Pravda Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 My marriage is turning to crap lately. She snaps easily and probably thinks she is the best wife on the planet. I don't provoke, I don't fool around and I don't drink although I think she would respect me more if I did. No financial arrangement in the marriage, so this is perhaps the problem although she will deny it. Just to be clear as it will most likely come up in the thread. Never paid for anything nor she ever asked me. Zilch. So, I am starting to think she is just sick of my presence. Flame away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhippy Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 So I'm not the only one in this situation? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pravda Posted February 24, 2019 Author Share Posted February 24, 2019 But, does she ever say I'm sorry? So much abuse and never an apology. Just quiet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mavideol Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 4 minutes ago, oldhippy said: So I'm not the only one in this situation? +1 and more coming Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanemax Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Some Thai ladies watch the Thai soap operas , get engrossed in that , where everyones screaming, shouting , throwing things and hitting each other and thoroughly enjoy it and when the TV programes finished , they want some live action . Try to get her to watch soap operas continually Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mavideol Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Just now, Pravda said: But, does she ever say I'm sorry? So much abuse and never an apology. Just quiet. She will never say sorry, mine never does even when caught with the ✋ in the candy jar.... Good luck, I gave up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richard_smith237 Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Take a break.... you just may have simply outgrown each other. If she is snapping at you and treating you poorly there has been a failure of respect...If there are no financial arrangements etc... then you have nothing to lose by taking a break apart and seeing how you get along. If nothing improves and there are no lasting commitments - financial or children etc then moving along could be beneficial to both of you.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pravda Posted February 24, 2019 Author Share Posted February 24, 2019 1 minute ago, sanemax said: Some Thai ladies watch the Thai soap operas , get engrossed in that , where everyones screaming, shouting , throwing things and hitting each other and thoroughly enjoy it and when the TV programes finished , they want some live action . Try to get her to watch soap operas continually Yeah.... I'm just curious if anyone ever received an honest apology. Like the ones you see in Thai dramas and romcoms. Or are these apologies only reserved for Thai men? Just so f$&*%% immature. I tried being quiet and saying nothing like she does and she won. I couldn't last more than 2 days. I will be starting again tonight and let you know the results. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spidey Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 2 minutes ago, Pravda said: Yeah.... I'm just curious if anyone ever received an honest apology. Like the ones you see in Thai dramas and romcoms. Or are these apologies only reserved for Thai men? Just so f$&*%% immature. I tried being quiet and saying nothing like she does and she won. I couldn't last more than 2 days. I will be starting again tonight and let you know the results. You sound as immature as her. Never sleep on an argument. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scorecard Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 2 minutes ago, Pravda said: Yeah.... I'm just curious if anyone ever received an honest apology. Like the ones you see in Thai dramas and romcoms. Or are these apologies only reserved for Thai men? Just so f$&*%% immature. I tried being quiet and saying nothing like she does and she won. I couldn't last more than 2 days. I will be starting again tonight and let you know the results. Did you ever ask her: what's wrong / is she unhappy / why she's unhappy? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mavideol Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 1 minute ago, Pravda said: Yeah.... I'm just curious if anyone ever received an honest apology. Like the ones you see in Thai dramas and romcoms. Or are these apologies only reserved for Thai men? Just so f$&*%% immature. I tried being quiet and saying nothing like she does and she won. I couldn't last more than 2 days. I will be starting again tonight and let you know the results. Being quiet and not answering back, they don't like it, either way we are guilty, speaking or quiet at their eyes we still guilty .... I take the Moto and go for a fresh air drive Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanemax Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 3 minutes ago, Mavideol said: She will never say sorry, mine never does even when caught with the ✋ in the candy jar.... Good luck, I gave up Of course she isnt going to say sorry , it was your fault for buying the candy in the first place , you didnt lock the candy in a cupboard and you didnt stop her from doing it Its your fault that she took the candy and you should apologise Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baansgr Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Thais are never wrong so the answer of course is no apology ever. Have you tried asking whats wrong, maybe something happened at work or family problems, how old is she? could be the menopause. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhippy Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 2 minutes ago, Pravda said: But, does she ever say I'm sorry? So much abuse and never an apology. Just quiet. In 12 years not once a "I'm sorry". After every psychotic breakdown of her, I wait it out. 3 days, and she is normal again. It's happening right now again - on holiday in Madeira. Oh, and by the way, we married when I was 57, and she 54. And I never ever reminded her that she was bankrupt and living in a delapidated building, 3 families with 1 toilet / thai shower. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mavideol Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 2 minutes ago, Spidey said: You sound as immature as her. Never sleep on an argument. Easy said than done, start to apologize and she will start a new argument, try make up sex but didn't work either, she goes to sleep at sister house Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pravda Posted February 24, 2019 Author Share Posted February 24, 2019 3 minutes ago, Spidey said: You sound as immature as her. Never sleep on an argument. You are assuming too much thinking I haven't tried talking to her before. I tried for years and it's always "nothing". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JAS21 Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 6 minutes ago, Pravda said: Yeah.... I'm just curious if anyone ever received an honest apology. Like the ones you see in Thai dramas and romcoms. Or are these apologies only reserved for Thai men? Just so f$&*%% immature. I tried being quiet and saying nothing like she does and she won. I couldn't last more than 2 days. I will be starting again tonight and let you know the results. My wife hasn't done that quite thing since before we left the UK in 2007. I let her overhear me telling a friend that I look forward to those quite days ... so peaceful ...???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 24 minutes ago, Pravda said: My marriage is turning to crap lately. Go away for a week, if she's happy to see you when you come back, it's worth hanging on. Never give precise details of where you've been or what you were doing. If she's still complaining and snapping, time to move on. (works for Labradors as well) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mavideol Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 2 minutes ago, oldhippy said: In 12 years not once a "I'm sorry". After every psychotic breakdown of her, I wait it out. 3 days, and she is normal again. It's happening right now again - on holiday in Madeira. Oh, and by the way, we married when I was 57, and she 54. And I never ever reminded her that she was bankrupt and living in a delapidated building, 3 families with 1 toilet / thai shower. Ask for a cold bottle of vinho Verde, room service and share with her, it may work .....good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pravda Posted February 24, 2019 Author Share Posted February 24, 2019 Just now, JAS21 said: My wife hasn't done that quite thing since before we left the UK in 2007. I let her overhear me telling a friend that I look forward to those quite days ... so peaceful ...???? Fortunately for me she will p$$ off to work tomorrow and that's freedom for me. However, we still have to sleep in the same bed tonight and I just don't know how to react when she comes back after work avoiding eye contact. Every single time I would give up and break the ice by making a joke, but honestly I am getting sick of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhippy Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 4 minutes ago, baansgr said: Thais are never wrong so the answer of course is no apology ever. Have you tried asking whats wrong, maybe something happened at work or family problems, how old is she? could be the menopause. Like so many Thais, she is the centre of the universe and wants it all, right now, just like every 5 year old child. PS. I didn't mean to highjack the tread, just letting off steam. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dumbastheycome Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 18 minutes ago, Pravda said: Yeah.... I'm just curious if anyone ever received an honest apology. Like the ones you see in Thai dramas and romcoms. Or are these apologies only reserved for Thai men? Just so f$&*%% immature. I tried being quiet and saying nothing like she does and she won. I couldn't last more than 2 days. I will be starting again tonight and let you know the results. Yes. And genuine. On occasion. And visa versa. Shits happens. We get over it. Life is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lacessit Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Possibly you have both gone past your use-by date. My GF and I have very occasional arguments. 50:50 on who says sorry. Is the sex still good? If not, time to call it quits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wreckingcountry Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Thais never admit they have done anything wrong even when they know they have done something wrong ! Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wreckingcountry Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Fortunately for me she will p$$ off to work tomorrow and that's freedom for me. However, we still have to sleep in the same bed tonight and I just don't know how to react when she comes back after work avoiding eye contact. Every single time I would give up and break the ice by making a joke, but honestly I am getting sick of it. Clearly it’s over! Work out your escape route Sent from my iPhone using Thailand Forum - Thaivisa mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlexRich Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Life is very short, and can be taken away from you at anytime, so why spend it in misery? If you have no children just tell her goodbye and go find yourself some happiness. Let her make someone else’s life a misery, just don’t let it be you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pilotman Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Never get into other people's relationships. The OP's problems are his own. You have only heard his side of the story. Maybe it would be instructive to hear hers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Will27 Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 27 minutes ago, Mavideol said: Easy said than done, start to apologize and she will start a new argument, try make up sex but didn't work either, she goes to sleep at sister house Try locking her out or buggering off when she's gone. Honestly, the stuff some of you guys put up with. Putting up with 3 day tantrums etc. No wonder they don't respect you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhippy Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 7 minutes ago, wreckingcountry said: Thais never admit they have done anything wrong even when they know they have done something wrong ! Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect "Face" is an essential part of the degenerated form of Thai buddhism, and so are the "self destruct button" and "make merrit to the monks and get lucky". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhippy Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 3 minutes ago, Will27 said: Try locking her out or buggering off when she's gone. Honestly, the stuff some of you guys put up with. Putting up with 3 day tantrums etc. No wonder they don't respect you. Your next advise: "rent don't buy"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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