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Trips back home not the same any more.

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Agree with the OP.  The only reason I go back to the USA anymore is to see family.  And every time that I do, I can't wait to come back to Thailand.  Even with all its faults, Thailand is home. 

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We are going back to oz next month for 8 weeks. After catching up with friends and family, Perth and all over NSW, am not sure if it will be too long as that part should only take a month. The girl loves it and does not seem to miss her family here so hopefully it will be ok and not get bored with the 'holiday' life.

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Mr Xylophone, you came back to NZ (without a heads up - shame on you) and left feeling discontented. Beggars belief. The vibrance around Manurewa train station and Great South Road would now put Patpong & Bangla to shame.especially at 7.00am in the morning when navigating through the area to get to work.

I love going back to my home country being originally from the U.K. Unfettered family engagement does make a difference.for the trip. 

I also love coming back home to NZ after holidaying as it's home.

I would also really, really, really love to come back to a home in Chiang Mai if Opal decided her future was Thailand.

Apologies, for no  VIP fast track Auckland immigration, we weren't aware of your arrival.

Best Wishes

Paul & Opal

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Been in Thailand now for 22 years, this is my only home. Have been going back with my thai wife every single year to visit my parents and siblings, spending about 2 weeks each time. After both mum and dad passed away few years ago, we still go to stay with my brother or sister, but only for a week or lesser. This year, may not go at all. Slowly getting detached. But we do have a strong whatsapp family group which helps keep us informed.

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2 hours ago, Paul Catton said:

Mr Xylophone, you came back to NZ (without a heads up - shame on you) and left feeling discontented. Beggars belief. The vibrance around Manurewa train station and Great South Road would now put Patpong & Bangla to shame.especially at 7.00am in the morning when navigating through the area to get to work.

I love going back to my home country being originally from the U.K. Unfettered family engagement does make a difference.for the trip. 

I also love coming back home to NZ after holidaying as it's home.

I would also really, really, really love to come back to a home in Chiang Mai if Opal decided her future was Thailand.

Apologies, for no  VIP fast track Auckland immigration, we weren't aware of your arrival.

Best Wishes

Paul & Opal

Jeez Paul, so sorry, but what with everything going on I didn't manage to catch up with hardly anybody........

 

Not only couldn't I stand the 3 children playing up (in a confined space), I twisted my knee so was chair-bound for a while, then my sister slipped on a wet deck and tore the tendons off the bone in her knee (screaming in agony) so rellies took her to hospital and she was operated on almost within a day.

 

So sitting chair-bound with a twisted knee in a temperature of 9 C that night and it pouring down with rain, I decided I'd had enough and wanted to go home.........notwithstanding the fact I'd made arrangements to meet up with old mates in Auckland. So I did manage 2 dinner dates, three lunches and a coffee catch-up then it was out of there, and so pleased to be home.

 

My profuse apologies Paul.........look me up when next in Patong and I'll shout you a drink or three!

 

All the best.

 

 

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Spending 6 months Thailand and work the other 6 months in UK, for the last 20yrs. Having my own home in both locations I reckon I have the best of both worlds. I miss the banter with mates at home and work, my home is on the edge of the Peak District, a beautiful area, no matter what time of year.

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1999 and back in town in California and dropped in to see some pals that I hadn't seen since I left in 1988 but we had been in touch...and it was a bit weird and awkward...and these were my best pals...one dude said: 'things have changed, tutsi and no way you could fit in around here anymore...'

 

2015 and arranged to see a pal in Amsterdam who was there on business; me I was workin' in saudi and headin' to Paris to meet up with my son who lives in the UK...again awkward and uncomfortable...and we had been thru some bad times together and good ones as well in the 70s...but now we were 'grown up' and both successful...

 

you can never go back, only forward...

 

embrace it...

 

 

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I don't know what's more sad. Being bored with New Zealand or missing the vibrancy of Patong.

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2 hours ago, trd said:

I don't know what's more sad. Being bored with New Zealand or missing the vibrancy of Patong.

Read and learn.........

 

"it is now my home. And here is where I have both Thai and farang friends as well as an ex g/f and her daughter whom I support and whose company I enjoy with regular contact. It also has good restaurants, shopping and nightlife which adds to the vibrancy and feel of the place".

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Well, the only constant is change so either the individual themselves change or circumstances change. 

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Read and learn.........
 
"it is now my home. And here is where I have both Thai and farang friends as well as an ex g/f and her daughter whom I support and whose company I enjoy with regular contact. It also has good restaurants, shopping and nightlife which adds to the vibrancy and feel of the place".
I wonder if you'll still be missing the vibrancy of Patong after 20 years, which is how long Phuket has been home for me.

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9 minutes ago, trd said:
26 minutes ago, xylophone said:
Read and learn.........
 
"it is now my home. And here is where I have both Thai and farang friends as well as an ex g/f and her daughter whom I support and whose company I enjoy with regular contact. It also has good restaurants, shopping and nightlife which adds to the vibrancy and feel of the place".

I wonder if you'll still be missing the vibrancy of Patong after 20 years, which is how long Phuket has been home for me.

Have to wait and see on that one......have been coming here for almost 14 years and living full time for 11 yrs.

 

For me I think it is the total of those things that I posted (friends, daughter, restaurants etc) which make it my home now, and yes it does have that feeling of being "vibrant". 

 

I believe I "saw" my future in NZ when I took early retirement for health reasons and it was not pretty........older guys like me wandering around shopping malls looking for a coffee shop in which to spend a few hours reading papers, trying to pass the days.

 

And forget speaking to anyone younger (esp female) because you would be told to "piss off, you old pervert".

 

Contrast that with here........friends who are not unavailable through work, others seeking a "new/different" life so have something in common, a daughter to care for, the everyday Thais who will have a smile and hello for you, irrespective of your age, and of course there is always something going on.

 

At 70 I prefer this and hope I will until I depart this mortal coil. 

 

It would seem that you don't share this view, but then everyone to their own........

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Have to wait and see on that one......have been coming here for almost 14 years and living full time for 11 yrs.
 
For me I think it is the total of those things that I posted (friends, daughter, restaurants etc) which make it my home now, and yes it does have that feeling of being "vibrant". 
 
I believe I "saw" my future in NZ when I took early retirement for health reasons and it was not pretty........older guys like me wandering around shopping malls looking for a coffee shop in which to spend a few hours reading papers, trying to pass the days.
 
And forget speaking to anyone younger (esp female) because you would be told to "piss off, you old pervert".
 
Contrast that with here........friends who are not unavailable through work, others seeking a "new/different" life so have something in common, a daughter to care for, the everyday Thais who will have a smile and hello for you, irrespective of your age, and of course there is always something going on.
 
At 70 I prefer this and hope I will until I depart this mortal coil. 
 
It would seem that you don't share this view, but then everyone to their own........
If I didn't share your view I wouldn't have made Phuket my home for the past 20 years. Phuket isn't Patong which is my least favorite place on the island having lived there for the first three years. Back in 1997 it was relatively quiet but now it's just one big building site. It's not a place in Phuket I would ever choose to live again that's all. If that was the only place I was allowed to live then give me Auckland or the Bay of Islands.

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Like other OPs I am a Brit and have now been living in Thailand for a little over 12 years and have a beautiful Wife, whose one desire is to spoil me, with her cooking, driving me around, introducting me to her Friends and dining out with them.  Transited through the UK a year ago last November and was shocked by the price of things, the state of most citiies/towns the enormously fat people in vast quantities who all seemed to have long faces and wore drab clothes.  Not to mention the very low number of indigenous Brits actually living in the UK.  I felt like a stranger and could not wait to leave.  My lovely Wife often asks if I miss the UK and would I like to go back and live there.  Sadly no; the only place I would even remotely consider is North Scotland (which my Wife also loved), but the weather there is a big draw back.  I encourage as many of my Family Members as possible to come here for a holiday and they, like me, love Thailand, the people, the food, the weather and social life.  When they retire, I can see them all moving here - that would be a real blast!  Sorry UK, even a week in the UK depresses me, so I think I am here until I turn up my toes, so to say.  Sorry for those who see only the negative side of this great Country, but maybe some of them would not be happy regardless of where they live?

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31 minutes ago, trd said:

If that was the only place I was allowed to live then give me Auckland or the Bay of Islands.

I have to agree that the Bay of Islands is a really beautiful place and I've loved my visits/stays there....including cruising around the islands on a friends yacht, and if I was the type of person who could just relax, sit back and enjoy the scenery then it would be ideal for me; and Auckland is a relatively friendly and clean city. 

 

Also agree that the unconstrained building in Patong and lack of infrastructure planning can be galling, however for the reasons already mentioned, Patong is home now and I focus on those things that I enjoy and try to disregard those I don't. 

 

Cheers.........

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