Popular Post CharlesBa Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 (edited) So, I have a dilemma. I met a Thai woman online and we chatted for about four months before meeting in Thailand and having a relationship, we even had a pregnancy scare (yes, I know, stupid) but luckily she was not pregnant. There were many things that later made me suspicious she was seeing other men. We broke up shortly after I returned home to Europe, partly because she started asking for money. After we had broken up I discovered through an extensive internet search that the whole time we were chatting and later having sex she was in a serious relationship with another farang man, they've been together for at least 18 months. This other man posts photos and videos of the two of them together to his social media accounts for his friends and family to see. I also know that he is paying her money every month and I think he even plans to bring her to Europe to live with him. She's a charming woman and she's attractive, but of course also very manipulative. I feel awful when I know what she is doing behind his back. I have proof from various screenshots and photos that the same time she was messaging him and telling him that she misses him she was actually with me, and that sometimes in the same evening she would do separate video calls with both of us. I can leave this man with absolutely no doubt that his girlfriend was cheating on him and had a pregnancy scare. I also have definitive evidence that she has been at least planning to meet other men behind his back, and I think her infidelity is continuing. He was with her in November and then a few weeks later she was with me, in late February he flew out to meet her again, returning home just a few weeks ago (he's still in quarantine because of the coronavirus, and posting romantic clips of their video calls). I feel awful for the poor man. I asked a Thai friend what she she thinks I should do and she said just leave it, it's not my business. I'm not sure I should take her viewpoint as a useful moral compass though, she's a Thai woman and so would have a culturally specific viewpoint. What do you people on here think my duties are in this situation, and why? If I tell him, anonymously, what could go wrong? At the moment I think he'd want to know even if it devastates him in the short-term. Thank you for your help. Edited March 26, 2020 by CharlesBa 1 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post baansgr Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 I feel your reason, isn't to help him but to get your own back on her...so, no...move on and forget 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odysseus123 Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 As your Thai friend has already said..just leave it as it is none of your business... 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Dexlowe Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 Ahhhh, love in the time of Corona (apologies to Gabriel Garcia Marquez). Walk away. It's nothing to do with you. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Tiger1980 Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 If your girlfriend was cheating on you, would you not want to know. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saengd Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 Not your business, move on and forget. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Sundown Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 most probably she's living off his money so yes tell him 5 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Puchaiyank Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 Made me laugh...I have always assumed my gfs have had fun elsewhere from time to time...Thai culture is not western culture...having a gf or bf outside of marriage is not a big deal to many Thais... He probably will not appreciate you pointing out the obvious and creating drama... He is an adult...let him decide if it needs to be dealt with...ignorance can sustain the bliss...don't mess it up... 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lacessit Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 There is no "duty". It is 100% none of your business. You are trying to get back at her for conning you for a while. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pookondee Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 I am wondering how long it will be before the extreme religious folk start claiming this virus is punishment for folks "immoral and wicked ways"? As the O.P says, the guy is probably relatively safe, in a more effective and better organised lockdown in his own country. Cant say the same for the girl in Thailand tho. Id say her love for money and belief that the virus will not touch her because she is "kon Thai" will not stop her lying and running around with other multiple farangs. So theres every chance the guy might not have to pay her monthly wหore salary much longer once this virus takes hold. And if so, i can think of a certain Thai term (3 syllables) that might be quite fitting. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davo369 Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 Oohh dear.. dear, dear, dear, 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Justgrazing Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 2 hours ago, CharlesBa said: What do you people on here think my duties are in this situation I'd tell the dude .. then if he dumps her the lazy biatch will have to go and find another sponsor .. As for arkin' for money .. a lot of 'em do that .. Ignore until they throw a real strop then diffuse by ditching for another one .. rinse and repeat .. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Chazar Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 2 hours ago, Tiger1980 said: If your girlfriend was cheating on you, would you not want to know. depends if the cheat was male or female 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Chazar Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 14 minutes ago, Justgrazing said: I'd tell the dude .. then if he dumps her the lazy biatch will have to go and find another sponsor see plenty of suckers out there, Wifes niece is a manipulative cow just like her Mother always looking for someone to"take care her" just had the silicone tittys done to increase her chances, already has the tats, braced teeth and daily narcissistic selfies she keeps her 4 yr old daughter (that she gave birth to at 15) well out of the picture its dumped with her Mother while she does "promotional work" mainly at nightclubs judging by the photos on farcebook.............shes pig ugly mind. Be ok with the lights out I guess???? 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post misterjames Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 I would tell him us guys have to stick together too and I personally would want to know. 7 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post PatOngo Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 ???? Here we go, YET AGAIN! ………...Just send him this! 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post champers Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 I'm struggling to understand why the OP didn't carry out his extensive internet research before or during having a relationship with the lady. Instead he waits till they have split up. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chazar Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 Better still tell him shes a right good catch to marry asap.........this way he "may" learn something useful for the future Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jastheace Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 8 minutes ago, Chazar said: Better still tell him shes a right good catch to marry asap.........this way he "may" learn something useful for the future no. there'll be a post a few months later 'I think my gf cheated on me, what should I do'. then, and only then with the vast experience of us TVF posters, with our advice, he 'may' learn something. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PatOngo Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 23 minutes ago, champers said: I'm struggling to understand why the OP didn't carry out his extensive internet research before or during having a relationship with the lady. Instead he waits till they have split up. Forgive them for they know not what they do! ???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PatOngo Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 2 minutes ago, jastheace said: no. there'll be a post a few months later 'I think my gf cheated on me, what should I do'. then, and only then with the vast experience of us TVF posters, with our advice, he 'may' learn something. Let them live and learn! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chazar Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 16 minutes ago, jastheace said: no. there'll be a post a few months later 'I think my gf cheated on me, what should I do'. then, and only then with the vast experience of us TVF posters, with our advice, he 'may' learn something. i dont think anything will be learnt 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chazar Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 14 minutes ago, PatOngo said: Let them live and learn! im sad and confused............advice???? dont press the wrong icon 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post bkk6060 Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 The other guy may not care. It is all very common. I have been in bed with girls and during the act, they answer their phone. I can here a guys voice on her phone and the girl demands he send her money immediately and hangs up. All the while, continuing the interaction with me. As I am not looking for love, I think it is hilarious and actually makes the date more exciting. 1 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PatOngo Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 8 minutes ago, bkk6060 said: The other guy may not care. It is all very common. I have been in bed with girls and during the act, they answer their phone. I can here a guys voice on her phone and the girl demands he send her money immediately and hangs up. All the while, continuing the interaction with me. As I am not looking for love, I think it is hilarious and actually makes the date more exciting. Angels. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elad Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 I once met a bar girl, she had 3 mobile phones, and that was back in the day when phones were like breeze blocks. ???? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tingtong2mut Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 Burn her. Id want to know if it was me. And nothing wrong with doing it for vengeance. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Curt1591 Posted March 26, 2020 Share Posted March 26, 2020 4 hours ago, CharlesBa said: they've been together for at least 18 months. Or, have they simply done the deed a time or two and continue chatting on the internet, along with the others that have done or are doing the same? Seriously? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post AlexRich Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 Oh goodness, a newbie post? 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post OneMoreFarang Posted March 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted March 26, 2020 He won't want to listen and he will deny it. You achieve nothing. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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