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How do thai guys save enough for marriage?

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On 7/26/2019 at 5:30 AM, NCC1701A said:

the real question is, how does a 63 year old Farang man party with girls ten times hotter than your girlfriend and two at a time for a fraction of  what you have spent?

 

and they take the trash out.

just remember,

she is different

she can speak 15 languages,

she looks younger than she is

she has 15 masters, and earns $1m baht

 

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very selective hearing and not too much deep thinking on your part, about the views and motives of others, especially Thai families, or even your TGF, is a definite must here. Go play golf and forget you ever heard anything. 

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On 7/26/2019 at 1:48 AM, Davo369 said:

Are you having a laugh.......

Sin sod?

For engagement?

Hahahaha.

Sin sod for marriage?

No way.

 

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Before I got married I met and got to know her family. We (her parents included) cut off all connections with the extended family as all they could see was money, not family. If your fiance's family are good, they should not care about the neighbours or ask for all that gold and money. If you want to play their games go ahead, but your life will likely become more difficult by doing so.

 

Regarding your gold related question nobody is answering as it doesn't look like anyone thinks you are doing the right thing.

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On 7/26/2019 at 10:15 AM, Solidpoo said:

 

Not to mention renovation for her parent's 30 year old house seem to be resting on my shoulders (probably after marrying). Despite having 3 older working siblings, which should be contributing to her parent's income. All i got when asked why aren't your siblings helping out with finances, atleast for changing of the roof or doors was "you dont understand", "sister/brother no sabai", "my family not same your family". 

you have been warned.

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Just a couple of points:

 

- If you already know that the western custom of engagement is not common practice here (in fact it's basically unknown) then why engage in it? You just invite problems.

 

- Why tell all this details about the marriage sin-sod well in advance to everybody and therefore give time for gossip and re-gossip? Give this detail just a few days before the wedding, do the wedding and quickly move on to being happy and avoiding money / gold etc.., discussions.

 

Show the lady and her family you are a good man, but don't give handouts and especially to other family members. If they ask just quickly say that you have no more money (and don't give any display of wealth) and quickly change the subject. 

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If this is real you are a complete idiot and should not be coming to Thailand. Obviously you have not done any homework.  This is a very very old tradition and it wasn’t about showing money but having a marriage party where  everyone contributed food such as chicken, rice and pork and other types of food.  Because of people like you this stupid cycle just keeps going round and round. When will this end it’s happened so much it’s so boring. In the Western world the woman’s family is the one who supposed to pay for the wedding, wake the <deleted> up. 

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OP, luckily you had that engagement ceremony as a trial run for the real thing, in a way it was money well spent - if you draw the right conclusions.

 

Now that your fiancee and her family have failed your gold digger test, there's only one sensible option: run!

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Make a secured loan.  Offer sin sod, but get it back within 48 hours.  Get some collateral, such as some cattle.  If she and her family really want you—they’ll do it.

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On 7/25/2019 at 8:34 PM, Solidpoo said:

So my question is,

1)how the hell does a thai man who on average earns 15,000 per month save enough to marry a thai girl, ever. While with the amount i make im struggling.

 

2) she wants a bullion for her tong mun, since she doesnt wear jewellry. So im thinking of getting a 100g PAMP bar. Could i bring it into thailand as a carry on item ? Or would i have to buy it there? 

 

Any advice or tips would be much appreciated 

It's a question of family status, rather than what a young man earn per month.

 

A uni-grade lady might well be considered worth more than an uneducated farm girl, but the sin sot reflects the status of the families, and most important "face". Money are counted loud and shown in cash together with the gold, during a typical Thai wedding ceremony. Some times the money is for show only, and returned the the groom, or his family, after being showed.

 

It happens that the groom, or his family, borrows money for a wedding ceremony.

 

A young village farmer girl will typically be worth between 100,000 baht and up to around 300,000 baht in sin sot. For the girl at this village wedding in 2011 sin sot was 110,000 baht (might be more in 2019 value) plus an agreed amount of gold – already hanging on the neck of the bride, and on her fingers, so not in my photo – money was counted loud and slowly, so everybody could follow the numbers...
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A young lady from a higher social level, or larger farm, might well be worth a million baht and up in sin sot, plus gold and diamonds. It looked like 1.2 million in cash, plus gold and diamond ring, at this wedding in 2013, plus a quite impressive and expensive party paid by the groom (or his family)...

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I know Thai couples that are saving up money themselves during engagement for sin sot for their future wedding, if their families cannot afford it. Often the lady is handed the full pay check (or rather cash) from the groom-to-be, then she's giving him a bit of pocket money, and save the balance together with what she can add from her own salary. It's pairs with working class salaries in levels from 12-15k baht to 25k baht a month (assistant cook, waiter, store assistant, auto painter worker). It can take a couple of years to save up for sin sot and a wedding party, which easily can cost another 50k baht to 100k baht.

 

2)

You are not allowed to import gold to Thailand – apart from personal jewelry that you wear – and as gold prices are pretty much international, you could probably buy it for same in Thailand. Furthermore, buying Thai gold, with Thai stamps, and in Thai weight "baht" instead of gram, makes it more easy to sell – or pawn – and might well be considered more genuine than imported farang-gold.

 

 

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read this book!!!!! don't send her shi@ get out now..index.jpg.828b8bd8a57ce0feb6e189a3c45e62c4.jpg

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