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1 hour ago, marcusarelus said:

My brother in law lent me a tractor and a truck.  Said bring them back whenever, a year or two OK.  Glad I don't know you. 

Sounds like you are quite the "taker" - - surely glad I don't know you as well... 

 

1 hour ago, marcusarelus said:

Adolescent behavior.  Adults have the lady borrow 4 mill and the male makes the payments.  Hence you become an important family asset.  If you leave the family goes broke because they can't make the payments. 

 

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Just wait until your wife hits that 'time of life'

Doesn't matter what nationality, standard of education or financial status, at times it will make you feel like running for the hills.

Don't believe all the crap about being understanding and showing patience blah blah.

It's like trying to smile and be nice to five bad tempered gorillas.

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2 minutes ago, malibukid said:

hide the knives

A woman at 'that time' doesn't need knives. 

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16 minutes ago, GinBoy2 said:

if there is a difference in the expectations of farang men, based on how old they are.

In the UK, I expected to have sex once a month with my Brit wife.

In Thailand, I expected to have sex whenever I felt like it with my Thai wife.

So yes my expectations changed with my age (and also with my location).

 

My dads expectations in the UK, didn't exceed my expectation in the UK, that's just the way Brit women are.

My dad did expect my mom to do everything in the home for him, but then he was out all day working herd to earn the money that paid for everything while she sat around at home all day.

 

In a partnership of equals, I would expect 'her' to earn 50% of the household income.

Unfortunately modern women seem to expect a totally free ride.

Until 'she' can pay 50%, 'she' ain't my equal.

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My wife & I met, dated, then lived together about 3 years before we made it official....

No red flags during that time or since....None....

Middle class family that asks for nothing but mutual respect & love....

Uni degree & strong willed, she remembers growing up with 2 pencils allotted for school....She worked 17 years in management for an international corporation....

These many years later one daughter now entering a Uni...The other not far behind = we might move her to a different school so we can spend more months travelling together....We're basically rarely away from each other & we prefer it that way....We lack for nothing - but don't have to have everything.....Never has a bad thought for anybody - or attitude....

 

Its about:

 

85% closeness & happiness....

05% gentle culture clash at times....

 

And

 

About 10% - I Love Lucy episodes - - - I'm sure I'm not alone in this one & many can identify.....

 

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3 hours ago, possum1931 said:

How many times have you cheated?😀

Individual times or on women?  Only counting wives or GF's too?  Is cheating normal definition or Clinton definition?  Cheating in my heart of physical cheating?  Is oral sex really cheating?  If she climaxed but I didn't does that count?  If wife cheated first with my best friend does that count?  Does it count in wartime?

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1 hour ago, GinBoy2 said:

I was pondering about this, if there is a difference in the expectations of farang men, based on how old they are.

We are somewhat different in as much as my Thai wife grew up in the US, and we only lived in Thailand for a decade, so her world view is pretty much aligned with mine, plus we're almost the same age.

And as it turns out, I'm now the House Husband, and she's the working stiff.

 

But I wonder if some of the older farangs go to Thailand looking for something akin to that of their parents.

 

A lot of us were born in the 50's and 60's and saw the relationship between our parents. It was a different world, a world of basically where the woman did everything.

 

I'm an American Hispanic, and rarely for my generation was an only child. My Mother did everything for my Father, his laundry, cooked all his food, to the degree than when she died, my Dad was basically clueless on how to boil an egg, let alone be able to live by himself

 

Yet she was determined that I would be able to stand on my own two feet, taught me to cook, do everything by myself, she always said, "You're going to be different to your Dad" which she said not in a bad way, she loved him, but she recognized the world had to change for the next generation

 

I think thats where the younger farangs in Thailand come from, more a partnership of equals with a Thai woman.

 

I fear many older farangs come to Thailand with the expectation of recreating that relationship they saw with their Mom & Dad from the 50's, which is a recipe for ultimate disaster, especially when trying to recreate that fantasy is through money and a power imbalance

I probably came here from similar equal relationships in Australia and wasnt looking for the old school relationship but to a certain extent its turned into that. Its a good balance though, the good aspects from the traditional role relationship combined with being equals like modern western relationships. 

I did the other end of the spectrum back in Australia, house husband and wife ran our business etc, it failed miserably. In the post-mortem we both agreed we were lost without some of the traditional roles. I think there is maybe even a genetic aspect, male hunter gatherer and female nurturing etc.

 

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10 minutes ago, Peterw42 said:

I probably came here from similar equal relationships in Australia and wasnt looking for the old school relationship but to a certain extent its turned into that. Its a good balance though, the good aspects from the traditional role relationship combined with being equals like modern western relationships. 

I did the other end of the spectrum back in Australia, house husband and wife ran our business etc, it failed miserably. In the post-mortem we both agreed we were lost without some of the traditional roles. I think there is maybe even a genetic aspect, male hunter gatherer and female nurturing etc.

 

My Thai wife is a hard working engineer and I stay home and clean and nurture the dog and tokays.  I do gather mulberry's.  

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54 minutes ago, marcusarelus said:

Individual times or on women?  Only counting wives or GF's too?  Is cheating normal definition or Clinton definition?  Cheating in my heart of physical cheating?  Is oral sex really cheating?  If she climaxed but I didn't does that count?  If wife cheated first with my best friend does that count?  Does it count in wartime?

Full penetrative sex only on women. Anything else is not cheating.

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Are you married to a Thai woman – Any Snippets of Advice. 

 

Anyone has own opinion about marriage. I don’t need it, because It won’t add any positive point to my current life. We can just live together and no worries about her family. And they respect me enough as as a life partner. 

 

 

 

 

 

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been there done that, only one advise Run, Run as fast as you can.. regardless of what many here say (they are/have been happily married for several years and so forth) some might be/are in a miserable relationship and will not tell how much s... they had/still take on a daily basis, not worth the head ache, GF is the easy way, not happy move to next one, no strings attached but I am not saying anything new here, many have already suggested the same.....

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Are you married to a Thai woman – Any Snippets of Advice?

Yes,  if you are inclined to occasionally play away from home make sure it's far away because if she finds out through the jungle drums, bush telegraph etc, she will wait until you are asleep then SNIPPET.🦆🦆

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