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How to live with Isaan wife in respect of culture

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4 minutes ago, amykat said:

Yes, but you didn’t hand him your bank book and ask him to manage your money, move in and marry his daughter did you???  

You miss the point, or you are just trying to be a sh... stirer. I don’t get you

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1 minute ago, kenk24 said:

Given time, it adds up to a sharing of life on a deeper level than I have seen in the west... it means sitting on the bedside of a sick relative together, it means watching a respirator in shifts as an infant lies in a coma... crying together as you are told and know she might not make it... it means sharing dreams together... and through time, it means watching the next generation be born and grow up and be a part of the family... it means that you are a person that people will turn to for help when not well... and though I never needed anything in return, what they gave me was a family... and when recently I had my turn of illness, though out of town for the sake if better hospitals, in turn, they all came to visit me and stay with me... 

well Ken you have been here a long time and I think as a bit of a younger person?  So you made your life here.  This experience you would have anywhere that you had a family, does not have to be a Thai family in the countryside that you give all your money to.  For you it worked out, that is great.  But for many other people it doesn’t work out so well especially when they start out overly trusting like this OP seems to be.

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7 minutes ago, amykat said:

How can this OP determine this is a GOOD family with his limited exposure here?  He is a total newbie.  I read his post history.  He is still struggling with visas here and the whole system, and doesn’t know what is TM30.  He is probably crushed from his recent divorce.  People should take a break after that, not get married to the first person you meet, nobody else is noticing some red flags here ....only me???

The quality of our lives is determined on good judgement.. I did not research his other posts but am reacting to his OP - he sounds to be on a correct course.. but you take your time, visit with family and keep your eyes open... 

 

For me, I met my wife through an introduction... a friend of mine knew her family in the village and that is the only thing he told me about before the introduction.. 'she comes from a great family' - - and he was right. I am lucky. And I know it. 

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2 hours ago, ylmiri said:
4 hours ago, EVENKEEL said:

I only advise is to leave money in your budget for an escape. Not to be a gloomy gus, but some guys do go overboard in their golden years and over extend themselves.  And, And I highly recommend you have your very own personnel transportation, I mean keys on you at all times, it belongs to you in name as well. I've never needed it, but have always had it.

This is the best advice I come across here . No wonder your username is "EVENKEEL"-   so you don't flip over - bottom up.

Way back last century during my first marraige here, I traded in my first, own-name car for a gun. I can't claim it really evened up that somewhat doomed relationship but it did get her attention PDQ.

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3 hours ago, Elzear said:

Thank you. My previous married life was with a Japanese lady. Twenty years of comfort and accepting each other’s differences. It ended. No comment, if I may. I like the rural life of Isaan, remote from the masses. My future in-laws have welcomed me in their home. I still feel that it is more complex to assimilate than it was with my ex Japanese family. Most certainly learning Thai is a must

You where accepted by a Japanese family? Reare!

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25 minutes ago, amykat said:

 I read his post history.

You're stalking the OP?

 

19 minutes ago, Elzear said:
22 minutes ago, amykat said:

Yes, but you didn’t hand him your bank book and ask him to manage your money, move in and marry his daughter did you???  

You miss the point, or you are just trying to be a sh... stirer. I don’t get you

Never mind. The OP has sussed you out.

 

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20 minutes ago, amykat said:

How can this OP determine this is a GOOD family with his limited exposure here?  He is a total newbie.  I read his post history.  He is still struggling with visas here and the whole system, and doesn’t know what is TM30.  He is probably crushed from his recent divorce.  People should take a break after that, not get married to the first person you meet, nobody else is noticing some red flags here ....only me???

 

You lost money your divorce right? To caucasion guy right?

 

Sound like you want him to fail. 

i wish him good luck and happy life.

One life, be happy one.

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2 hours ago, amykat said:

That’s okay, they don’t know your name either.  They just call you the farang.  They do know a lot about your finances however.  How much your car cost, how much you spend on beer, what you have in the bank ....anything your wife knows.

You reckon? you obviously live a very different life to what we do. 🙂

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9 minutes ago, Yinn said:

If good attitude you will have happy marriage. Happy life, many friend. 

People with bad attitude get divorce. Lose the money. Sad life, no friend. Complain a lot.

 

I am not Issan person, but I know many. They are so friendly and fun people. Best music, best party.

This is Yinn trying to misdirect you with smoke and mirrors, and also make everything the foreigner’s fault.  Most Thais are very prejudiced against Issan people, but she is happy if farangs marry the poorest Issan people.  Then she elevated them above you ...it will be your fault if there is a divorce due to your bad attitude.

 

Not due to the many, many problems we have seen/experienced/read about plaguing many poor families, the lack of education, the differences in thinking, etc.

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