how do you (politely) avoid people?

[BananaBandit]

i'm an introvert with no wish or ability to change.

 

sometimes i encounter other farlangs who are friendly and express interest in hanging out again (in one case, the friendly farlang's thai wife suggested we all exchange contact info).

 

how does a street-smart introvert handle this type of situation?

 

the best i can think of is saying:   "I'm a loner. I either spend time with my old lady or wander around on my own."

 

is that good enough?   

[frequentatore]

Can you invite me for coffee?

[CharlieH]

And yet if you were, you wouldnt be in that situation would you. 

 

Seems your actions are contradictory, just saying ????

[ratcatcher]

If I were you, I would simply say, "I'm a miserable bustard who prefers his own company, P off". 

Edited February 24, 2020 by ratcatcher

[KC 71]

2 minutes ago, ratcatcher said:

If I were you, I would simply say, "I'm a miserable <deleted> who prefers his own company, <deleted> off". 

You cant be more subtle than that ????

[CharlieH]

How about,

"I hate technology, and rarely use it, so I dont have any contact info, I'm off grid!"????

but dont then get your phone out !????

[Lacessit]

Avoid eye contact, and make like you are stupid. That should work.

Saying Facebook is for narcissists, and Twitter is for twits, is a good conversation stopper.

Edited February 24, 2020 by Lacessit

[Kwasaki]

Up to you. ????

[Bruce Aussie Chiang Mai]

You same as me. We should catch up for a drink and exchange views.

LOL

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[Saraburi121]

Just saying, being an introvert doesn't mean you don't go out in public and meet people per chance.

 

I like spending time with my wife (Thai) and traveling together nothing wrong with that.  We are both private people and have a close circle of a few friends both Thai and Expats. I guess we are a bit introverted.  We meet some expats/Thai wives during travel that wanted to stay in contact, we politely take their info but never contact. Keep an open mind, we lived here almost a year and met an Australian and his wife (Thai) which we enjoy their company still today.   Don't know where you from but folks from Australia are pretty down to earth IMO.

 

Keep an open mind, having a few friends is good.  

 

 

 

 

 

[steven100]

after a suggestion to exchange contacts,  just start coughing and spluttering and say your not sure what you've caught but the doctor is running tests .....  they won't ask you again.

[steven100]

1 minute ago, Saraburi121 said:

Don't know where you from but folks from Australia are pretty down to earth IMO.

they're p_iss heads just like me.

[Airalee]

Ask them if they are familiar with bitcoin.

[ThaiBrian]

"I'm sick"

[shadowofacloud]

I am in the same situation. Quite introverted, a solitary person, generally prefer dogs to humans. In another life I'd be happily living in a hut deep in the Himalayas.

 

Most people are usually a bit scared of me - I don't have this chummy aura, which makes them try to get all friendly, but if some do, I will just tell them that I am not a people person and prefer my own company.

 

Most will get the message. A very small minority won't and these I will simply ignore.

 

Straight-forward, polite communication works wonders.

 

 

Edited February 24, 2020 by shadowofacloud

[pookondee]

You will find most are weirdos who actually have no intention of contacting you anyway.

I notice its certain Euro nationalities more than others, 

they seem to feel obliged to play along with this pointless face-saving game..

farang version of fake politeness maybe?.

who knows??

 

I have no time for their nonsense anyway, just agree but give them a fake number.

 

 

 

[DannyCarlton]

Just ask them if they'd like to throw their car keys in the fruit basket. Only ever goes two ways, either they run a mile or you're in for a fun night.

[Social Media]

46 minutes ago, Saraburi121 said:

we lived here almost a year and met an Australian and his wife (Thai) which we enjoy their company still today.   Don't know where you from but folks from Australia are pretty down to earth IMO.

 

Keep an open mind, having a few friends is good.  

down to earth ? I think gutteral is better.

Never met one yet that wasnt rude/crude and wholly inappropriate at the best of times, guess we all have different ideas about people. I try to keep an open mind, but experience is the best tool and that's what my experience of those people is, best avoided in my experience.

 

Edited February 24, 2020 by Black Ops

[roo860]

6 minutes ago, Black Ops said:

down to earth ? I think gutteral is better.

Never met one yet that wasnt rude/crude and wholly inappropriate at the best of times, guess we all have different ideas about people. I try to keep an open mind, but experience is the best tool and that's what my experience of those people is, best avoided in my experience.

 

The more they are like my hero Sir Les Patterson, the more I luv em!

[Isaanbiker]

 Ask them what century it is. 

     

 

  

[Social Media]

4 minutes ago, roo860 said:

The more they are like my hero Sir Les Patterson, the more I luv em!

 

Appears that he was the master mould ! from which all came fourth. Mr Humphries got it spot on, in my experience.????

Edited February 24, 2020 by Black Ops

[White Christmas13]

1 hour ago, steven100 said:

they're p_iss heads just like me.

Speak for your self

[stereolab]

I am like you, prefer my own company, and being tee-total and a non-smoker keeps me away from bars where others may try to become my best pal. My wife, however, is the exact opposite, and will speak, at length, to all and sundry. I avoid shopping with her for that reason. I find a slight nod of the head, will suffice, and walking away very fast, does the trick.

[Enoon]

When introduced to people:

 

1  Don't ask them anything about themselves.  Show no interest if they start talking about their life experience.

 

2  Keep talking about yourself.  That's when you tell them you prefer to visit places on your own (so that you can focus what you're visiting) without being distracted by the necessity to engage in conversation with a companion, and so that you don't have to look at the waterfall/monkeys/sculpture gallery with them, when you only came to see the shrine/lizards/armour room. 

 

3  Don't laugh at their jokes.  The merest hint of a smile is OK, but absolutely no laughing.

 

(Your own "humour" should consist of intricate, long winded descriptions of comedy sketches that you have found amusing) 

 

4  Avoid agreeing with any of their opinions.  Just look like you don't really understand.  If pressed tell them that it's not an issue you're very interested in/bothered about.

 

Basically, the opposite strategy to the one for making friends who would like to "hang out" with you.

 

 

 

Edited February 24, 2020 by Enoon

[PatOngo]

3 hours ago, steven100 said:

they're p_iss heads just like me.

Careful, it's seriously affecting your political judgement!

[Saraburi121]

3 hours ago, Black Ops said:

down to earth ? I think gutteral is better.

Never met one yet that wasnt rude/crude and wholly inappropriate at the best of times, guess we all have different ideas about people. I try to keep an open mind, but experience is the best tool and that's what my experience of those people is, best avoided in my experience.

 

Quit hanging out in bars, change your "experience".  Yes we sure do have different ideas about "those" people.  

[MASSMAN]

Thais avoid people everyday if they have no need for them.  Just follow their examples by pretending not to see the person.

[HuskerDo]

Tell folks you have the Coronavirus or that you just found out you are in the early stages of leprosy and think it best to avoid all human contact.

[luckyluke]

I tell them it is nothing personal, but that I prefer to be on my own. 

But usually I am not disturbed, it seems that I have an unforthcoming expression. 

I greet my neighbours and others I encounter regularly, but they all know by now that I am not up to a conversation longer than 2 minutes. 

[Saraburi121]

1 hour ago, MASSMAN said:

Thais avoid people everyday if they have no need for them.  Just follow their examples by pretending not to see the person.

Not sure where you live, but not here, pretty friendly bunch for the most part. Have a few that don't like foreigners. You are probably one that wears no shirt or a singlet to the market with a beer in hand and wasn't liked in your own country.  It is pretty fun place if you care to learn a bit of Thai language. Where I stay is pretty much based on your character. Probably the same in your home country.