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13 hours ago, Gene1960 said:

Maybe you know the answer...

my friend built the house pretty much in the area you mentioned. It’s a village near the river where both the Buddhists and Muslims live together, they have a mosque and a crematorium not too far. Do the Muslim pay sinsod?

Thai Muslim pay sinsod. 

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No. 

We were both students in the US at the time.  We did go to Bangkok, where her parents live, the following year for about six weeks which was cool.

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In the west, the wife arrived with dowry in form of cutlery, bed linen - the works! Long gone these days. 

Likewise women are not for sale hence make it crystal clear that there is no Sinsod. If she (or rather her in-laws) insist on it then you might want to reconsider. It is not only the money (which they would never make and will be burnt faster than you can think) but the attitude. She marries a non-Thai, it's her part of cultural adaption. 

I never paid for weddings of my kids as hundreds of people nobody ever met before would show up. I coughed up a fantastic honeymoon for the young couple with some pocket money which will outlast any memory of a hangover wedding among people you dont know or dont like - me thinks! 

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On 1/30/2020 at 9:23 AM, soistalker said:

I would much rather just pay them to leave.

That's because your smart and not codependent seeking constant validation, some guys have vaginas for genitals and are proud to be on a leash.

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22 hours ago, Kadilo said:

 

 

 

 

You sir are an obvious Camp 2 type.

 

You cannot offer what you do not have to offer. Simple.

 

You don't understand the importance on Sinsod in Isaan is extremely clear.

 

Has nothing to do with a woman being a money-monger.

 

Do you think weddings and marriage are free in the west? Or are you a Camp 2 type, let's go to the courthouse because we don't have US$10k+ for a wedding and reception?

 

Are all these people throughout the west money-mongers because they paid for extravagant weddings and receptions? Paying Sinsod is the same thing.

 

Given your wife the choice of Sinsod or not, she would want Sinsod. 

 

She would want a large party in her village to have self-worth and feel important for the day.

 

Every woman in the world dreams of being a princess on her wedding day and respecting their own culture.

 

It's too bad in Thailand some women feel like having a roof over there head and food, is more important than their own happiness.

 

Probably not a lot of women envying your wife are there?

 

Instead of coming up will all kinds of crazy ideas about money-mongering, it is best just to state you cannot afford it.

 

Plenty of people stay married for ever that never had a large wedding or reception in countries all over the world.

 

You, however, spend an hour answering a post instead of simply owning up the fact that you could not afford it.

 

 

 

 

 

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3 hours ago, mike787 said:

That's because your smart and not codependent seeking constant validation, some guys have vaginas for genitals and are proud to be on a leash.

......and happy to buy their wife for a down payment as they can’t find a lady by other means. 

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29 minutes ago, patongphil said:

I paid and insisted they kept it.

 

Was working a contract in Africa at the time and due to finish up. When the topic came up I said to the missus that I would do another extra swing (4 weeks) and this would be for her folks.

Anyway we gave them the lot and 10 years later still never asked for another cent. 

 

I felt at the time, and still do, that 1 month of my time could change their lives forever and it certainly has - mine too by the way, for the better.

Good on you.

 

 

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On 1/30/2020 at 7:30 PM, tomauasia said:

I didnt pay and if you do you married the wrong woman. 

 

I also married a 25 year old, never married, no kids.....paid zero, showed zero, no pretentious wedding rubbish....just into Amphur, just her and me, signed and walked out married.

 

7 years later and 2 kids and everything is hunky dory.

 

I did buy her parents as washing machine 4 years ago!

 

She was lucky to get me...end of.

 

 

 

 

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She was lucky yet here you are in Thailand.

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On 2/1/2020 at 5:19 AM, falang1969 said:

 

I also married a 25 year old, never married, no kids.....paid zero, showed zero, no pretentious wedding rubbish....just into Amphur, just her and me, signed and walked out married.

 

7 years later and 2 kids and everything is hunky dory.

 

I did buy her parents as washing machine 4 years ago!

 

She was lucky to get me...end of.

 

 

 

 

Dam, your a unicorn to us men.  I congratulate you, and admire your life.  Most men on TVF have shovelled out everything they had and if they had access to more they would have given everything. 

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On 1/30/2020 at 2:33 AM, RobbyXNorway said:

This is part of the reason I'm going to the Philippines to find a young lady for a serious relationship. And then bring her here to Thailand to live with me.

 

Thai focus on money and monetary wealth is disgusting.

Sorry, but you are so wrong :( Philippines focus 10 times more on money than Thai people. Trust me, I have had my share of Filipinas :( 

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On 1/31/2020 at 4:32 AM, Sydebolle said:

In the west, the wife arrived with dowry in form of cutlery, bed linen - the works! Long gone these days. 

Likewise women are not for sale hence make it crystal clear that there is no Sinsod. If she (or rather her in-laws) insist on it then you might want to reconsider. It is not only the money (which they would never make and will be burnt faster than you can think) but the attitude. She marries a non-Thai, it's her part of cultural adaption. 

I never paid for weddings of my kids as hundreds of people nobody ever met before would show up. I coughed up a fantastic honeymoon for the young couple with some pocket money which will outlast any memory of a hangover wedding among people you dont know or dont like - me thinks! 

Maybe you couldn't afford to pay for all those weddings for your kids?

 

A wedding day is the most important day in a woman's life and she will remember it forever.

 

No Honeymoon memory will ever outlast a wedding. People travel all the time, a honeymoon is no different unless you are too poor to travel.

 

We had 200 invitations sent out and an 300 extra people show up for our wedding in Isaan. Made for one hell of a party and no one went hungry or thirsty.

 

Most important thing I have ever done for my wife and to this day she is thankful for her special day!

 

 

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On 2/2/2020 at 5:54 PM, mike787 said:

Dam, your a unicorn to us men.  I congratulate you, and admire your life.  Most men on TVF have shovelled out everything they had and if they had access to more they would have given everything. 

If you don't want to give your wife everything, why are you getting married?

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