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On 7/26/2019 at 1:48 AM, Davo369 said:

Are you having a laugh.......

I agree........is this really true or some guy just wrote this for a wind up

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23 hours ago, thaijoe said:

read this book!!!!! don't send her shi@ get out now..index.jpg.828b8bd8a57ce0feb6e189a3c45e62c4.jpg

Exactly.........good book......then multiply the content by 10 and consider it a true story.

Thats what you are headed for.

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On 7/26/2019 at 9:18 AM, NCC1701A said:

i am not sure which troll post i like better, this or the "I am inhering a large sum, should I tell my Thai wife?" 

You and I think a lot alike.  Lolol

 

Some of the questions here are beyond my comprehension.........and I thought it was just me......lmao

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On 7/28/2019 at 1:32 PM, justin case said:

what do you do to earn 100k baht ? tell us please, I want in 🙂 

You can go and work for Agoda, I remember they were paying up to 120k usd per year for top notch IT people.  

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Are you F crazy?

 

You give them 240k THB a year

 

Now 120k for engagement and 400k for sinsod?

 

For a farmer in the middle of nowhere? They saw you coming lol

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Dump her cos after you Marry you Have to Support Her Family as Well,   There are plenty more honest fish in the Sea!!!

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On 7/28/2019 at 10:53 AM, SenorJorge said:

If she has any real feelings for you she'll stick around.  If she wants to simply control a free paycheck,  she'll get a new farang.  That simple.

Just a joke but whenever I hear about a sick or dead buffalo I always think of it as  replacing some guy who tried his best but called it quits.

 

 

 

A point to consider is that there is a one in a million chance that you will ever

be accepted as a Thai would be in Thailand much less as a Thai in a Thai marriage. This means that for all intents and purposes , you are not only trying to be something you are not , you are also trying to become something you will never be. This is why it's a problem for you in the first place.  It's like a guy applying for a job as an engineer who has no education credentials or job experience but he tries to fudge his way through until he gets caught and fired.  I'm not saying it's hopeless. I'm saying you should deal with it on it's own merit. Is it really a relationship does she really love you , or is it just the business transaction your original post seems to describe. 

I've seen two school teachers who loved each other become millionaires over time while raising a family and living within their means so it's not impossible for you two to do something together as opposed to you being the  "buffalo"

who gets sick and dies working your @$$  off to support her family's wants and needs. 

Right , they have expectations for their daughter but your expectations for a wife are not outweighed in the negotiations.   

 

 

 

 

 

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I know there are services that rent out piles of cash and gold to show 'face' at wedding.

 

People are known to borrow their friends and go into debt for a big wedding.

 

Mostly lower class people though.

 

 

Do you know that you can recoup the cost of the wedding from the gifts in the invitation envelope the guest are expect to give back right? some even make a profit, negotiate that you and your newlywed wife gets to keep this, away from her family in lieu of all that sinsod shit

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Everything you write about this girl, her family, and friends and villagers tells me that you should get out now. This is not normal, you are being taken advantage of.

You said engagement isn't normal, yet you still gave money. Why? You're giving the family 20% of your income. Why? An amount of Sin Sod was agreed upon, yet family members are passive aggressively making you feel bad by comparing to others who may or may not have got more. This family don't see you as a son-in-law, they see you as a source of income. And that is all you will ever be. The precedent has been set, and will lead to ongoing problems throughout the duration of your marriage.

In summary, getting married to this woman will be a mistake that you will lead to frustration, anger, and unhappiness.

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As you know getting engaged is not really a thing there, even her family wasnt sure about the procedure so they asked for 50k and 2 baht of gold.

 

How much do you know about her? She doesn't want any Thai baht, only some gold from time to time. What could go wrong? 

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Not sure if OP is a troll, because I see expats (farangs and men from Korea/Japan) get exploited by their Thai girflriends on a daily basis. 

 

OP: If you are not a troll, and you really love this girl, at least date her for a few more years before even talking about marriage. You are going too fast; it feels like they are rushing you into marriage. That in itself is a huge red flag, and then you have all the other red flags such as all the money you are paying, the fact that you'll have to pay for their house repairs, etc.

 

Imagine if this girl was Canadian, would you accept this BS? Exactly, there's your answer. I suggest you stop the allowance, refuse to pay for the house repairs, and see what happens. 99% chance she dumps your ass, which would be a great victory for your wallet and sanity.

 

If she doesn't dump your ass and is fine without your money, then you might have found a keeper there. 

 

On the other hand, if you don't mind being a sucker, keep paying up.

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Solid, IGNORE everything you read on this forum, and look it from what you need done.

 

You are already into this for a sum of money.

 

Your intentions are to get her out of Thailand and to your country at the earliest.

 

Therefore, SIMPLY negotiate the lowest balance amount to be paid (or loaned) at the wedding, and TAKE HER HOME, end of story!

 

Then, pray for a happy life with your new wife.

 

If it doesn't work out, it wasn't that much of a loss in proportion to your income, but there is NO reason why it shouldn't work out, with both of you back in your country!

 

If she asks you to send money home, tell her you don't have it, or are saving up for your kids, etc., and BE FIRM from now on.

 

That advice will stand you in great stead with ANY girl, and ANY part of the world....   BE FIRM, ALWAYS.

 

Best Of Luck!

 

 

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On 7/29/2019 at 4:43 AM, Captain 776 said:

I married this beautiful lady 10 yrs ago.......paid NOTHING.

When I met her she had been at same job 23 yrs.

I am now 67.....she is 60

Her Dad was Army here in Thailand 30 yrs, needs NOTHING from me.

When Mom n Dad put addition on their already nice house and made new western type kitchen, I wanted to buy them a real nice high end side by side refrigerator........they said thank you, but no need.

 

If you are REQUIRED to pay......RUN AWAY~!!

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She’s very pretty, nice story, good job!!!

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Wow! You really can’t see what’s happening? Seriously? I’d learn the word No in Thai and use it early and often!


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