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I have just returned from a trip home to New Zealand and don't think I will be going back again.

 

I don't have any close relatives living there, apart from a distant nephew who has just settled in Nelson (South Island) and although it was good to catch up with him and a couple of other relatives who had travelled from Canada to see him, overall, I really didn't enjoy the trip.

 

In fact I couldn't wait to get back to Patong and even brought my flights forward by two weeks in order to get back here early.

 

It is good to catch up with friends, but once the initial catch up meeting over drinks or a meal has finished, they go back to their routines, family, jobs and get on with their lives, whereas I am just left "kicking my heels" waiting for my departure date to arrive and being totally bored just wandering around the place looking at places that I have known for years.

 

Thinking about it I should consider myself very fortunate because I have a good friend in the car business who gives me a car to use and another friend who allows me the use of her luxury apartment, with fabulous views, so what is the problem?

 

Well I find myself getting totally bored and missing the vibrancy that is Patong (warts and all – – Patong not me) because although it's not perfect by any means and I detest the lo-so Chinese hordes, and don't like the dangerous driving, the smelly sewers and the poor condition of the roads, not to mention the corruption, it is now my home. And here is where I have both Thai and farang friends as well as an ex g/f and her daughter whom I support and whose company I enjoy with regular contact. It also has good restaurants, shopping and nightlife which adds to the vibrancy and feel of the place.

 

So no more trips to NZ for me and for that matter no more long trips to anywhere because I am completely over long trips and all that goes with them. Perhaps it is age, because when I first decided to give Patong a try 11 years ago, I reasoned that I could spend six months of the year in NZ and six months of the year in Patong (cost was not an issue) and although I did return about once every 18 months, the experience has diminished. Perhaps it is that I have come to realise that this is now home to me?

 

So a question for the TV members............ do you find a similar thing when you travel back to your own country or am I just getting too old for this sort of travel.

 

How do your trips back home go, and how do you view them these days; necessary or a pain? And what do you enjoy/not enjoy about them?

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I feel the same as you, last time I went back was to watch my mum pass away, as soon as I had a funeral date I booked a flight back that very evening...

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51 minutes ago, transam said:

I feel the same as you, last time I went back was to watch my mum pass away, as soon as I had a funeral date I booked a flight back that very evening...

A sad reason to have to go back :sad:.

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4 hours ago, xylophone said:

So a question for the TV members............ do you find a similar thing when you travel back to your own country or am I just getting too old for this sort of travel.

I went back to the UK last year for two weeks, first time in 10 years.

Trip was 1 week too long.

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I used to return to the UK ( for the first 10 years after I left)  twice a year for around 2 months in total, the last  time I went at Christmas I spent Christmas day on my own so decided that- that was 'the last time'.

For the first time, in 15 years away, I did not go back at all in 2017.

This year I was initially thinking of going back for 2 months, now I am thinking 2 weeks will be enough to see everyone and sort stuff,

So yes I feel the same way as the OP

 

 

 

 

 

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Yes. I have come to the same (sad?).. Inevitable conclusion.

In my 20s through to about 60 years old..once a year to Birmingham UK.. from Australia.. After that USA. Haven't been in 4 years now. We've all grown apart.. Sisters.. Nephews etc etc.

Plus for a few decades past, when I did go there wasn't much interest in seeing me after a few meals together.. I was more keen.. They we not so... Enthusiast?! :) In fact out of 40+ trips to England.. Only once was a met at LHR.

Nope. Flogging a dead horse. :(

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Haven't been back for a few years, nothing there for me now.

Mum died last year, & have only my sister left.

 

She came here a few months back, which was lovely.

 

But, no I don't have any desire in visiting the place that was my home.

My home is here, with my lovely wife.

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More and more my travels have been for gastronomy, shopping, and a change of climate. I don't go back home much as family and friends treat me the same way they did 15 years ago, curiously unaware that that person doesn't exist anymore.

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I was really looking forward to my trip to oz. After 7 days I was really looking to get the hell out of there.

Every time I see " I am heading back home, had enough of thailand" threads I just have a really good chuckle. Poor barstards

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I have been living in Thailand for over 12 years and it is my permanent home. I have no thoughts of returning to live in the UK, unless something very serious happens here.

 

However, my wife (she is Thai) and I visit the UK once a year and spend 4-6 weeks visiting family and friends, and revisiting places where we have had happy times together. If I had better health and more money we would visit more often.

 

We are always glad to be back home in Thailand, but sad to have to miss our family (especially my old mum and our grandkids) for another year. It is a real wrench to say goodbye.

 

At the end of our trips we often have thoughts about moving back to the UK, but that soon passes as we have friends and family here, and a nice life.

 

My only real regret about living here is missing out on family stuff, like seeing the grandkids growing up.

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