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I worry daughter is to generous to Mom and family.

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there is another solution if you insist on having a thai gf,

get someone considerably richer then you and money wont even become a topic, but that does mean she will only see you on her terms in other ways

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11 minutes ago, brokenbone said:

there is another solution if you insist on having a thai gf,

get someone considerably richer then you and money wont even become a topic, but that does mean she will only see you on her terms in other ways

She will drop you sooner or later as you are not a good investment.

 

How many posters on TVF have faced the time when they are informed-by word or deed-that they are no longer a "good investment"?

 

The Thai are usually quite brutal about it.

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42 minutes ago, Odysseus123 said:

She will drop you sooner or later as you are not a good investment.

 

 

 

That's ok. I would rather get dumped by a rich Thai woman (it happened to me already) for being a poor investment than being dumped by a poor Thai woman for stopping her monthly contributions. You'd probably be far ahead if you just dated a better off woman in the first place. 

 

My wife of 4 years has a decent job and doesn't ever ask me for money, but she sure whinges about me being a Cheap Charlie when looking at her friends Facebook posts who apparently did so much better than her. 

 

 

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I have better financial and family options but I am trying kety animal pick.  Luckily my brain is still I'm charge of fact finding and the final choice.  

 

Are those Chinese tourists crackable?  Some days they are the cutest things I see. 

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3 minutes ago, Elkski said:

Are those Chinese tourists crackable?  Some days they are the cutest things I see. 

 

I get a lot of smiles and eye contact even when they are with their boyfriends. Then my wife shows up with her pitbull face, so....

 

If I'm gonna have to try this it's gonna have to be soon before I get too old.

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1 hour ago, Odysseus123 said:

She will drop you sooner or later as you are not a good investment.

 

How many posters on TVF have faced the time when they are informed-by word or deed-that they are no longer a "good investment"?

 

The Thai are usually quite brutal about it.

she is so well off so she didnt need an investment,

but since it was never going to advance from just sex when she felt for it, i eventually dropped it. probably a mistake on my behalf, i cant get any better then that apparently,

and i stopped trying long ago

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3 hours ago, puchooay said:

 

 

Another classic Thai Visa "one size fits all" thread.

 

 

Expats that are in positions and have opinions as quoted above have, sadly, married/lived with the wrong person.

Disagree . My GF is right for me. I am comfortable with her family, who never ask for money. I occasionally shell out for birthdays, not large sums.

There are a few posters on TV who claim they give their Thai wives/GF's nothing. Or their significant other works to support them in idle luxury. I reach for the salt shaker after reading.

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"none have government jobs so mom has no government health care."

 

Not at all true. ALL Thais not covered by another scheme, are covered by the Universal Health scheme and have access to free care (or for a token 30 baht) through the government hospital system.

 

If this woman is telling you otherwise she is lying and that should give you pause.

 

"if I get serious with this gal  and down the road, mom or some family member has s big hospital bill or something am I going to be expected to support all?"

 

See above re hospital bills.

 

That aside, there is little doubt that you would be expected to help support the family, at least if this woman stops working (and later when she retires). 

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18 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Disagree . My GF is right for me. I am comfortable with her family, who never ask for money. I occasionally shell out for birthdays, not large sums.

There are a few posters on TV who claim they give their Thai wives/GF's nothing. Or their significant other works to support them in idle luxury. I reach for the salt shaker after reading.

But you did say "Farangs will always come second. Get used to it."

 

You need to change the word "always" as I for one do not need to get used to it as it simply is not true in our relationship.

 

Then again I have never called my wife "Thai wife" and she never refers to me as "Farang". That probably has something to do with it.

 

 

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I knew of 30 baht health care for all.  She never mentioned healthcare.  But I heard sometimes the wait can be lengthy and maybe for some illnesses the outcome maybe better at a different facility do I think sometime people choose a non 30 baht facility.    We are talking about this more. 

I guess she has sent 3000-5000 most months.  I guess that is 3-4 dinners out to sacrifice.    I just find it odd that there isn't communication 

Between siblings about a what they give mom. 

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2 hours ago, puchooay said:

But you did say "Farangs will always come second. Get used to it."

 

You need to change the word "always" as I for one do not need to get used to it as it simply is not true in our relationship.

 

Then again I have never called my wife "Thai wife" and she never refers to me as "Farang". That probably has something to do with it.

 

 

I would like to know how you can divine the innermost thoughts of another person. You should be a multi-millionaire if you have that faculty.

My GF and I treat one another with mutual respect. A good foundation for a relationship.

I suppose your opinion will be put to the test when a serious family crisis occurs. Report back after that.

 

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4 hours ago, Pravda said:

 

That's ok. I would rather get dumped by a rich Thai woman (it happened to me already) for being a poor investment than being dumped by a poor Thai woman for stopping her monthly contributions. You'd probably be far ahead if you just dated a better off woman in the first place. 

 

My wife of 4 years has a decent job and doesn't ever ask me for money, but she sure whinges about me being a Cheap Charlie when looking at her friends Facebook posts who apparently did so much better than her. 

 

 

Well said.

 

A very realistic post and certainly one that I can identify with!

 

Keep on truckin'...

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We give 5k a quarter and send 1250 baht of nourishment foods a month.

 

In the future we will provide care and accommodation to them but not on there terms. I doubt they would want to leave there village and there is zero chance of us moving there.

 

My concern is the sister and her BF. Been together 7 years started to ask questions about pregnancy tests recently. Gotta feeling we would have to take care of the child as both work. Im not against it but the terms of such an arrangement would be interesting to hear.

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6 hours ago, Elkski said:

I may be too stingy for this type of relationship.

OP, I think its clear that with this post (and many others you have posted) that you continue to look at relationships and women like a mathematical algorithm and that you can quantify all her intentions now and later. Just doesn't work that way.

 

Relationships are always a "work in progress" from the day you meet.  If you and her are happy the rest usually always works out. If you are trying to dial it all in and not remain flexible, then its destined to fail. simple as that.

 

I suggest you stay single and date. This way when the math doesn't work out, you can just move on. 😉  

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26 minutes ago, Rc2702 said:

My concern is the sister and her BF. Been together 7 years started to ask questions about pregnancy tests recently.

 Using contraception for 7 years is very mature and responsible for Thailand. 

Do not see why they cannot both work and take care of a child, funds to pay for day care etc...  after the baby is born

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