Pravda Posted February 24, 2019 Author Share Posted February 24, 2019 4 minutes ago, Pilotman said: Never get into other people's relationships. The OP's problems are his own. You have only heard his side of the story. Maybe it would be instructive to hear hers. Sharing is caring. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dumbastheycome Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 No finance in, she goes to work, OP does what? Seems like the question was answered in the original post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Will27 Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 3 minutes ago, oldhippy said: Your next advise: "rent don't buy"? No, don't be a doormat would be a start. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteveK Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 An inability to recognise that you've done wrong and to therefore apologise, are signs of emotional immaturity, or extreme narcissism. My wife occasionally says some bad things but does apologise, but she's probably a lot older than the girls you guys are shacking up with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dumbastheycome Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 1 minute ago, Will27 said: No, don't be a doormat would be a start. That maybe is her thoughts ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pravda Posted February 24, 2019 Author Share Posted February 24, 2019 4 minutes ago, pr9spk said: An inability to recognise that you've done wrong and to therefore apologise, are signs of emotional immaturity, or extreme narcissism. My wife occasionally says some bad things but does apologise, but she's probably a lot older than the girls you guys are shacking up with. She's 38, I am 45 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RJRS1301 Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 55 minutes ago, Pravda said: Yeah.... I'm just curious if anyone ever received an honest apology. Like the ones you see in Thai dramas and romcoms. Or are these apologies only reserved for Thai men? Just so f$&*%% immature. I tried being quiet and saying nothing like she does and she won. I couldn't last more than 2 days. I will be starting again tonight and let you know the results. Tried asking her about why>> Perhaps open communication may assist?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhippy Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 16 minutes ago, Pilotman said: Never get into other people's relationships. The OP's problems are his own. You have only heard his side of the story. Maybe it would be instructive to hear hers. Very true. But don't hold your breath waiting for a Thai to talk about their feelings. And to a farang?????? Get real. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brokenbone Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 i had one that kept apologize, but that didnt stop her from doing it again, and again, ...i rather no hear the faked apologies Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samsensam Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 that's why i dont marry. i'm just coming to the end of another relationship, started out all right but soon the jealousy and accusations started - i dont play around, and there's the drama for absolutely no reason - i have a suspicion some of it is instigated and encouraged by her 'friends' and work colleagues, but why i dont know. i try to explain that isn't it better to just be happy instead of creating problems where there are none? she dones't listen so is in the process of being dumped. no financial involvement as she, like all my gfs, has a decent job and doesn't want/need money. i dated a lot back home and never had anything like the drama i have here. a lot of bad things are said about western women but for me they made for much healthier, enjoyable and satisfying relationships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 30 minutes ago, Pilotman said: Never get into other people's relationships. The OP's problems are his own. You have only heard his side of the story. Maybe it would be instructive to hear hers. No need to ever hear the woman's side, they just bitch and whine AWALT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elliss Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Your not giving her anything , really . Why is she still with you ?. I smell a troll ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigginhill Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 58 minutes ago, Pravda said: Fortunately for me she will p$$ off to work tomorrow and that's freedom for me. However, we still have to sleep in the same bed tonight and I just don't know how to react when she comes back after work avoiding eye contact. Every single time I would give up and break the ice by making a joke, but honestly I am getting sick of it. She is 66 or 68? Maybe she's really tired of working? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 6 minutes ago, samsensam said: that's why i dont marry. i'm just coming to the end of another relationship, started out all right but soon the jealousy and accusations started - i dont play around, and there's the drama for absolutely no reason - i have a suspicion some of it is instigated and encouraged by her 'friends' and work colleagues, but why i dont know. i try to explain that isn't it better to just be happy instead of creating problems where there are none? she dones't listen so is in the process of being dumped. no financial involvement as she, like all my gfs, has a decent job and doesn't want/need money. i dated a lot back home and never had anything like the drama i have here. a lot of bad things are said about western women but for me they made for much healthier, enjoyable and satisfying relationships. Maintaining frame is an important part of being a man. Never explain yourself or make excuses for your actions to a woman, never answer a 'why' with a serious answer. When you surrender to ther questioning, it just leads to more questions, and makes yourself look weaker in their eyes. Example I'm going out ....... why do you go out so often ........ I like beer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dumbastheycome Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Ok. This question has been put in an open forum so any reply is valid in some sense or other. Problem is that rather than provide constructive response is more likely and has happened provoke some general revelations of discontent. It now occurs to my thoughts that the OP is asking about not receiving an apology. For what? For blocking him out? Why is she blocking him out? Is it him that has offended and can not admit? Is it some interference from another ? Extended family causing pressures? New prospect ? As respondents we are not informed enough to answer in any genuinely useful way. It is saddening to me though that it has to some degree revealed that there are many who are dissatisfied but soley put the blame on the Thai partner. Are farangs/expats such paragons of virtue? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigginhill Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 1 hour ago, oldhippy said: In 12 years not once a "I'm sorry". After every psychotic breakdown of her, I wait it out. 3 days, and she is normal again. It's happening right now again - on holiday in Madeira. Oh, and by the way, we married when I was 57, and she 54. And I never ever reminded her that she was bankrupt and living in a delapidated building, 3 families with 1 toilet / thai shower. Sorry not the OP but oldhippy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
473geo Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 9 minutes ago, BritManToo said: No need to ever hear the woman's side, they just bitch and whine AWALT. NAWALT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dumbastheycome Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 "Oh, and by the way, we married when I was 57, and she 54. And I never ever reminded her that she was bankrupt and living in a delapidated building, 3 families with 1 toilet / thai shower." And so because you "took her away from all That" you expect eternal gratitude and unquestioning loyalty and obedience? A more affluent existence does not guarantee a happier one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Muton Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 1 hour ago, Dumbastheycome said: Yes. And genuine. On occasion. And visa versa. Shits happens. We get over it. Life is. Same here, sometimes I'm an <deleted>, sometimes she is. Fortunately it's not too often and not at the same time. Agree with the earlier comment about not sleeping on an argument. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhippy Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 24 minutes ago, elliss said: Your not giving her anything , really . Why is she still with you ?. I smell a troll ... I do not understand your comment about not giving her anything. Then the troll comment. Are you sure you are not smelling your own rotten nose bone? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhippy Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 12 minutes ago, Dumbastheycome said: "Oh, and by the way, we married when I was 57, and she 54. And I never ever reminded her that she was bankrupt and living in a delapidated building, 3 families with 1 toilet / thai shower." And so because you "took her away from all That" you expect eternal gratitude and unquestioning loyalty and obedience? A more affluent existence does not guarantee a happier one. Gratitude? Obedience? No psychotic fits would be a nice start. Or at least apologies afterwards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dumbastheycome Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 7 minutes ago, oldhippy said: Gratitude? Obedience? No psychotic fits would be a nice start. Or at least apologies afterwards. lol. Psychotic? And you have survived many such? Or hysterical? Not an unusual female response to underlying frustrations. Yet you apparently keep "takin er along". Got to be something in it for yourself. ???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhippy Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 2 minutes ago, Dumbastheycome said: lol. Psychotic? And you have survived many such? Or hysterical? Not an unusual female response to underlying frustrations. Yet you apparently keep "takin er along". Got to be something in it for yourself. ???? At my age and being married to her I can't be too choosy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dumbastheycome Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 1 minute ago, oldhippy said: At my age and being married to her I can't be too choosy. Oh! Ok. Currently I have no need/desire for choices but I have them. Despicable me. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wreckingcountry Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 She's 38, I am 45Exactly! Mature behaviour isn’t part of the country’s female culture ! Another poster said his wife was sulking at 54 ! adolescentsSent from my iPhone using Thailand Forum - Thaivisa mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 40 minutes ago, Dumbastheycome said: And so because you "took her away from all That" you expect eternal gratitude and unquestioning loyalty and obedience? A more affluent existence does not guarantee a happier one. I'd rather be miserable in air-conditioned luxury with a 60" TV, than miserable in a corrugated iron hut with bed bugs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wreckingcountry Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 Ok. This question has been put in an open forum so any reply is valid in some sense or other. Problem is that rather than provide constructive response is more likely and has happened provoke some general revelations of discontent. It now occurs to my thoughts that the OP is asking about not receiving an apology. For what? For blocking him out? Why is she blocking him out? Is it him that has offended and can not admit? Is it some interference from another ? Extended family causing pressures? New prospect ? As respondents we are not informed enough to answer in any genuinely useful way. It is saddening to me though that it has to some degree revealed that there are many who are dissatisfied but soley put the blame on the Thai partner. Are farangs/expats such paragons of virtue?Completely wrong analysis and conclusion ! All your guess work ! Many ..and I mean a lot of us understand exactly what the OP and others who have followed up are saying .. and how...? We’ve had the same experience !Sent from my iPhone using Thailand Forum - Thaivisa mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dumbastheycome Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 3 minutes ago, BritManToo said: I'd rather be miserable in air-conditioned luxury with a 60" TV, than miserable in a corrugated iron hut with bed bugs. Ok. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhippy Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 5 minutes ago, wreckingcountry said: Exactly! Mature behaviour isn’t part of the country’s female culture ! Another poster said his wife was sulking at 54 ! adolescents Sent from my iPhone using Thailand Forum - Thaivisa mobile app 555 ----- 52 when we got married, she is now 63! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
surangw Posted February 24, 2019 Share Posted February 24, 2019 depends on what in it for her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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