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BANGKOK 18 July 2019 14:23
corkman

Distractions for functioing alcoholics

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Hi everyone,

 

I'm a so called "high functioning alcoholic". In theory I have no problem staying off the booze, but find myself drinking and partying out of boredom, especially on  Friday night. 

 

If you are a recovering functioning alcoholic, what do you do to fill the void that used to be filled by drinking & party time? It's not so much that "all I wanna do is party", as it is all I know how to do. 

 

I will go on the occasional drinking session in the future, and that's ok; total abstinence is not my objective here. But if I had things to do, I'd do that instead, more often.

 

Thanks.

 

 

 

 

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2 minutes ago, corkman said:

Haha. Problem there is I would forget where I parked the bicycle!

And you would be steaming by the time you found it... 

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Yeah, I understand where you're coming from. Poverty's a good solution; but then to us high functioning alcoholics poverty never seems to come. Like I'm lazy, very lazy; and on those one or two occasions when poverty beckoned I made an effort, cleaned myself up and started mixing it with the best. Dump me in a totally hopeless situation, I'll shine. Ha!

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On 2/24/2019 at 2:00 PM, corkman said:

Hi everyone,

 

I'm a so called "high functioning alcoholic". In theory I have no problem staying off the booze, but find myself drinking and partying out of boredom, especially on  Friday night. 

 

If you are a recovering functioning alcoholic, what do you do to fill the void that used to be filled by drinking & party time? It's not so much that "all I wanna do is party", as it is all I know how to do. 

 

I will go on the occasional drinking session in the future, and that's ok; total abstinence is not my objective here. But if I had things to do, I'd do that instead, more often.

 

Thanks.

 

On the one hand you are starting to see a problem (and thats good) on the other it isnt bad enough YET to make you want to stop drinking completely. 

 

Alcoholism is progressive, so you can bet it'll get worse and you likely wont stop until you REALLY f-up. I hope it doesn't, but statistically speaking, it probably will. 

 

Boredom is the biggest problem (that you are noticing) and there is ALOT of that to go around in Thailand when you live here full time. 

 

I have "projects" that I work on around the house that require me to read and engage mentally and try to learn stuff. 

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In AA, we describe a functioning alcoholic as one whose wife has a good job.

 

I, too was a binge drinker.  I could go for weeks, even months without tying one on.  But once I picked up that first drink, I couldn't predict whether I'd stop at one drink, or stop next Thursday.  I was several months into AA before I realized my definition of alcoholism was messed up- like most people's.

 

For me (and just for me), I took the oath back in 1988 and have saved literally hundreds of thousands of dollars in the past 30 years.  Instead of going out with a few hundred $$$ on a Friday and waking up on Monday with a bunch of ATM withdrawal stubs in my pocket, I go out on Friday with $50 and wake up Monday with some change in my pocket.

 

And the quality of my life and my friends have both improved immensely. 

 

You can try all the things we all tried to moderate our drinking, and best of luck to you.  Or, we've got a seat warmed up if you want to try giving it up completely.  It's entirely up to you.

 

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for me, it got to the point i just didnt feel like drinking any more, so i picked up a nun for a gf and spent my time & money on her until i lost my will to live. problem solved, no reason to party after that experience

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4 hours ago, Yellowtail said:

If you're high functioning, how is it you're board on Friday night.

 

Sounds like an alcoholic savant. A boozy Rainman.

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It’s all about age isn’t it.

How old are you...?

If your liver was on the outside so you could see it, you might think differently.

Up until mid 40’s i reckon the damage might be less apparent..

As you age it becomes worse and worse.

Drinking excessively is one of the worst health choices in the world other than ice and oxy.

By the time you get older it’s a full time job...even with good diet and exercise and abstinence...to keep the poor old body functional.

Make a pro life choice.

See a counsellor...get a lifestyle sponsor, join the gym...do yoga.

Throw the filthy poison (because that’s what it really is) in the garbage....

The point of power is always in the present moment.  (LH)

Change.

 

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On 2/24/2019 at 5:43 PM, StreetCowboy said:

Get a bicycle. It won’t stop you drinking, but it will fill you with self-righteous moral dignity as you ride home pissed from the pub.  It’s been a game changer for me.  I’m not sure how helpful that is....

Riding a bicycle pissed in amongst traffic???????????????????????

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