megapix 53 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 So Im getting married (non-formal ceremony) in 3 weeks in Thailand. So far so good. Had some minor problems but always found a solution that worked for both sides. I have great parents in law. But i just had a talk with my wife and she said that there will be probably more people coming than we invited. She told me it is pretty common that invited people will invite another people to come with them. We gave invitations to all people that we want to come. We have included boyfriends, girlfriends, wife, husbands, close family etc... but we should anyway expect more people to arrive. No one knows exact number. I asked where those people will sit ? What they gonna eat ? She said that they have to find some space somewhere. And they will not eat or order something a la carte. I just don't understand, is this a real thing ? Did this happened to someone at his wedding ? If yes, what was your solutions tfor ? I just cannot imagine that someone not invited will appear in my wedding and I don't have a space or food for them. I mean it is not my problem, but anyway it would bother me. Link to post Share on other sites
HLover 5,266 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 The solution is to ignore them and enjoy your special event. Link to post Share on other sites
worgeordie 44,955 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 I might mean more wedding presents....but I doubt it. regards worgeordie Link to post Share on other sites
RichardColeman 28,214 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 I get the feeling your chang bill will cost more than a ton of sticky rice Link to post Share on other sites
samsensam 8,155 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 weddings seem to be pretty laid back affairs, a thai friend married a thai guy recently and sent me photos, it was interesting to see some guests dressed to the nines and others in jeans, t-shirts and trainers, zero effort to dress for the event, everyone seemed happy though which is the main thing. Link to post Share on other sites
shy coconut 1,374 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 My experiences from isaan is that formalities don't really exist, people seem to pop in and out all the time, weddings, whether involving a foreigner or not seem to be a free for all and the whole village pile in. I would just budget for more food and drink and try and enjoy the day, as long as you've got somewhere to sit and something to eat you'll be fine. Of course if you're having a formal western style do in a hotel with seating arrangements then I can see there could be problems! Link to post Share on other sites
Ron jeremy 2,280 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 Buy a <deleted> load of booze, that's all they want anyways. Link to post Share on other sites
Puchaiyank 14,918 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 Your Thai lady will be honored in her village by wedding a person of means...all who live there are potential guests...invited or not...this is Thai culture...roll with it...be a good sport and smile a lot...this too will soon pass... Link to post Share on other sites
wisperone 1,648 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 The more the merrier If that's the custom, as Steve Winwood said, "roll with it baby". Order extra food and drink. Its cheap in Thailand anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
steven100 20,429 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 just order another six boxes of chang and forget about them … they're only there for the free grog Link to post Share on other sites
colinneil 76,721 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 Why get excited megapix? It is normal here for many invited or uninvited people to come to a wedding. As previously said village weddings are very informal, many people bring others with them. Is your problem just because you are scared it will cost you more? Link to post Share on other sites
Destiny1990 7,459 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 You can still back down from it all. Link to post Share on other sites
Beggar 2,403 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 Tell them you want to do a Moslem style wedding without booze and you will be almost alone. Link to post Share on other sites
PatOngo 48,080 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 Make sure they bring an envelope with cash. Link to post Share on other sites
Odysseus123 13,609 Posted August 27, 2019 Share Posted August 27, 2019 Who are these people,honey-they can't all be the Joneses can they? Link to post Share on other sites
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