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 got married in 2003 and had the same information, the catering we chose had enough experience and organized everything.
We have invited 250 people, about 500 seats available, about 450 people arrived.
No problem the price had been fixed (38,000 Baht), music dancing food and drinks.

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You don't have to have a party- I didn't. The party is nothing to do with being married, which is done at an office.


Otherwise, you have no say, other than paying whatever YOU decide it's worth.

Once the money YOU provide is gone it's the Thai family that has to cover the difference, if they choose to do so.

If you just pay and pay they will assume that you will do so in every situation in the future.

Time to man up and say how much you will contribute and that's an end to it, or be a doormat and an ATM.


I assume you will be giving a dowry, so hope you know that you can negotiate to get it back after. You don't have to buy the bride any more.

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On ‎8‎/‎30‎/‎2019 at 4:03 AM, taninthai said:

That’s the first line of the thread.

then turns into two ceremonies one in the morning and another in the evening in 5 star hotel......wow.

i just went down office and married my wife...that’s what I call non formal😳.


Yes, that's the best way to do it. I went to the marriage at the amphur on the back of her m'bike, dress casual, no witnesses- just the office staff. Someone took a photo on my camera. Done and dusted.

Family- hundreds of miles away, and if I'd had sense that would have been where they stayed for the entire duration of my marriage.

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On ‎9‎/‎1‎/‎2019 at 6:30 AM, sotonowl said:

You think that's bad. My missus is Thai but her parents where Chinese so all the Family are Chinese origin. When we go to eat out we always end up at one of them places with the revolving table. They all order fish, which I don't like, and I order my usual Chicken and Cashew nuts with egg fried rice. Well, I never get to eat it, it's gone before I can get the table moved round to me. They all smile and tell me to eat some fish, I don't like <deleted> fish.

I just smile, turn round and shout "Nong, beer Singha krup".

Don't worry mate, they'll sort it, when in Rome and all that, just take a chill pill and enjoy it. You've voiced your concerns, leave it at that.

The only way to win is just never ever go to the village. Either live far enough away that they won't visit or have a small place they can't stay at.

Happiness in a Thai/ farang marriage is not having the family around.

If the beloved insists, take it as a warning sign and run.

I wish someone had told me this good advice before I made the biggest mistake of my life and married someone with a toxic family.

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Update for people that are interested:


So few more people showed up. It was less than I expected, so that was good. We had extra 30 seats and about 2/3 were occupied. Some of those people were my wife's classmates and their partners and some from her family. Whole wedding was amazing and I really enjoyed it.

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On 8/27/2019 at 11:41 PM, megapix said:

I just cannot imagine that someone not invited will appear in my wedding and I don't have a space or food for them. I mean it is not my problem, but anyway it would bother me.

Correct. It is not your problem so stop worrying about it! Don't compare The Thai way of doing things with your 'western ways'. It's simply not worth the effort.

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