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Hey guys my name is Juan, I am Spanish and¬†I am new here¬†ūüėĄ

 

I met my thai girlfriend like 2 years ago on a 4-month trip when I came to Thailand thinking about my future. I never planned to get a girlfriend or meet any girls in Thailand because I hate parties and I like to be on my own but well, things happen I guess and that's my situation right now ...

 

I feel so strange and lonely about it because I haven't told any relative nor friend and I feel quite bad with myself for that. 

 

I would like to speak about somebody about my situation as it may help me see it all clearer but I feel like I am so different from all the people around me, and they can't understand me at all ...

 

After chatting every day since we met and seeing in each other at least once a year, right now I am starting to plan our future together and I see 2 options.

 

Option number 1 was that she come to Europe to live with me here but lately I have been thinking about going to Thailand for a while to teach her some Spanish and other abilities she may need for living in Europe. 

 

I feel like I could work online and would be easier for me living in Thailand rather than she learning Spanish and trying to get used to the live in Spain at first.

 

I have been considering the option of taking a Thai course for 6 or 12 months to be next to her and then think about our future.

 

Is there anyone from Spain or Latin America that can tell me if I could work in Bangkok as a freelance Spanish teacher without any title? Should I get any certificate? I know that I can't work officially with student visa but you guys know i can do that and get money in cash ... 

 

I haven't checked a lot how it works but are there any options for me to stay in Thailand if I learn thai? My level of English is quite high as I have lived 2 years in the UK and worked in big finance companies but if I move¬†to Thailand i'd like to start freelancing on something like teaching languages or creating a site and sell my services (i would really get out of my comfort zone but i have some experience creating website which give me like 200‚ā¨ a month).

 

Can anyone tell me what are the conditions right now for me if I marry a Thai local? Do i need to get a certain income or i can live out of some savings I may have till I get used to or try to get a job? I have around 15.000‚ā¨ saved but that's all I have.

 

I could get 200 euros with some <deleted>ty affiliate marketing websites I have and when I was in Thailand I would try to keep boosting my online stuff and try to create something more for the long term and not only getting money from <deleted>ty affiliate websites ...

 

Should I trying it guys? For me it would be a bit risky as it would be something quite new for me and it is totally the opposite from what my family and people around me would expect from me to do.

 

I am a bit afraid of taking the step and that's why i'd like to hear your opinion because right now i feel a bit scared and sad i may move to Thailand and everything would go totally as opposite as expected.

 

Sorry for the long one but I needed to write what I felt somewhere and I didn't know where until I found this forum ...

 

Thanks ūüėĄ

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Go with your heart... 

Good luck .....

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4 minutes ago, kingofthemountain said:

Ok i try

first where and how do you meet her?

What is her actual work? Where does she lives and with who?

You are not forced to answer but it's very important to help you because you are

not the only one to decide (Like you seem to think) about your future together.

 

For your question no you can not work legaly in Thailand if you don't have a work permit

work as a teacher on line or some others stuff on internet but it's a ''grey'' area and the risk is real

if you want (And if you like) to live with a permanent threat above you, let's go, but i don't recomand 

you to do that.

 

 

Thanks for your answer. She has a regular job at a manufacturing company with an average salary.

 

I never pretended to be the only one deciding but i just try to find out what's best for us. I don't really like Thailand so if i move there it would just be for her and it would be me the one that should get out of his comfort zone and think about something.

 

So then i read about marriage visa which is the biggest step and i read that i may have an income of at least 40.000 thb monthly to get a marriage visa: https://www.siam-legal.com/thailand-visa/Thailand-Marriage-Visa.php

 

How can someone get it without working or having online income?

 

I wouldn't live with a permanent threat because my main goal would be living in Europe with her in the long run. She also prefers that because the quality of life in Europe is a bit higher ....

 

 

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1 minute ago, espanolentailandia said:

my main goal would be living in Europe with her in the long run. She also prefers that because the quality of life in Europe is a bit higher ....

She prefers it coz she thinks the streets are paved with gold¬†ūü§£¬†or is this one different?

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Just now, misterjames said:

She prefers it coz she thinks the streets are paved with gold¬†ūü§£¬†or is this one different?

 

well she may have patience. haven't paid her¬†anything nor invited her to almost anything¬†in 2 years ūüėĄ¬†

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2 minutes ago, espanolentailandia said:

I don't really like Thailand....

 

I wouldn't live with a permanent threat because my main goal would be living in Europe with her in the long run. She also prefers that because the quality of life in Europe is a bit higher ....

You have answered yourself to your question

live in Thailand is really not a good idea for you

and she is right, the quality of life is higher in Europe

 

Can i ask you how old are you?

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1 minute ago, espanolentailandia said:

 

well she may have patience. haven't paid her¬†anything nor invited her to almost anything¬†in 2 years ūüėĄ¬†

How long have you spent in Thailand then? I have never spent money on women either but that doesn't mean that I haven't had gold diggers waste my time for years at a time these women know how to play the long game.

 

I wouldn't be planning my life around any them and and I have dated some stunning ladies here with good jobs education etc I would urge you not to plan your life around them either mate or find out the hard way in 10 years time. 

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1 minute ago, kingofthemountain said:

You have answered yourself to your question

live in Thailand is really not a good idea for you

and she is right, the quality of life is higher in Europe

 

Can i ask you how old are you?

i'd live maybe 1 year with student visa just to learn a bit more about their culture and traditions and learn the language ...

 

I am 26 years old but i don't really thing age matters.

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2 minutes ago, espanolentailandia said:

 

well she may have patience. haven't paid her¬†anything nor invited her to almost anything¬†in 2 years ūüėĄ¬†

She knows already that you have 15000 euros or you have said nothing to her about it?

The Thais can be extremely patients and delude for years if they think a big reward is possible

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