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23 minutes ago, simon43 said:

By accident, I met a cute bar-girl who was hot in bed (unlike my British wife).  After a reasonable period of relationship, we legally married.


- Life went downhill in a big way! My Thai wife turned to drugs and this triggered extreme bipolar episodes.  She was as mad as a coot!  She totally destroyed our marriage, our family life (we had a young son), and our hotel business in Phuket.  I was left totally (I mean TOTALLY) penniless...

 

23 minutes ago, simon43 said:

Most of my friends are all dead, from alcoholism, diabetes, cancer, motorbike accidents, AIDs,murder and suicide.

Brit wives tend to be a bit frosty in the bedroom.

Thai wives tend to be a bit nutty in the home.

 

I'm seeing a trend here!

Lucky for me after the Brit wife, I didn't have any money to lose with the Thai wife.

 

PS. Same with my pals, I've got one left.

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10 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I thought that too ....... until I discovered Bar Girls!

Who could have guessed as a 50+ something divorce battered Brit, I still had the best years of my life still to come?

 

Thank-you Thailand!

i lived with 2 thai bar girls for a while, and the only time significantly more

depressing then that in my life was when i was living with a middle class thai girl

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Its good to hear so many have good lives(sorry if you havnt) ,but its not only what you make it ,i do believe luck plays a big part in it ,on the whole i have been lucky and as one door has closed another has opened ,ive always looked on life as a fairground ,we all enter the gates ,some of us just wander around and occasionally have a go on the roundabouts ,others do the same but sometimes get on the dodgems as well for a change ,while those brave ones just keep getting bag on the big dipper.

myself i love the big dipper ,but a lot of the time i also enjoyed the more sedate ,world cruise .its that one i am on now as life is in its last fling .

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23 hours ago, Tagged said:

Overall been good to me, but hell of a rollercoaster. 

 

Been skijumping, boxing, skydiving, base jumping, climbing, mountaineering, hiking, skiing, snowboarding, diving, freediving, and motorbiking on three different continents, worked as a skydiver, superviser in international oilservice companies, started some few companies, been fishing, mountain, and kayak guide, now back in oilbusiness, and life goes on better than before. 

 

Lost quite a few friends in extreme sport (4 good friends, 15 friends, and total with everyone I met more than 60), had some good relationships, some few bad, and one marriage that lasted 6 years, and now a good gf for some few years. Looking back I wasted alot of time to get back on my feet after a few downfall, but overall, I have been doing great and got back on my feet. 

 

Trying to live simple, boring and healthy now and still many good years to come. My body is weared out, but with decent activities, I can still go to gym, swim, kayaking, sup padling, and work, and that means alot to me, and of course take my bikes out for a blast and also longer trips. 

 

You gotta do what you have to do with the abillities you got, and still have. 

 

Thailand have been good to me, and I guess thats why I can still have a decent life doing what I am doing. If I was stuck in Europe, I believe my life quality would have been less than ok. 

Some people live more in a year than some live in 100.

Some of us choose to be adventurers, while others choose to live boring lives where the pub is highlight of their day.

However, who is to say which has the better life?

It's all about how happy we are, IMO, rather than what we did. I did a lot in my life, but I was only happy for a very few years, because I was always looking for the one, not knowing that no such person exists.

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4 hours ago, ivor bigun said:

Its good to hear so many have good lives(sorry if you havnt) ,but its not only what you make it ,i do believe luck plays a big part in it ,on the whole i have been lucky and as one door has closed another has opened ,ive always looked on life as a fairground ,we all enter the gates ,some of us just wander around and occasionally have a go on the roundabouts ,others do the same but sometimes get on the dodgems as well for a change ,while those brave ones just keep getting bag on the big dipper.

myself i love the big dipper ,but a lot of the time i also enjoyed the more sedate ,world cruise .its that one i am on now as life is in its last fling .

I never had a plan for my life. I just did what seemed right at the time, and like you, as one door closed another opened. Just blind luck that I did manage to have good experiences.

Had I not joined up before I met the girl that I fell in love with at first sight, I'd have married her, worked on her father's farm, owned the farm with her when he died, had kids, probably got divorced, and ended up exactly where I am now.

At least in the real  version of my life I had some pretty good adventures along the way.

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14 hours ago, brokenbone said:

i lived with 2 thai bar girls for a while, and the only time significantly more

depressing then that in my life was when i was living with a middle class thai girl

I can only think that you lived with the wrong 2 BGs.

IMO a middle class Thai girl would always be a mistake, but that's just me.

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17 hours ago, simon43 said:

The experiences that I had with my English and mad Thai wife, (and I forgot to mention a third wife!), made me realise that I was happier living alone, without any female company.  I had been 'burnt' every time by my wives.  For the past 5 years or so, I have lived alone and have found much more happiness in my own company than I ever did when married.

The very best year of my life was in Antarctica, as I was lucky enough to get a job on a base there, but it only got good after all the women went home and the old pheromones were not floating around the place. Back in the day, women were a rare breed down there, and only during summer.

Only two on the base, but caused all sorts of problems for some of us.

Of course, I had to return to the real world and women. Pity.

 

Nowadays of course, there are plenty of women all year round, but it must be hell for the guys that miss out.

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7 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I can only think that you lived with the wrong 2 BGs.

IMO a middle class Thai girl would always be a mistake, but that's just me.

Actually before i met my wife ,i lived with an ex bar girl for some time ,she was great ,my friend ,my lovely sex partner ,but we both knew it was just for fun ,not for life , now my wife is i suppose lower middle class ,as are her family ,i like them just as much as my family like her , we really all get along , 

one thing as Thaibeachlover said ,it really does not matter how exciting or not your life is ,it doesnt matter if you did nothing but watch tv all your life and sit eating burgers ,as long as at the end you can honestly say "wow i loved life" thats all that really matters ,i dont look foreward to death ,but when it comes i can tell the reaper "f-ck that was a great time "

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1 minute ago, ivor bigun said:

i dont look foreward to death ,but when it comes i can tell the reaper "f-ck that was a great time "

I don't mind that I'm going to die in the not too far distant future. I had a great life, but old age means that I'll never do the things I'd really like to do, so sooner than later would be good. It's a bit pointless just hanging around filling in time waiting.

The only time in my life I'd like to have had kids so I could have someone to tell my life stories to. Other than that, no regrets didn't have kids. 

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6 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I don't mind that I'm going to die in the not too far distant future. I had a great life, but old age means that I'll never do the things I'd really like to do, so sooner than later would be good. It's a bit pointless just hanging around filling in time waiting.

The only time in my life I'd like to have had kids so I could have someone to tell my life stories to. Other than that, no regrets didn't have kids. 

Never wanted kids ,got married in the 70s ,she went on and on ,had a daughter ,best thing ever happened to me ,once i saw her ,i just fell in love 🥰 as for dying your right ,just hope its quick

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19 hours ago, simon43 said:

My life has been ups and downs:

 

- Considered the 'black sheep' of the family by my parents, because I only managed to go to London University, as opposed to Cambridge. (Cambridge didn't offer the
course that I wanted to study).


- Married another student from college - all seemed good.


- Started a 15 year career in the satellite sector, designing systems and antennas for scientific, weather and TV channel satellites.  Great time of my life and very well
paid.  My wife and I enjoyed worldwide holidays, 3 cars, a holiday home in the UK and one in France.  Life was good and I had 3 beautiful kids.


- Established a 'one-man-band' SMS 'text-chat' and AI software business.  Life got better and I sold out for $2M+ and a board level position with the company who
purchased my business.


- Life started to go bad!  I developed aspergillosis illness from mold spores in the damp, underground office where I worked.  My health went downhill fast, pneumonia struck
many times and the depression of my illness took it's toll on my marriage.


- My doctor advised moving to a hot and humid climate (ie Thailand).  My wife didn't want to go!  We amicably divorced and I gave her the $1.5M country home that I had built in the Chiltern Hills, (complete with 5 acres of horse paddocks and a vineyard). My father cut me out of his will because of this divorce.
- I moved to Thailand and my health improved.  By accident, I met a cute bar-girl who was hot in bed (unlike my British wife).  After a reasonable period of relationship, we legally married.


- Life went downhill in a big way! My Thai wife turned to drugs and this triggered extreme bipolar episodes.  She was as mad as a coot!  She totally destroyed our marriage, our family life (we had a young son), and our hotel business in Phuket.  I was left totally (I mean TOTALLY) penniless...


- Life works in strange ways.  A friend invited me to teach at a private school in 'hardship' Yangon, (Burma was still under sanctions at that time).  I wasn't a teacher, but the salary was very good.  I moved to Yangon and was shocked to meet my class of .... 4 year old kindergarten kids!  A good challenge for someone in their mid-50's.


- During my time in Burma, I was hugely moved by the sight of impoverished kids, living in far worse conditions than I had ever seen.  I promised myself that because my life had turned around, I would try to do the same for these kids.  I established a charitable enterprise and began to donate school books to village and orphanage schools.


- I enjoyed the job at the private school, and was promoted to assistant principal of the school within 6 months.


- My new teaching career improved, and I was appointed headmaster and director of the international school in Luang Prabang, in north Laos.


- Further career moves took me back to Burma, where I taught at an international school in the strange new capital city of Naypyitaw.


- Finally, with an interest to teach online, I returned to live in Luang Prabang.  I now no longer teach in bricks & mortar schools.  I teach many hours online every day, teaching English, Science, Maths and History. My young students live in China, Hong Kong, Burma, Russia, Korea, Japan and the USA.

 

- Most of my friends are all dead, from alcoholism, diabetes, cancer, motorbike accidents, AIDs,murder and suicide.  Now that my lung health is OK again, I try to keep it that way by leading a very healthy lifestyle ==> exercise, good food, and zero stress.


- The experiences that I had with my English and mad Thai wife, (and I forgot to mention a third wife!), made me realise that I was happier living alone, without any female company.  I had been 'burnt' every time by my wives.  For the past 5 years or so, I have lived alone and have found much more happiness in my own company than I ever did when married.  I'm actually a very sociable person, but I view any woman's 'romantic' approaches with utmost suspicion.  I'm happy with my own company and passing on what little knowledge that I have to my students 🙂

 

PS - I didn't mention my 15 years working as a Tourist Police Volunteer, nor my time in a Thai prison, nor that I was forced out of Thailand by drug dealers who invaded and stole my $100,000 little hotel, with the help of the local police.....  No point raking over past events!

well, i wasn't going to replay the whole post but........ i did...    This (and many other posts from the usual suspects) is what is interesting to me.  My belief is that many, if not most of the

guys that post here often and have been around thailand for a long time , have had more than the average fellows share of experiences.  Often that is why we somehow find ourselves strangers living in a strange land.   I am among those that had my ups and downs but still am grateful that I chose to spend most of my life here.  I definitely understand when posters have bad or frustrating experiences in Thailand, because I have lived almost all the phases and frustrations that one can encounter.   ( I do sometimes make the point that life has its challenges everywhere and every country) .  I think all in all I have come out of the adventures in life and amazing thailand in fairly good shape.  I guess that answers the question asked in the OP.

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