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Help!! my ex will take me to court cause said i abducted his son which i didn't!

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Hello all. 

 

I need an urgent advise about my problem. Me and my ex husband has lots of problem when we was together in the uk and one day he said <deleted> off me back to thailand. So i did left the uk returned back to Thailand with my boy ( 2y7m ) on March. After all i did tried contact my ex but he denied me and told me not contact him. so till 1st Aug he texted me said he is now ready for the divorce and want to discuss about child arrangement. He will pay the child support and want me to written sign it only guarantee if he can meet his son and take him see his family in the uk regular. but i say no, he will not go to the uk without me but you can come and meet him anytime.

 

So he doesn't want that. He will go and take me to the court as he has spoke to his lawyer and the lawyer advise him i abduction his son without his permission and since i left the uk i didn't tell him or give him information when i will return back to the uk. ( He has cancelled my visa and it has expired) 

 

I would like to know if he can win me and can take my son back to the uk as he said to me!!

 

please i'm so stressful sorry if my English wasn't clear. Any advise i'm very appreciate. 

 

 

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It's extreme unlikely that any court will make a decision to take away your son from you.

One big reason is that the son is now with you and was in the last months with you. They won't make a decision to remove your son from you.

For the rest I agree, get professional advice. But don't worry about your son. Nobody will take him away from you.

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so you demand that he has to come to thailand to see his son, and you wont let the son go to Uk,

 

and now you are complaining about him getting upset and making threats, and still expect him to pay

 

Funny

 

the sense of entitlement for women doenst change no matter what country

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GET A GOOD LAWYER that deals in British law.  DO NOT GET A THAI LAWYER.  

No offence but if they are Thai they have no idea about the British systems and have no contacts.  Use a large firm it may cost you more but you will get the results you need.

 

If I were you I would file for divorce in Thailand and make sure that the only visitation he has is at your home with you and at least one other male present.   I am using S!am Egal to assist me with a divorce in canada.

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On 8/6/2019 at 5:37 PM, AlexRich said:

The UK courts have no jurisdiction in Thailand. So any court decision would have no effect on a Thai living in Thailand. Your husband would have to take his case to a Thai court. I very much doubt that a Thai court would order you to return your son to the UK. I really don’t think that you have to do anything. I don’t think you have anything to worry about. 

I know of many cases like this in the past. Husband could easily take the child and you would have to fight for it later. He can make claim you kidnapped the child because child was born in the UK and you don't have letter authorizing you his permission to leave the UK with your kid. 

If he gets a hold of your child you should be prepared to fight to get it back. I would suggest you agree to his terms of visitations alone but he must keep the child in Thailand. If he has the child in the UK and you are not there he can keep the child as long as he wants to. If he visits Thailand and travels around with the kid inside Thailand then he must follow Thai laws and return the kid to you or he will be accused of kidnapping and arrested. He does have the right to visitation though as the child's father and can demand it alone without you near. 

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In a Thai court they will favor you - you are a woman and you are Thai.  In an English court they will absolutely destroy him and force him to pay you 1/2 or more of his salary or pension under threat of prison (if in the US) and I think they yank your passport in England although that may only be the US and Australia.  He has no rights whatsoever in England you are holding all the cards.  And you probably know all of this already.  All you really have to do is say "I feel threatened" and the courts will descend on him like a pack of wolves and he'll never see his son again but if he misses a payment his life is over.

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10 minutes ago, remorhaz said:

In a Thai court they will favor you - you are a woman and you are Thai.  In an English court they will absolutely destroy him and force him to pay you 1/2 or more of his salary or pension under threat of prison (if in the US) and I think they yank your passport in England although that may only be the US and Australia.  He has no rights whatsoever in England you are holding all the cards.  And you probably know all of this already.  All you really have to do is say "I feel threatened" and the courts will descend on him like a pack of wolves and he'll never see his son again but if he misses a payment his life is over.

Ramblings.

There is a formula for child maintenance in the UK and it is not 50% of salary. You can do the calculation on their website (Child Maintenance Service UK

https://www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenance.)

 

Passport retention and denial  is a US thing.

 

Also non payment has a process to be followed on the same website.

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British court would make a decision solely on the best interests of the child.  A moot point if the child is in Thailand, unless he ends up back in Britain for whatever reason.

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@killangel What nationality are you? What nationality is your husband? What nationality is your son?

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@killangel A few questions. Does the child have a British Passport?  Did your husband send you any money for support of your son and you in Thailand?  Please keep ALL records of contacts between the two of you (texts/emails) especially the text where he says don't contact me. They can disprove his alegations that you took the child and then not tell him how to contact you or send support. Will prove he did not care to know where you were to send support if goes to Thai court. So if goes to Divorice court and he says she took him and I didn't know where they were or when/if she wascoming back and then you show texts/emails showing he did contact you but saiid don't contact me that will showed he lied about those facts. In USA court that would be lying under oath (Perjury) and he would probably lose case and could face jail time.

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If the child is a British citizen then you may find yourself in a world of pain.... If the child is a Thai national then there are no issues,  However,  don't expect any money off the father if you took the child without him knowing  👍

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