Bat crud crazy

[SailingHome 83]

My Thai wife and I just can't get along any more. She says she will stay married and help with visas and such, but now is saying wants a divorce because I have a live-in nurse/maid for my Parkinson Disease. Heck - my penis does not even work, it's not like my nurse is my lover.

 

1) Can she in any way force me to go to an Amphur for divorce?

2) Can I tell her she must sue me in court if she wants a divorce? If so, I will counter sue for a lot of damages

3) If we divorce, what do I do for a visa? I am from USA and am only 48.5 years old.

[HeyHeyHey 1,477]

8 minutes ago, SailingHome said:

If we divorce, what do I do for a visa? I am from USA and am only 48.5 years old

Offer your live-in nurse a promotion, marry her.

[lopburi3 7,556]

If you can afford the nurse perhaps you can afford the elite visa.  Or sail on. (sorry but your name said it).

[SailingHome 83]

11 minutes ago, HeyHeyHey said:

Offer your live-in nurse a promotion, marry her.

She already said no

[SailingHome 83]

10 minutes ago, lopburi3 said:

If you can afford the nurse perhaps you can afford the elite visa.  Or sail on. (sorry but your name said it).

Indeed, I wish I could sail away. But Parkinsons has me trapped. SSDI is not going to make much o a life in USA, and the maid is only 12k/mo. Is that enough for elite?

 

[CharlieH 22,027]

As far as I am aware, she only has to contact immigration and inform them the relationship is finished and you will have a problem, assuming the visa is based on marriage, you will have to find alternate visa classification.

[chickenslegs 10,497]

OP - some of your questions may be answered here ... https://www.siam-legal.com/legal_services/grounds-divorce.php

 

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Ground for Divorce in Thailand

1. a 3-year period of separation
2. One spouse has deserted the other for over one year
3. The husband has taken another woman as his wife
4. The wife has committed adultery
5. One spouse is guilty of misconduct (criminal or otherwise)
6. One spouse has physically or mentally harmed the other
7. Lack of Maintenance and Support
8. One spouse has had incurable insanity for at least 3 years
9. One spouse has broken the bond of good behavior
10. One spouse has an incurable, communicable and dangerous disease
11. One spouse has a physical disadvantage so as to be unable to cohabit as husband and wife.

 

[SailingHome 83]

Just now, CharlieH said:

As far as I am aware, she only has to contact immigration and inform them the relationship is finished and you will have a problem, assuming the visa is based on marriage, you will have to find alternate visa classification.

She might do that. It is based on marriage. I have 1.5 years to go to get a retirement visa.

[SailingHome 83]

OP: Thanks. Yes, many of things apply. She was emotionally abusive for 1. I am more wondering if she can force me in some way to the Amphur or I can tell her "hell no. If you want a divorce, file suit for it." She will never afford it.

[CharlieH 22,027]

2 minutes ago, SailingHome said:

She might do that. It is based on marriage. I have 1.5 years to go to get a retirement visa.

I would seek legal advice and guidance, you may be able to string it out under "hope of reconciliation" for the duration of the current visa, but after that you will need to make other arrangements.

She cant force you to the Amphur, the best she could do would be to file and wait for 3 years.(afaik). If she wanted to re-marry, she could force it with relevant grounds.

[SailingHome 83]

5 minutes ago, chickenslegs said:

One spouse has a physical disadvantage so as to be unable to cohabit as husband and wife.

<deleted>? I have Parkinson's so my wife can leave me? What kind of wife leaves a man who needs her care?

[chickenslegs 10,497]

1 minute ago, SailingHome said:

<deleted>? I have Parkinson's so my wife can leave me? What kind of wife leaves a man who needs her care?

More information here. https://www.siam-legal.com/legal_services/Thailand-Contested-Divorce-Faqs.php

If either party contests the divorce it must go to court.

[SailingHome 83]

4 minutes ago, chickenslegs said:

More information here. https://www.siam-legal.com/legal_services/Thailand-Contested-Divorce-Faqs.php

If either party contests the divorce it must go to court.

OK. I am beginning to see it all... If I do not want to go to an amphur she must file with the courts and I can contest it. Yes?

[chickenslegs 10,497]

1 minute ago, SailingHome said:

OK. I am beginning to see it all... If I do not want to go to an amphur she must file with the courts and I can contest it. Yes?

That is my understanding, yes.

 

[Chazar 4,407]

18 minutes ago, SailingHome said:

<deleted>? I have Parkinson's so my wife can leave me? What kind of wife leaves a man who needs her care?

One who doesnt. Sad  but true.