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BANGKOK 26 April 2019 14:54
Boomhauer

I Don't Like My Wife's Parents.

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We don't get on anymore. We used to, but our relationship has massively deteriorated, partly due to miscommunication and cultural differences. Now when I am in their vicinity I tend to ignore them totally and be kind of standoffish in my demeanor. Please don't think this is a harsh stance to take, they have given me more than enough reason to behave in this manner.

 

Anyone else had trouble with the in laws? It doesn't faze me much but I would prefer we had a constructive relationship instead of ignoring each other and not making eye contact etc.. I am willing to change and have tried many times to put things right but they are very stubborn and set in their ways, possibly a cultural thing, not sure. I worry that my child will suffer in the long run from the toxic environment that this kind of a relationship naturally creates. 

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43 minutes ago, Boomhauer said:

Anyone else had trouble with the in laws?

you are lower status than the parents. are you younger than the parents? what is their age?

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I really love my inlaws. On occasion I have had problems with things I know have been said and done, and what I have found to be very successful is I just forget it and reset like it never happened. Because, let's face it, have I acted perfectly? Have i never done anything they found offensive? 

 

Just realize these things go both ways, try to shun the thought that you have any sort of moral or logical high ground, and act like a reset has taken place next time you see them. Because one thing I have noticed they can have short memories when it comes to disagreements etc, which is great. 

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1 minute ago, NCC1701A said:

you are lower status than the parents. are you younger than the parents?

How am I lower status than the parents and how does that relate to my current problems?

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1 minute ago, Boomhauer said:

How am I lower status than the parents and how does that relate to my current problems?

do you know anything about Thai status and class? parents are automatically of a higher status because of their age.

 

so please answer the question. what is their age? how old are you? 

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8 minutes ago, NCC1701A said:

do you know anything about Thai status and class? parents are automatically of a higher status because of their age.

 

so please answer the question. what is their age? how old are you? 

I am 62. My wife is 23 and her mum is 42 and dad 48. 

 

So now what?

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3 minutes ago, petermik said:

I,m sorry but with the "so now what" tone of your reply to a perfectly acceptable question leads me to understand why you have difficulty with your in-laws :sad:

I was responding to the tone of his previous post where he asked "so please answer the question." and "do I know anything about Thai status and class." I found that tone to be rather condescending.. 

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Your old enough to be mums father. They tolerate you because you provide a service as does your wife. Try telling them Your out of $ and see them all run for the hills. Personally i wouldn't visit the in laws, just send your wife

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1 minute ago, baansgr said:

Not criticising your relationship but I can only imagine how I would feel if a man 40 years senior married my daughter....Maybe the honeymoon period of sin sod etc has worn off and the reality has hit home.

Either way I cant win can I?

 

Too young - They don't respect me.

 

Too old - They don't respect me.

 

What's a man to do?

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8 minutes ago, madmen said:

Your old enough to be mums father. They tolerate you because you provide a service as does your wife. Try telling them Your out of $ and see them all run for the hills. Personally i wouldn't visit the in laws, just send your wife

Yes. They still take my money every month.(substantial amounts)

 

they used to smile as i gave it to them, now they dont even look at me.

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