The pluses and minuses of having 50 dates in 2 weeks

[snoop1130]

The pluses and minuses of having 50 dates in 2 weeks

by Stella Bella

 

 

Lessons learned from 50 dates (with 50 different people) in 2 weeks.

 

I’ve been engaged twice. But I hadn’t found the formula for true love. So I downloaded 5 dating apps and went on 50 dates in 2 weeks with many funny and sometimes scary incidences (including being given hash cookies and being limousine driven 2.5 hours to a private vineyard on a first date). Below are some of the lessons I learned and the stories behind them.

 

But first of all, you might ask, how did I do it? And why? It was 2013 when I broke off my 2nd engagement. I was freaked out because I didn’t know who I really was. After reading Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert (who had done something similar to go on a spiritual quest), I decided to go to Thailand and ended up staying 5 years; starting a business, becoming a ambassador for Lorna Jane, having my products promoted by the Princess of Abu Dhabi and my business eventually sold to a private equity firm in Hong Kong for 7 figures.

 

So after a successful career and being single by choice, I returned to the dating game, I felt a bit more whole than I did when I broke off my engagement with my former doctor fiancé. Except I wasn’t. My friends were all ‘coupled’ and I found myself eating dinner by myself most nights. So I decided to do  something about it. I downloaded 5 dating apps and went on a dating spree. This is what I learned in 10 lessons (5 positives and 5 negatives).

 

Positives

 

1. Everyone you date is a teacher
When you learn more about another, you learn more about yourself. Have you been ever criticised by your mother about something and then found that you did it on someone else? You don’t know that (and can’t correct for it) until actually have someone else to do it on. And not everyone will tell you. The quiet boyfriend might just put up with it until they can’t take anymore. But on the 48th date, I found someone who took me up on some of my ‘mother issues’ – i.e. doing what my mother did which I ended up doing on others. How many ‘potential husbands’ did I scare off because I was doing my mother?

 

On the other hand, I dated lawyers, investment bankers, English, Brazilian’s, Chilean’s, German’s, and even strippers and even writing this I feel a ‘stereotype’ of each in my head. But I found the stripper very business smart, people you expect to be boring were funny, some cultures shocking and some very spontaneous. It’s like living many lives in many countries – even it for a short time.

 

2. Being yourself is not always the right thing – on a first date.
One a first date with a German – I mentioned that I once had a gun put to my head (one of the later sagas involving my business life in South of Thailand). Being of a conservative type – it was a bit too much imagery to share for him. Not that it would bother too many people, but one should be able to read their date and not just blurt things out because you are naturally a ‘sharing’ person. Other times include sharing that you stayed at a friend’s house just to see what it’s like to live with a baby and being able to live out of one suitcase for 5 years to a high flying investment banker. At least be wary of what you share until they really get to know you. First date impressions count and you want to be able to decide if there should be a second date.

 

3. Have a system to the dating process (which will help with any rejection).
This sounds really unromantic, but there is a numbers game involved. The reality is most people won’t match. Sometimes you know on the first date. Sometimes the second or the fifth. I didn’t find someone I really liked until the forty-eighth date (and I didn’t know until I dated them for 2 weeks). And I almost scared them away by putting drops of essential oils in his beer on the first date (to help him with the flu). Would have some earlier dates been a match if we went to a third or fifth? I’ll never know. But it didn’t matter as there was the next fish to catch.

 

4. End the date well.
Some strange things can happen on a date. For example:

 

• You got interrogated.
• One of you takes offence at something.
• You go for a drive and ending up at someone’s private vineyard more than two hours away (with the obvious expectation from them of something more on a first date).
• You find your date doesn’t remember your previous ‘chat’ because they actually had a virtual dating assistant who converses for them online.
• You get fed ‘hash cookies’ and end up having to be saved by a friend because you are hallucinating.
• Most men are well-intentioned (even if it seems a bit strange) but the ending shows respect but also allows you to cherish the moment. It allows you to open up for the next date without carrying any baggage over.

 

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[NCC1701A]

5 minutes ago, snoop1130 said:

Lessons learned from 50 dates (with 50 different people) in 2 weeks.

wait. let me check my notes.

[UncleMhee]

2 minutes ago, NCC1701A said:

Lessons learned from 50 dates (with 50 different people) in 2 weeks.

How to tell tall tales comes to mind in 1st place.

[Lacessit]

Obviously someone who prefers quantity over quality.

[tomazbodner]

2 hours ago, NCC1701A said:

wait. let me check my notes.

Your notes are for 500 dates in 2 weeks. That doesn't count.

[DaRoadrunner]

2 hours ago, NCC1701A said:

wait. let me check my notes.

Check more than your notes. This was posted under Ladies in Thailand, yet it reads like the OP is male and dating .... er... other men.

[DannyCarlton]

On a previous visit to SE Asia for a 4 week holiday, I had 27 dates with 16 different ladies. Didn't find Miss Right. Don't know what I was doing wrong.

[DannyCarlton]

9 minutes ago, DaRoadrunner said:

Check more than your notes. This was posted under Ladies in Thailand, yet it reads like the OP is male and dating .... er... other men.

With a name like Bella i doubt it. Sounds like a right frigid munter. No sex on the first date? Time waster.

 

 

Edited March 4, 2020 by DannyCarlton

[chicowoodduck]

Me thinks you best stop the speed dating the ladyboys and up your  medication....????????????????

[tifino]

should be able to find 50 safer ones here!

  

[RichardColeman]

I had 4 'dates' with 4 different ladies one day here on a very drunk day - we didn't spend a lot on food but I sure spent a lot of money

[justin case]

50 dates, wow, nice way to spread your ...

[Henryford]

Just pay the barfine, sorted.

[OneMoreFarang]

What I find most amazing that a rich person who run and sold a successful business uses dating apps to meet people. Why? Didn't you meet hundreds or thousands of people while you were running your business? Don't you have any friends and social contacts?

Obviously it's possible to meet people "on the internet". But I am sure for many of those dates it took less than a minute to figure out that there was no chemistry. Thanks but no thanks.

With people who we meet in real life that minute happens before we even think about going for coffee with that person. What's wrong with offline dating? Meet real people in the real world. What an interesting idea...

[sanuk711]

wow...if this is the standard of contributions to the "Ladies in Thailand" forum...................please keep it exclusively just there..............

[andre47]

This is just a fake post. I don't believe any word here.

Try to date Thai ladies...the answer is 'short time 1000'. It is difficult to really date somebody without financial interest. 50 dates in 2 weeks, this is just sick.

 

Perhaps the OP just wants to motivate some readers to use dating sites.

Edited March 10, 2020 by andre47

[ThailandRyan]

On 3/4/2020 at 10:26 PM, tomazbodner said:

Your notes are for 500 dates in 2 weeks. That doesn't count.

Wait, For a moment there I thought NCC was in a 500 room Hotel, 500 Dates in 2 days, lets see this plus that equals, well thats 1 date every 10.4 minutes, minus the walking from one room to the next, and the misc., plus some minor antics, and well 1 bonk every 5 minutes, Good to see NCC has cases of Viagra to consume..

[UbonThani]

3.5 dates a day

Story is made up

[OneMoreFarang]

35 minutes ago, UbonThani said:

3.5 dates a day

Story is made up

The author is a rich woman. I am sure it's possible to get that many dates with the right kind of picture. If it makes sense is of course a different question.

[Captain 776]

I know you.  You are the distributor for S E Asia

[pijo1234]

On 3/4/2020 at 10:39 PM, DannyCarlton said:

On a previous visit to SE Asia for a 4 week holiday, I had 27 dates with 16 different ladies. Didn't find Miss Right. Don't know what I was doing wrong.

Culture differences, greed, buddhist selfishness,  legendary stubborness, close minded culture, ...

just to name a few in the LOS

[CH1961]

On 3/4/2020 at 7:40 PM, snoop1130 said:

sold to a private equity firm in Hong Kong for 7 figures.

1000000 HKD are approx. 130k USD ... Monkey business ????

[NoshowJones]

4 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

What I find most amazing that a rich person who run and sold a successful business uses dating apps to meet people. Why? Didn't you meet hundreds or thousands of people while you were running your business? Don't you have any friends and social contacts?

Obviously it's possible to meet people "on the internet". But I am sure for many of those dates it took less than a minute to figure out that there was no chemistry. Thanks but no thanks.

With people who we meet in real life that minute happens before we even think about going for coffee with that person. What's wrong with offline dating? Meet real people in the real world. What an interesting idea...

If I was younger and single again and starting all over again, just like before I met my GF, now wife, as before, there would be no need for barfines, ladydrinks, paying for sex, with my good looks and average personality, I found it very easy to get dates.

[Aussieroaming]

Frog sh*t, 50 dates it 2 weeks. 25 per week, more that 3 a day. Troll dating perhaps

[observer90210]

If the lady goes to bed on the first date, she will be fine and definately get many more free drinks and dinners !  ????....if not, I pass... ????...but no matter what or how well she does slurp! slurp!...... never...never give her the code of your ATM !!.... no matter where in the world.

Edited March 10, 2020 by observer90210

[fvw53]

3 hours ago, possum1931 said:

If I was younger and single again and starting all over again, just like before I met my GF, now wife, as before, there would be no need for barfines, ladydrinks, paying for sex, with my good looks and average personality, I found it very easy to get dates.

I think of a German pop song of the 1960ies in which Connie Froboess song : "You can't buy a heart...but if you are lucky you get it for free"

[Bundooman]

50 dates, 14 days, = three dates per day., with six spare to fit in somewhere, (or did you experience short time those 6)?

Did you 'do' them singularly or one at a time?

One in the morning, (really)? One in the afternoon, (possibly) and one in the evening?

Did the last one get you fresh and ready to go?

Did you shower and make yourself beautiful for every date?

Did you 'treble up' with all three at any one time?

How did you dis-engage with first two dates, what is the secret of successfully achieving that?

 

How do you expect us to believe you?

Photos please...……..

All 50!

[Relocated]

On 3/9/2020 at 8:35 PM, OneMoreFarang said:

What I find most amazing that a rich person who run and sold a successful business uses dating apps to meet people. Why? Didn't you meet hundreds or thousands of people while you were running your business? Don't you have any friends and social contacts?

Obviously it's possible to meet people "on the internet". But I am sure for many of those dates it took less than a minute to figure out that there was no chemistry. Thanks but no thanks.

With people who we meet in real life that minute happens before we even think about going for coffee with that person. What's wrong with offline dating? Meet real people in the real world. What an interesting idea...

That's is what my friend yelled at me yesterday and I yelled him back, 'my bed can not handle the weight, that is why I want the Thai woman'.

[nausea]

Guy speaking. I once was sitting at a table where I'd screwed everyone of the five women sitting there, and they were like from different places, happenstance brought us together. I think lesbians have a similar problem. It's a limited market.