What to do now Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 HELP! After several months of talking to a Thai lady on the net I flew to Thailand to meet her. We spent some together ,and before I left she already was talking about getting married ( yes I know a RED flag ). But I do care about her and told her maybe in the future this could happen. In her mind I guess this was as good as a proposal. Now she's heavily pressing that we marry a.s.a.p. I have many concerns, 1- she wants to come to the USA where I live. This wouldn't be a major problem for me if she didn't have children. that's right...she wants to leave her children with family while comes to the USA. I have never met the children and do not feel it is right to marry her without some sort of connection with them. 2- I'm seeing she does have huge emotional swings. One minute I am her one and only, next she tells me I do not care about her and do not love her ( this happens usually when i tell her we need to slow down on the getting married part). 3- I think she wants to come to the USA ,get a job and send all her money back home, while I am expected to pay all the bills her and I aquire. So...do i follow my heart and press forward with a woman I have grown to love , or follow my mind and run like hell from a potential disaster? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
timendres Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 Grow a pair. Dump this nightmare before it gets out of control. As for #3, she is coming to America to get positioned to divorce you and get whatever compensation she can, once she lines up the next sucker. You will not likely get her to the USA without a fiance Visa. Have you actually read the agreement that you are making with the Federal Government if you bring her to the USA to marry? If that does not scare you out of your shorts, then you don't understand it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inn Between Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 Okay, I'll take the bait, even though I can't believe this is a legitimate post. Read you own words again, OP, and I think you'll see the only possible answer is very clear. Any woman who will dump her own children, has wild mood swings and starts pushing to get married basically from day one should set the alarms ringing and red lights flashing dangerously. Run Forest, run!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andux Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 Way too many red flags. You can try telling her the truth, which is that you don't even know each other yet, and getting married at this point is way too fast. Tell her you need to date for at least a few years to really get to know her and her children. My guess is that she will cry or try to manipulate you again, but don't give in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Traubert Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 That's the third one today. We need a Dear Dierdre forum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaRoadrunner Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 So many similar posts "Weird wife" ... "Wife out of control" ... etc. Yep, Thais are weird. Their behaviour in any given situation makes no sense to a foreigner. As for this one, I'd do what I do best.... a runner! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Puchaiyank Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 Marrying an expat is akin to winning the national lottery. If you want to see just how much she loves and cares for you...tell her you have experienced some financial setbacks and will have to carefully plan your expenses...which excludes having money for her... Her response will indicate if this relationship is primarily a business deal... Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmen Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 This time never got past the first word "HELP!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steven100 Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 here we go again ..... bla ...bla ...bla what should i do. Answer: Just get married ... what could possibly go wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PatOngo Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 Buy her a house and a car in Thailand and she'll be happy, don't forget to throw in some gold as well...everything will work out fine!....Oh, did I mention a new iPhone? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jerojero Posted May 30, 2019 Share Posted May 30, 2019 Run Forest run! Immediately cut her loose! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CharlieH Posted May 30, 2019 Share Posted May 30, 2019 Off topic posts removed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
david555 Posted May 30, 2019 Share Posted May 30, 2019 Sometimes a single man feel lonely …..but oh so worry free ... reading about the married or in a steady relation ones …. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
david555 Posted May 30, 2019 Share Posted May 30, 2019 1 hour ago, jerojero said: Run Forest run! Immediately cut her loose! and brush away your trail & footsteps Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petermik Posted May 30, 2019 Share Posted May 30, 2019 This lady sounds a keeper..ideal for you,marry her ASAP and spend the rest of your life in bliss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 Seriously? Run. Don't tell her where you are going to live, but far away from her. Change your phone number. They have mind control when you are with them. After you have left you will realise how close you were to disaster. Never get involved with a Thai woman that will leave her family and move to another country permanently. In my experience they wouldn't do that, so it's a temporary thing in her mind, whatever she says ( my wife said a lot of things before we got married that she didn't mean, like "I will love you forever" ). Had I taken my wife to home country, she'd have been on next plane home had her mother got sick and gone to hospital ( which she did frequently ). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wisperone Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 Cough...troll post...Cough Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornishcarlos Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 Seems these newbie troll posts are becoming a regular part of TVF... I would say it's someone that has something to gain !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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