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How many of you came to Thailand divorced or Separated?

How many of you are separated/ divorced and then came to Thailand?  

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On 8/18/2019 at 2:14 PM, OneMoreFarang said:

I always liked pretty cute girls. At "home" they mostly ignored me.

Maybe they allowed me to buy them dinner and drinks but that was about it.

So I never married because I didn't want to accept 2nd rate girls.

And then I discovered that there are many pretty cute girls in Thailand who like to have fun. And I never regretted it.

When I was young, at home, and goodlooking, playing in a band, I didn't have any problems getting girls, I always made sure that I treated them with respect.

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On 8/19/2019 at 3:22 PM, jaffas21 said:

i'm not divorced those are the guys you read all these horror stories about on stickmans guide to bkk readers submissions. No Ive never been married I researched Thai women so when I came here. I met one who started alarm bells when she wanted to get married and started more when she wanted $20k dowry for her heavily drinking father who as far as I could tell was funded totally by her. She was in debt already to the tune of 3M baht and if i loved her i'd help her pay it off.

 

When I analysed the situation I realised it was only comfortable older farangs  the ones i know giving their wives 30k per month to do the shopping that can afford a thai wife. (btw they are saving 10k a month for when you run out of money)

 

The uk is full of even middle aged guys like me with no pensions or huge payoff coming our way so we work and date filipinos instead they don't want your money, only a loving relationship ..

 

However there isnt a future here when you can't own the land run a business or do anything else your wife or gf is only there as long as the gravy train keeps pouring.

Good on you, for doing your research, and manning up. There are so many guys who come here, and make all the mistakes they made back home. They do not realize this place does not require that you surrender your cajones at the door. You can still be a man here, and alot of Thai women love and appreciate that. They want a strong man. How refreshing is that? 

 

A dowry of 600,000 baht might be appropriate for a woman who has never been married, has never had kids, has a university degree, is gorgeous, smart, and comes from a middle class, well established family. Anything short of that is just nonsense. These poor Issan woman hear about the stories of guys giving up huge sums of money, as these men do not get how emasculated they are, when they arrive, and do not understand how to change all that, and grow a set. So, the women ask crazy amounts of money, and some suckers pay it. What can one say? You get what you deserve.

 

If only more guys would come here, do the research, get an education about the locals, take their time getting to know someone (12-60 months is appropriate) and do the gender proud. 

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I was 32 years  married  with a Sino/Thai wife. When I came to Thailand. No children. My wife died 6 months after our arrival. Married again with another single Sino/Thai lady 17 years my junior.  She was never married and don't had children. I was 60 wen  I relocated to Thailand.. Never left the country.

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7 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

They charge by the kilo. 

Any idea how much per kilo? (Asking for a friend).

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On 8/18/2019 at 5:51 PM, DannyCarlton said:

I'll answer with a degree of trepidation as I don't want sanemax stalking me. God, he's brutal!

Sorry if my answers are pretty much identical to @kawasaki's we're not the same person with multiple accounts. Honest!

 

1. None of the above. I was happily married at the time. I retired early and came to backpack around S.E. Asia. My wife didn't come as she works and doesn't like travelling.

On my second visit to SE Asia, I realised what little the UK had to offer me in my retirement and how much my wife and I had drifted apart. Decided to retire to Thailand alone.

 

2. On my return, had a very painful conversation with my wife. She was dead set against me leaving. My mind was made up. Very strained for the first year but now get on well and go for nights out together when I return to the UK. We love each other very much and will never divorce.

 

3. Kids were very confrontational with me at first, took my wife's side, which I understood and was happy with the support they gave her. Time is a great healer and we get on well now. Gave my daughter away at her wedding last year. Neither of them have visited me, primarily because the refuse to meet or even aknowledge my Thai wife, even though my wife and I separated long before I met her.

 

 

Never divorce you first wife but now have a Thai wife? 

How does that work? 

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12 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Never divorce you first wife but now have a Thai wife? 

How does that work? 

Married Thai wife at the Wat in her village. Didn't register it at the Amphur.

 

 

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3 minutes ago, DannyCarlton said:

Married Thai wife at the Wat in her village. Didn't register it at the Amphur.

 

 

Yes I saw that in post 66 and couldn't edit my post.. Have you sorted out a an appropriate will? 

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2 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Yes I saw that in post 66 and couldn't edit my post.. Have you sorted out a an appropriate will? 

Sorted my will out in the UK, which protects my Thai wife as virtually all my assets are over there. Yet to sort a will out in Thailand to protect me as the house/car are in her name. If she dies I'm in the mire. Not easy to sort out here. Seems complicated with no easy answers.

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2 minutes ago, DannyCarlton said:

Sorted my will out in the UK, which protects my Thai wife as virtually all my assets are over there. Yet to sort a will out in Thailand to protect me as the house/car are in her name. If she dies I'm in the mire. Not easy to sort out here. Seems complicated with no easy answers.

 

 

Usufruct.

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1 minute ago, Jip99 said:

 

 

Usufruct.

 Tried to do that when we bought the house. No ufustructs for farangs in Pattaya since 12 months before we bought the house. Guy I bought the house from had a ufustruct but he'd had it for 10 years.

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39 minutes ago, DannyCarlton said:

Sorted my will out in the UK, which protects my Thai wife as virtually all my assets are over there. Yet to sort a will out in Thailand to protect me as the house/car are in her name. If she dies I'm in the mire. Not easy to sort out here. Seems complicated with no easy answers.

I've got 23 years to run on the home loan (doubt I've more than five years left in me).

If anyone wants me out of the house, I just won't keep up the repayments.

It would save me money to walk away.

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3 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

 

Really? is that a sincere question, or are you goading me on here? It is about doing what Thai women, or alot of Latin women do. And that is embracing that which makes them special. Their femininity. American women are scared to death of their femininity. They think by expressing it, they are somehow weaker, or lesser, or will be scorned by other women. There is so much dignity within true femininity. Not the garbage being spewed by the huge numbers of misandristic women there today. Femininity is a huge attribute. One that men are desperately seeking in women. Yet, so many are unable to express it on any level. Who wants to be around a woman who is more masculine than I am? Not much fun in that. 

Not goading at all - nicely explained.

 

I do have some sympathy with that view that its seen as a weakness to not try to compete with males on every level even when its impossible to do so. 

 

A foreigner/thai relationship is a throw back to the male go out to work, and the female will take care of everything else set up in a lot of cases. They genuinely want to take care of their bloke. (Cue for the usual moron to step in here with take care of your wallet blah blah blah), old fashioned yet remarkably works !

 

I would consider myself a feminist, have little time for under developed male idiots who believe they are a lower form of life. yet some of the initiatives to make everything 'equal', positive discrimination etc are just counter productive. Unless of course the female is in a position to earn/progress well in which case good luck to her as well.

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