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10 hours ago, DJ54 said:

Appreciate it Rally and just giving you a bit of jaw jacking.

 

All that said I’m a bit of a softy I will admit 100% that’s absolutely correct and part of my mindset that all people aren’t bad. Grew up in East LA hood met bad and and mostly good people. Southern born Papa Alabama Mama Georgia good old folks. 

 

I’ve been fortunate in life making decent money taking my knowledge and starting a Rep company (Aerospace) Asia for last 15 years. Lucky on houses I’ve boughtand sold 1 in California that doubled before market dropped, 2 in China from Cal. Profits which doubled. The tired of 

China moved to Thailand land for the weather low costs etc. 

 

Thinkng surely what goes in China won’t be the same elsewhere and as you say poor are the same most places. I believed the story the gal told 

me poor family etc. I’ve questioned my self several time on what are you thinking open your eyes idiot. 

 

The reason I asked input was to make sure I wasn’t getting shellacked again. Which it was an attempt to do so. Used some information given from forum members and told the wife I asked what Is the norm and accordingly no increase. 

 

Although a little late ate and a decent sum lost before I woke up. I’ve pulled in the reins and was told I’m going to leave. Ok good luck I’m not

giving to invalid requests the door is that way. 

 

Possible lucky that the land bought 2 years ago was a block of land that

One older individual owns will transfer ownership to many second quarter. With the relationship I’ve built with owner be able to delay or ?

if needed. 

 

Learned a a lot in a short period of two years and a big part of that from the folks on the forum. A great deal eyeopeners. Love the country and ideal place to live. Just need to make good decisions thinking of myself. Anything that falls in place good if not I’m still in good shape. 

 

Thanks have ave a great weekend. 

 

I admire your honesty even though you will get the usual cynical crap from some. 

You are right to pull in the reigns a little. You have contributed a lot to the family already and they are all benefitting a great deal by you being around. 

As a previous poster said the alarm bells would ring for me when they wanted to up the ante to 10,000/month. There is no justification for this only greed. 

Your intentions were good by trying to start a business. I can see quite a few parallels in your relationship and mine tbh. I have done similar with my partner and up to now she's running her little shop well. Her parents dont ask for money but I do buy food and treat give them a couple of thousand now and again but definitely not a regular income type of thing. 

I try and stay away from regular handouts for the very reason you are experiencing. 

Its all a learning curve. Best of luck. 

 

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I will be giving the in-laws my tired leather sofa as soon as I can find a replacement and that will be my total contribution in 8 years.

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1 minute ago, sammieuk1 said:

I will be giving the in-laws my tired leather sofa as soon as I can find a replacement and that will be my total contribution in 8 years.

I don't give anything anymore ( they blew or stuffed the lot )

MIL is 65 + & has had a mild stroke (that's the only 2000 bht from wife / me )

I replaced a Sofa once & only to discover it had a big rip in it due to not controlling BIL kids 

Now no problems as BIL wont show his face due to what he had done to family & SIL now in BK & MIL back in the village wooden hut

 

 

 

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It’s all give and take in the end , as they are unaware of the consequences . You give and they take, and take and take. Never stops. There’s no shame. And as proof, I personally know many who have lost their shirt. A new love affair recently in that area and the lady’s demand was for over 40,000 a month. 

 

I wish i knew how to communicate to them about consequences. But they are great poker players. Push hard. Too hard most times. 

I believe the idea is there are always rich farangs available.

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22 hours ago, billd766 said:

 

One different word.

 

"STAY".

Not only the word is different... but a whole psychology it seems :smile:

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14 minutes ago, Brickbat said:

It’s all give and take in the end , as they are unaware of the consequences . You give and they take, and take and take. Never stops. There’s no shame. And as proof, I personally know many who have lost their shirt. A new love affair recently in that area and the lady’s demand was for over 40,000 a month. 

 

I wish i knew how to communicate to them about consequences. But they are great poker players. Push hard. Too hard most times. 

I believe the idea is there are always rich farangs available.

If that was what she making in Pattaya or alike, then her price is 40 000,- 

 

Simple as that, why make it so complicated? 

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For reference, my wife gives her mum about 12,000 Baht for 6 months (2,000 Baht per month). All other expenses are paid by us, so that's just pocket money for hairdresser, going to temple, and so on.

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look at the bright side, many can return to their home countries and become gainfully employed as experts in administering public assistance.

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Sounds like family are treating you like an ATM .

 

I have been down the same road !

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On 15/05/2018 at 11:20 PM, cooked said:

Without knowing all the details I should say that ฿5000.- a month is really enough. What were they living off before you turned up? 

No harm to the OP, but if it was me, I would be saying to myself, this is the only reason I am here, apart from the 5000 Baht per month, anyone who lets themself get into the position that they are financially responsible for in laws are off their head.

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I give wife's parents a match of the money they get from their son who lives at home and occasionally works. It comes to 0.00 Baht

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The parents are younger than you , they should be supporting you according to Thai tradition  . Sounds like this is your first relationship with a Thai family who will take you for what they can get , one way or another . Cannot understand why you are paying them money whilst you are already supporting them with food etc . Be careful Mr. ATM

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I thought I was in a loving relationship,I was supporting wife ,step daughters and mil and fil and sisters, one day they pissed me off whinging that I not give enough ,I had just won a seven figure amount on uk lottery,I said to wife I not have much money now and things need to change ,everyone has to work now,2 months later I was living alone ,rats all left including wife .if only she knew how much I had won .now I am a tight arse ,my new short time gfs get paid for performance.life is good

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11 minutes ago, Wonderfull life said:

I thought I was in a loving relationship,I was supporting wife ,step daughters and mil and fil and sisters, one day they pissed me off whinging that I not give enough ,I had just won a seven figure amount on uk lottery,I said to wife I not have much money now and things need to change ,everyone has to work now,2 months later I was living alone ,rats all left including wife .if only she knew how much I had won .now I am a tight arse ,my new short time gfs get paid for performance.life is good

Could happend your attitude changed with a bigger wallet, and you wanted out to have some fun, and found your way to solve the problem, by excluding them from your life. Just a thought 

 

You never know before the shit hits the fan! And you can blaim everyone else for being greedy, but sometimes you have to take a look at yourselves, and see where did it actually start. Where did it go wrong. In most cases "Hi" where you come from sir", is where your problems starts. 

 

I failed, but god sake I do not blaim my x, If I did, I would not have learned anything, and just went on and did the same again, and ending up with a very low self esteem, and blaiming everyone else for my mistakes. Yes, my mistakes. 

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1 hour ago, atyclb said:

look at the bright side, many can return to their home countries and become gainfully employed as experts in administering public assistance.

& the same situation with Thais (in a sense )

Take the OP who tried to help them with a business - Yep failed (as we know why ), then they just went back & lazed around again (I've seen all this to )

Or they end up with a nice house, blow that through greed by mortgaging to get more (face ) & end back up in the shack

 

But then as other posters have said why not get a middle class women 

That also comes with the fact that most of them would be up to their eyeballs in debt (but at least they may have something in the end to show for it )

 

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