer about 45 years ago, I was banging/being banged by my 28 year-old, married biology teacher. It was 100% mutually agreeable and totally enjoyable at the time but looking back, the experience probably didn't do either of us any good. Were you 17/18 or 12/13? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bert bloggs Posted November 11, 2017 Share Posted November 11, 2017 17 hours ago, saakura said: Oh well, when i was a young boy of about 14yrs, i was hoping to be lured by a sexy lady but unfortunately it never happened. You and me both , i remember lusting after a friends older sister ,she was about 19 , i saw her in her knickers once when i was around his house , it kept me going for years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rancid Posted November 11, 2017 Share Posted November 11, 2017 Wasn't the President of France molested by his teacher, and he ended up marrying her later? No doubt a whole lot of bad psychological stuff going on there... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
observer90210 Posted November 11, 2017 Author Share Posted November 11, 2017 (edited) 19 hours ago, simon43 said: It's interesting that some (I assume male) posters treat pedophilia where the adult is a woman as something of fun and to brag about if one is the young boy being molested. How double-standard is that?!! If it were a male teacher molesting a young teen girl, would you consider it in the same light? Weird double-standards at play here. you have highlighted someting awfully pertinent.....the issue takes a new dimension around your point....we accept male underage boys to get molested by female teachers ..but a male teacher having sex with a female underage student, get's a one way ticket to the gallows.......why ? Edited November 11, 2017 by observer90210 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gruff Posted November 11, 2017 Share Posted November 11, 2017 (edited) 7 hours ago, observer90210 said: you have highlighted someting awfully pertinent.....the issue takes a new dimension around your point....we accept male underage boys to get molested by female teachers ..but a male teacher having sex with a female underage student, get's a one way ticket to the gallows.......why ? It will be a historical reason dating back maybe even centuries when effectively men were the guardians and protectors of women. As an example, the Titanic sinking, women and children first whilst men perish. In today's world (in the West at least) maybe there should be no such priority on a sinking ship and no disparity with the opinions on molestations of underage boys or girls. Just strange how Feminist movements keep quiet on these subjects though! Edited November 11, 2017 by Gruff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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