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I thought I'd post this here as the Myanmar section doesn't really get a lot of traffic. I'm a 40-year old Canadian guy and I'm moving to Mandalay, Myanmar as soon as possible. I'm going to be working in an international school (Science teacher not TEFL) and having lived in SEA for a long time (Thailand, Cambodia, Laos & Indonesia), I feel this will be my last stop and I'll settle here (my Burmese language skills are coming on quite nicely). I've really become a little <deleted> off seeing SEA change so much tbh.

 

I'm not into mongering, sort of did all that when I was younger, but I'd really like to find a nice Burmese girl and settle down. The last time I was in Mandalay was 2010 and I wasn't there for long. Can anyone tell me about Myanmar women and the culture around marrying one? What are Myanmar women like? (I know it's a broad question). What's the expat scene like there?

 

There's really very little information online so any help would be great. I tried asking on Reddit and people went <deleted> ballistic that I was asking about women ("we don't want sexpats" etc). Looking for a wife not a bargirl. Would be thankful of any experience. Cheers. 

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2 minutes ago, Don Chance said:

Why would you want to get married? Monogamy is not natural.

I actually would prefer polygamy but that was outlawed in 2015 in Myanmar. For financial security and stability, monogamy is better than being single to me. 

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Mostly it is poor women who are into hypergamy.  If you find a middle class girl she will probably want to go to the west. Go for the poor one, better chance to work out. You buy her something a cheap necklaces or something she will be sooo happy.  You might have to support her whole family though.

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Try to find someone professional, like a teacher, Doctor, lawyer. Good luck.

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Many factories in my province employ Burmese women. I assume many of them would be grateful if you took them home.

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38 minutes ago, Nick in Thailand said:

I actually would prefer polygamy but that was outlawed in 2015 in Myanmar. For financial security and stability, monogamy is better than being single to me. 

*Hmm. Can't delete posts?*

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48 minutes ago, Nick in Thailand said:

There's really very little information online so any help would be great. I tried asking on Reddit and people went <deleted> ballistic that I was asking about women ("we don't want sexpats" etc). Looking for a wife not a bargirl. Would be thankful of any experience.

 

I understand that reception. 

 

In my experience, for 95% of the expats I've known in 20 years of living in Asia, that's code for going through as many women as they can, without paying for it.  And, of course, there are usually plenty of women willing to try out in hopes of getting a green card with this one, the 20th guy they've tried out for...


Obviously, I don't know you or what kind of a person you are.  But I can count on one hand the number of successful marriages I've witnessed in those 20 years when the stated objective was finding a wife.  Lot of good marriages when couples met in the course of their lives and their work, sure.  But spouse shopping is a dodgy business when there's such a chasm between the parties in terms of culture and economics.

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20 minutes ago, AlexRich said:

Try to find someone professional, like a teacher, Doctor, lawyer. Good luck.

That is my target demographic. 

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3 minutes ago, impulse said:

 

I understand that reception. 

 

In my experience, for 95% of the expats I've known in 20 years of living in Asia, that's code for going through as many women as they can, without paying for it.  And, of course, there are usually plenty of women willing to try out in hopes of getting a green card with this one, the 20th guy they've tried out for...


Obviously, I don't know you or what kind of a person you are.  But I can count on one hand the number of successful marriages I've witnessed in those 20 years when the stated objective was finding a wife.  Lot of good marriages when couples met in the course of their lives and their work, sure.  But spouse shopping is a dodgy business when there's such a chasm between the parties in terms of culture and economics.

I've dated a lot of 'native' women around the world and they didn't really appeal. I prefer Western women tbh, humor doesn't go over their head, we can like the same type of movies, music and general culture, we can discuss politics, 'the culture war' and just loads of other topics. So, I'm hoping I'll find a nice Western women, ideally. But, I'm not closing the door on Burmese women, just thought I'd open it ajar and take a peek, see what you guys have to say. 

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your post conjure up the beautiful and touching poem by Rudyard Kipling "Mandalay"

 

"This poem expresses a soldier's longing for the exoticism of the East, particularly Burma.

The poem muses on a Burmese girl sitting by the sea at the Moulmein Pagoda who is thinking of him. The wind is in the palm trees and the temple bells are calling him back to Mandalay. They want him back there with the flotilla where the paddles clank from Rangoon to Mandalay, and the fishes play, and dawn breaks like thunder.

She wore a yellow petticoat and a green cap and her name was Supi-yaw-lat. He first saw her smoking a cheroot and kissing a heathen idol's foot made out of mud, called the "Great Gawd Budd". She loved the idols, and he kissed her there in front of it on the road to Mandalay.

The mist was on the rice-fields and the sun was fading into the horizon while she played the banjo and sang. She put her arm on his shoulder and her cheek against his while they watched the steamers on the river and the elephants piling up teak in the creek. She was afraid to speak in such a heavy, drowsy silence"...

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Just go with the flow bro...relax and enjoy your adventure...😊

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Wouldn't your co workers at the school be eligible. At least a teacher would be able to read and write. 

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