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2 hours ago, Tie Dye Samurai said:

Lived here for more than three years, I have a good handle on the Thai culture and I have my opinions on marriage as well. So I do know "something". What question was so strange that I asked? (By the way, the guy I was responding to got divorced...and his in laws who have rental properties were still trying to get money out of him when he even said they were better off than him. If he was family and they were better off than him, why were they still trying to get money out of him instead of helping him or just leaving him be). My point is that why cant the woman understand she is married to a western man and maybe could be understanding of his background and experiences. Why does it have to always be the Thai way or the highway?

 

Seriously, if you are happy being married and the parameters of your relationship, then that is a good thing. But you do not have to insult me because I have a different opinion and was willing to share it and qualify my marital status.

Oh my god! Really??? The full amount of three years. Fantastic! Come back and start the conversation in another 20 years. This is very easy, and I can tell you exactly why I dealt with you like I did. It´s because you just repeat yourself and are unwilling to understand. Please look below:

2 hours ago, Tie Dye Samurai said:

Why does it have to always be the Thai way or the highway?

That was just what I was posting and replying to you about. It is not always like that. Actually it´s more uncommon than common, but you don´t hear the happy people complaining, right? That is what you have to understand. The ones that gets into this problems and bad relationships have made all the wrong choices, and are not capable to take care of business and steer up a relation the way the wish to form it and are totally unable to set up rules and don´ts from start.

So, what you are yelling out as something it always have to be, is just pure fantasy and just a very small percent of all relationships between foreigners and Thais. Most of us are capable to make the right decisions in life and build a working relationship. That is the reason why I stand hard as a rock regarding my opinion that you do not have a clue, and that you definitely will need the 20 year extra as already advised.

Here you have another part of your reasoning:

2 hours ago, Tie Dye Samurai said:

Seriously, if you are happy being married and the parameters of your relationship, then that is a good thing. But you do not have to insult me because I have a different opinion and was willing to share it and qualify my marital status.

Yes, I am happy! Why wouldn´t I be? I do not live after the parameters that you are posting about. They belong to the small percentage of people complaining about their relationship. You know, the ones you hear about. It will take you many more years in Thailand to really get a grip of the reality and come in contact with all the happy people, and the ones that actually lives a healthy and equal relationship as husband and wife. You will definitely not find that information by forming your opinions about thing by reading the comments in this forum. It´s overloaded with complainers.

You have a different opinion. Yes and no. That because you can not build an opinion without living here longer time and listening and collecting information from both sides of life. From the majority that makes the right decisions and the minority that makes the wrong ones.

At last, what in the world do you mean with willing to share and qualify your marital status? 

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19 hours ago, Tie Dye Samurai said:

First of all I am not married and fortunately have never been married

I wont even start to ask why. You have summarized that perfect yourself in the rest of the post. Fortunately probably was made up when you realized it was an impossible mission.
 

19 hours ago, Tie Dye Samurai said:

Their finances are not a joint venture

It should be after 22 years, if only one in a relationship has the income. That usually means that the other part has been working taking care of the home and possible children during that time. That is also work and should be seen as that. What you are saying is that she should continue work until she fall down and die, and that the work she have been doing do not qualify for pension.
 

3 hours ago, Tie Dye Samurai said:

I do not claim to know everything.

You do not need to claim that, because it surely looks that way by reading and seeing the amount of posts in a thread about marriage and relationships from a guy who never been married. You surely have all the experience and knowledge in the world to keep on posting. Keep it up! At least it funny reading.

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On 5/23/2020 at 9:51 AM, Tie Dye Samurai said:

Where is the other side of the coin that The Thai woman and her family should know and respect the man's culture?

If they chose to live in the "mans" culture, they probably would... but they are born here, will die here, it really isn't their responsibility.. I know Thai ladies who have married farang in Western Countries [not been brought back there] and they Westernized and did not insist and throw hissy fits because farangs weren't acting Thai... 

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On 5/23/2020 at 7:21 AM, Matzzon said:

Oh my god! Really??? The full amount of three years. Fantastic! Come back and start the conversation in another 20 years.

Didnt realize there was a year living in country requirement to be in this discussion...and again with the insults....nice. Why are you so hostile because you and I have a different opinion when I have not attacked you at all?

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4 hours ago, kenk24 said:

If they chose to live in the "mans" culture, they probably would... but they are born here, will die here, it really isn't their responsibility.. I know Thai ladies who have married farang in Western Countries [not been brought back there] and they Westernized and did not insist and throw hissy fits because farangs weren't acting Thai... 

Now that I can understand and when you put it like that, it does make sense. Thank you for sharing that with me, you have given me something to think about and I appreciate it.

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10 hours ago, Tie Dye Samurai said:

Now that I can understand and when you put it like that, it does make sense. Thank you for sharing that with me, you have given me something to think about and I appreciate it.

Thanks Tie Dye... most country Thai are simple people... they don't travel much and surely not out of Thailand - they have no foundation to understand a different culture at any depth and really are not that interested... it is meaningless until and unless they come in contact as we farang bring it to them. And then, from what I see in my family, they will judge you by your actions... individually. And there are so many different Western Cultures out there.. 

 

I have one Burmese brother in law and he is poor but a really kind helpful guy... he is treated well, as am I for different reasons. I bring different abilities to the table. I have a car and part of what makes me family is that I will drop everything and drive a family member to the hospital and along with other family sit with them all night. You get back what you put in. But these things often take time to play out... 

 

And I don't need or expect them to Westernize... I have elderly family who don't even speak Thai.. and all that said, it is nice that my wife will make me a hamburger sometimes, etc.. so, some give and take is nice, but mostly, the adapting and assimilating is on me. 

 

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10 hours ago, Tie Dye Samurai said:

Didnt realize there was a year living in country requirement to be in this discussion...and again with the insults....nice. Why are you so hostile because you and I have a different opinion when I have not attacked you at all?

When did I write it was a living in the country requirement to be in the discussion? The answer is never.

What I am posting that you need more years to collect the knowledge you need. That as well as you are totally without experience about the subject you are posting in, is the things that makes you unfit for this thread. The only thing you have been doing to form your opinion is reading here and heard others complain, because you not hear anything from the happy ones. It´s just a barstool opinion, and nothing else.

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5 hours ago, Matzzon said:

That as well as you are totally without experience about the subject you are posting in, is the things that makes you unfit for this thread. The only thing you have been doing to form your opinion is reading here and heard others complain, because you not hear anything from the happy ones. It´s just a barstool opinion, and nothing else.

How obnoxious to assume all of my life experience when it comes to the Thais and marriage are based solely and only on this thread to the point I am "unfit" to post. Get over yourself, you are obnoxious in the way you present your arguments that are laced with insults and personal attacks when you do not know me, to the point I could give a cr*p what else you have to say and I feel sorry for your wife if that is what she has dealt with for 20+ years. You dont know how long I have been coming to Thailand and how long I was here before I decided to move, who I hear from, deal with and have been exposed to, you have no idea how I have come to my opinions, you have zero clue about much except how to get on TV and speculate about other people based on two or three posts and hide behind your keyboard in Issan and run your mouth. I am not responding to you anymore....go change your soiled depends you sanctimonious old git.

 

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7 hours ago, Tie Dye Samurai said:

How obnoxious to assume all of my life experience when it comes to the Thais and marriage are based solely and only on this thread to the point I am "unfit" to post.

Again! I never posted that I assume that. If I did please show me, but you can´t.
 

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Get over yourself, you are obnoxious in the way you present your arguments that are laced with insults and personal attacks when you do not know me, to the point I could give a cr*p what else you have to say and I feel sorry for your wife if that is what she has dealt with for 20+ years. You dont know how long I have been coming to Thailand and how long I was here before I decided to move, who I hear from, deal with and have been exposed to, you have no idea how I have come to my opinions, you have zero clue about much except how to get on TV and speculate about other people based on two or three posts and hide behind your keyboard in Issan and run your mouth. I am not responding to you anymore....go change your soiled depends you sanctimonious old git.

 

So, I am an old git that have a wife you feel sorry for. Ok, that´s great. 🤪🤣 (She is very happy by the way, just out of the simple reason she meet a guy with his feet on the ground that do not assume untrue things about Thai people. She is also very happy over that I do not blame all Thai for the wrongs a few do. You know, same like in every country.)

 

Instead of repeating yourself about everything else. Please feel free to tell about all that I/we don´t know, so it´s easier to understand what you base your precious knowledge on.

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Every night I prise the TV remote out of my sons hand and firmly tell him 'BED'.

Then I remove the phone out of my gfs hand and tell her 'SLEEP'.

 

My son complains less than my gf.

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23 hours ago, Tie Dye Samurai said:

Now that I can understand and when you put it like that, it does make sense. Thank you for sharing that with me, you have given me something to think about and I appreciate it.

So, does that mean that you had no clue about different cultures and living long time in different cultures before?

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