Did I make a mistake? Should she get a job?

[MaeJoMTB]

2 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

My ex was never under any false impression that she was marrying me for a life of leisure, and even when I left her she could have got her hips inside one leg of my shorts.

I'm very slim and hansum (still a 32" waist), a woman girl would need to be 10 years old to get her hips in 1 leg of my shorts.

[thaibeachlovers]

4 minutes ago, MaeJoMTB said:

I'm very slim and hansum (still a 32" waist), a woman girl would need to be 10 years old to get her hips in 1 leg of my shorts.

I'm just big boned .

 

I look at my photos from when I was young and hansum, and wonder why I wasn't a sex god, but that's one for the psychologists .

 

[Thai Ron]

20 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

No matter how disagreeable my Thai wife became in the last 2 years of our slowly disintegrating marriage I was always able to console myself with the knowledge that she was still a very good looking woman, and I had no problems looking at her when I woke up in the morning.

For all the good it did you

[thaibeachlovers]

1 minute ago, Thai Ron said:

For all the good it did you

That's another subject.

I'm just happy that I didn't have to add wanting to gnaw my arm off so as not to disturb her in the morning to all the other crap going on between us.

 

[MaeJoMTB]

1 hour ago, Thai Ron said:

For all the good it did you

I've actually come to separate sex and love.

My wife is a good looking woman (way beyond what i could get as a 60yo in the west)

I love our children, and they appear to love me.

 

That's good enough!

Life is good.

[Mac98]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I don't understand why it is that just because we are old we have to get it on with someone that looks like our grannies ( do grannies actually want sex anyway? ).

No matter how disagreeable my Thai wife became in the last 2 years of our slowly disintegrating marriage I was always able to console myself with the knowledge that she was still a very good looking woman, and I had no problems looking at her when I woke up in the morning.

Exactly! That's why I prefer SE Asia over North America.

[BV70]

23 hours ago, VBF said:

And yet most blokes around the world who have regular girlfriends, partners or "friends with benefits" do seem to spend an awful lot of money on the ladies!

However you term it..."no money, no honey" is pretty much a worldwide thing whether you're paying directly or indirectly in cash or in gifts.

Someone cleverer than I once said  "free sex is the most expensive sex of all" - think about it. 

I hear you.  But I see that there's more financial balance when the female is also working/earning (to keep the thread on topic).  There's nothing wrong with giving gifts etc to show your love, appreciation and affection but the whole salary issue is not one that's widely recognised outside of this region.  Perhaps in the 1960s/70s when the male was the bread winner and the female stayed at home cooking and caring for the kids then a chunk of your income would go to her to put towards housekeeping.  Now females are more empowered and can earn good money, they have more disposable income and its not uncommon to find that gender roles have switched and a househusband takes on the traditional female role, while the wife goes out to work/earn.  A partnership based on love is not, or should not be, broken by financial hardship and it can often bring a couple closer together, whereas it can break a relationship over here.  If money is what's keeping a relationship together, then it's something one should question in terms of a genuine partnership, in my opinion at least.

[VBF]

12 minutes ago, BV70 said:

I hear you.  But I see that there's more financial balance when the female is also working/earning (to keep the thread on topic).  There's nothing wrong with giving gifts etc to show your love, appreciation and affection but the whole salary issue is not one that's widely recognised outside of this region.  Perhaps in the 1960s/70s when the male was the bread winner and the female stayed at home cooking and caring for the kids then a chunk of your income would go to her to put towards housekeeping.  Now females are more empowered and can earn good money, they have more disposable income and its not uncommon to find that gender roles have switched and a househusband takes on the traditional female role, while the wife goes out to work/earn.  A partnership based on love is not, or should not be, broken by financial hardship and it can often bring a couple closer together, whereas it can break a relationship over here.  If money is what's keeping a relationship together, then it's something one should question in terms of a genuine partnership, in my opinion at least.

Can't argue with that.

There are partnerships based on love, some on lust, some on mental bonding, some on security, some on greed!

Let's be honest, ask 100 men what they think and you'll probably get 75 different answers. Now ask 100 women what they think - ditto.

 

The only thing that perturbs me is when people don't acknowledge what their relationship honestly is...a relevant example might be - she wants security for her and her family, he's in love so she pretends to be in love.In my mind, it's those relationships that are ultimately doomed for one reason or another.

 

But, IMO, bottom line is if the individuals are happy with the arrangement then who are we to criticise? 

[BV70]

Can't argue with that.
There are partnerships based on love, some on lust, some on mental bonding, some on security, some on greed!
Let's be honest, ask 100 men what they think and you'll probably get 75 different answers. Now ask 100 women what they think - ditto.
 
The only thing that perturbs me is when people don't acknowledge what their relationship honestly is...a relevant example might be - she wants security for her and her family, he's in love so she pretends to be in love.In my mind, it's those relationships that are ultimately doomed for one reason or another.
 
But, IMO, bottom line is if the individuals are happy with the arrangement then who are we to criticise? 

Yes. Each to their own. But the OP is specifically asking whether he should tell his tirac to get a job. My point being, you're on much safer ground if your better half works and contributes. The idle rich can and do become bored very quickly. And candy crush can't entertain for ever.

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[SoulWater]

UPDATE 3: I already mentioned we had moved into a new house (rented) just purchased two puppies today to keep us occupied (and me away from the pub) things are looking OK after a few previous disappointments here - but the cynical part of me is not getting my hopes up too much yet! Still loving the banter chaps and there is no such thing as a bad opinion!

[theguyfromanotherforum]

3 hours ago, Mac98 said:

Exactly! That's why I prefer SE Asia over North America.

 

You get a better variety of prostitutes in North America, from every race and religion.

 

If all of you prefer paying for sex, I truly wonder what you are doing in Thailand? It must get boring after like first 5 minutes. 

 

Someone here posted a Facebook page of all the bar-girls that didn't perform after the payment. I checked it out and there were truly some uglies in there and a lot of young guys even getting involved with them, having children and getting royally screwed and not in a good way.... really puzzling what you guys consider hot. Even the most desperate woman in my wife's office looks much better than any of the pros.

 

What I really want to know how do you guys manage to get it up while on the clock? To me sex is all about being spontaneous, having it when you and your partner least expect it.... waking up in the middle of the night, etc, etc....

 

 

 

 

[Kadilo]

5 minutes ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

 

 

What I really want to know how do you guys manage to get it up while on the clock? To me sex is all about being spontaneous, having it when you and your partner least expect it.... waking up in the middle of the night, etc, etc....

 

 

 

 

God bless Viagra. 

[Thai Ron]

34 minutes ago, bazza73 said:

Based on the number of times you have used the word "old" in your posts, I'd say you could be terrified of getting old yourself. I've known a few people like that.

Console yourself with the thought getting old beats the alternative.

I'm already old, mate and I'm pretty pleased with how I've managed to do what you guys are doing over here at the dusk of your lives when I was young and fit enough to do it properly.

I get a great deal of satisfaction knowing that I don't have to run around chasing skirt any more - even if it's more or less fish in a barrel in Thailand.

 

I'm not referring to you personally but it seems there's an awful lot of blokes catting around trying to relive their teens (or actually live them the first time round in some cases) with the help of little blue pills or hydraulics.

They like to think or even pretend they're having the time of their lives but deep down they know it's a thoroughly empty and meaningless existence.

 

They get pissed off and even aggressive when someone even playfully challenges them on their antics, they positively hate seeing western women in the sex tourist areas and they blow a gasket when someone takes a photo in a gogo bar in case it's posted on social media or youtube and their friends/relatives back home see it.

 

Is that any way to live out your golden years?

Being worried that your kids or grandkids are going to send you a link to a video of you salivating over an 18 year old shuffling around a chrome pole.

Using euphemisms like "P4P" or "naughty nightlife" to make yourself feel better about your sordid activities.

 

[MaeJoMTB]

3 hours ago, VBF said:

Now ask 100 women what they think - ditto.

But how many of that 100 women actually married down?

[MaeJoMTB]

1 hour ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

having it when you and your partner least expect it.... waking up in the middle of the night, etc, etc....

I think they call that 'rape' in the west these days.

[theguyfromanotherforum]

3 minutes ago, MaeJoMTB said:

I think they call that 'rape' in the west these days.

 

Where do I file a complaint?

[Rc2702]

15 minutes ago, Thai Ron said:

I'm already old, mate and I'm pretty pleased with how I've managed to do what you guys are doing over here at the dusk of your lives when I was young and fit enough to do it properly.

I get a great deal of satisfaction knowing that I don't have to run around chasing skirt any more - even if it's more or less fish in a barrel in Thailand.

 

I'm not referring to you personally but it seems there's an awful lot of blokes catting around trying to relive their teens (or actually live them the first time round in some cases) with the help of little blue pills or hydraulics.

They like to think or even pretend they're having the time of their lives but deep down they know it's a thoroughly empty and meaningless existence.

 

They get pissed off and even aggressive when someone even playfully challenges them on their antics, they positively hate seeing western women in the sex tourist areas and they blow a gasket when someone takes a photo in a gogo bar in case it's posted on social media or youtube and their friends/relatives back home see it.

 

Is that any way to live out your golden years?

Being worried that your kids or grandkids are going to send you a link to a video of you salivating over an 18 year old shuffling around a chrome pole.

Using euphemisms like "P4P" or "naughty nightlife" to make yourself feel better about your sordid activities.

 

That is the absolute truth for many on here and the way you effortlessly nailed it was very impressive. Not just golden oldboys that enjoy being faithful and true though. It is extremely satisfying. Great post.

 

[ClutchClark]

15 minutes ago, MaeJoMTB said:

I think they call that 'rape' in the west these days.

 

+1 for humor.

[VBF]

1 hour ago, Thai Ron said:

I'm already old, mate and I'm pretty pleased with how I've managed to do what you guys are doing over here at the dusk of your lives when I was young and fit enough to do it properly.

I get a great deal of satisfaction knowing that I don't have to run around chasing skirt any more - even if it's more or less fish in a barrel in Thailand.

 

I'm not referring to you personally but it seems there's an awful lot of blokes catting around trying to relive their teens (or actually live them the first time round in some cases) with the help of little blue pills or hydraulics.

They like to think or even pretend they're having the time of their lives but deep down they know it's a thoroughly empty and meaningless existence.

 

They get pissed off and even aggressive when someone even playfully challenges them on their antics, they positively hate seeing western women in the sex tourist areas and they blow a gasket when someone takes a photo in a gogo bar in case it's posted on social media or youtube and their friends/relatives back home see it.

 

Is that any way to live out your golden years?

Being worried that your kids or grandkids are going to send you a link to a video of you salivating over an 18 year old shuffling around a chrome pole.

Using euphemisms like "P4P" or "naughty nightlife" to make yourself feel better about your sordid activities.

 

Well glad you've made it to whatever ripe old age you have and are enjoying yourself . 

 

Allow me to correct 1 or 2 points there Ron:

 

I'm 62, divorced (happily) not at all bitter (it just didn't work out - c'est la vie) but really really enjoy my trips to Thailand.

No kids - friends in the UK refer to me as a naughty boy who never grows up but they smile when they say it.

OK - I'm catting around, not like I did in my teens (if only!) but why ever not?

I don't have to do it but I enjoy it - no ego trip just fun.

Not interested whether western women visit the ST areas - up to them. If they want to talk to me, i'll be friendly, if not, that's OK too.

 

As for being seen in a gogo bar or on social media, I believe the expression is "Like I give a s**t!"  It'd give someone, somewhere a laugh!!

I'm doing nothing wrong - my choice of ladies are generally in 30s or older so I'm not a kiddy fiddler and I'm not ashamed! It's not sordid - it's just fun!

 

My point? PLEASE stop assuming that age 62 means I should behave like an old man - as long as I've got my health, it ain't gonna happen!

But really - what's good for you is what's good for you and what's good for me is what's good for me.

 

And anyway - growing old is compulsory...growing up is not! 

See my signature on this post too......

[JLCrab]

7 hours ago, Thai Ron said:

<snip>

They like to think or even pretend they're having the time of their lives but deep down they know it's a thoroughly empty and meaningless existence.

<snip2>

Thank you Jean-Paul Sartre.

[pgrahmm]

[Thai Ron]

3 minutes ago, bazza73 said:

You've reminded me of that classic piece of scriptwriting in MASH.

 

Major Frank Burns: "I don't understand why people instantly dislike me".

Trapper John: " It saves time, Frank".

You've got that quote in a Word document somewhere so you can just copy/paste instead of typing it out again, haven't you?

My gawd, you're so transparent, it's ridiculous

[totally thaied up]

42 minutes ago, garryjohns said:

One on one in person he would run to the police like a little girl.

 

The irony of his posts, esp to Thai Ron is that all he says in his putdowns would be the words people who have the misfortune to have met him away from this forum would use to describe him.

Hmm, I have met Bazza and I can tell you, no, he would not run to the police and in fact, he is a very nice guy with an absolute gem of a long-term girlfriend. I will not go into it more just to say he is insanely intelligent and has pretty well a photographic memory.  I am more than happy to call him a friend and frankly, he is more put together than 90% of this forum and at that, I will leave you all to have a nice day. 

[ClutchClark]

12 minutes ago, Thai Ron said:

Poor Bazza, I can just imagine you spitting bile as you typed this out.

Calm down mate . . . you'll give yourself a coronary

I actually wasn't referring to you personally because, as you said earlier (this thread or another), you've got a girlfriend and you're not running around looking for skirt 

and though I dislike you intensely, I can't see why you'd lie so I took it at face value.

 

Oh and I thought that you, as an Australian (I think) would understand the meaning of the word "mate" when used by Brits and your own countrymen in certain contexts

No, we're not mates - I'd sooner remove my ample testicles with rusty pliers than become acquainted with the likes of you

 

+1 for the creative use of “ample”.

 

I was unprepared and spilled my coffee.

[MaeJoMTB]

1 minute ago, Thai Ron said:

Yeah I didn't expect my post to find many fans on a forum like this for obvious reasons.

You mean a Thailand related forum?

I agree, there are 2 sorts of men in Thailand, those chasing Thai girls, and those who have caught Thai girls.

For some reason the latter like to think they are in some way better than the former, but we were all fishing in the same pond.

[bazza73]

3 minutes ago, Thai Ron said:

You've got that quote in a Word document somewhere so you can just copy/paste instead of typing it out again, haven't you?

My gawd, you're so transparent, it's ridiculous

The quote is from memory - my brain is still functioning quite well. Unlike some. Sorry to disappoint you.

 

 

[garryjohns]

25 minutes ago, ClutchClark said:

 

I have never met Bazzra and its doubtful our paths will ever cross since I don’t go to bars and I don’t chase young tail.

 

You appear to know him in a social context so I will take your word for it...but in the battle playing out on this thread, Bazzra scored some measurable points with his response.

 

But then I come from the American West and minding our own business and keeping our noses out of another man’s private affairs is how we were raised. Nothing worse than a man sticking his nose up against another mans bedroom window and judging what he sees going on in there as the poster did to Bazzra.

You are right on multiple points.

However TBH no one has stuck his nose up against bazzas window and judged him.

He, himself opened the said window wide, pulled back the blinds and turned the lights on full; ie he posted all and sundry on here himself.

He set things in motion and with his obvious superiority attitude ,no wonder some choose to engage him.

 

[MaeJoMTB]

Back to the OP, yes she should get a job, or an education.

It ain't great having a woman hanging around the home all day long.

(been with mine 9 years, 1 year off, 5 years high school, 1 year off, 2 years university, she's having another rest this year)

[JLCrab]

28 minutes ago, Thai Ron said:

<snip>

No, we're not mates - I'd sooner remove my ample testicles with rusty pliers than become acquainted with the likes of you

So all those testosterone injections have been working?

[dragula]

 If she’s been out for a while and you don’t know where she’s been, make out with her for a little bit upon her return. If her breath smells like penis, well, I don’t know what to tell you.