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Lots of advice has been given

Pay the bills online is a good idea, but it will only prolong the agony of what is coming. So STOP

it’s better to draw the line and move forward with your life.

Some may say” grow some balls”

Recognizing the problem is the first step, so you’ve taken that well done now, taking the next step is much harder.

Move on

Admit to yourself it was a mistake.

Swallow your pride.

You took a chance and it you lost.

 

Do NOT give any more money, you are feeding the fire by passing over money, you are helping her addiction.

Threats do NOT work in Thailand, only actions matter

Speak to a lawyer.

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2 minutes ago, Liverpoolfan said:

Are you on said Merry go round at the minute mate?

 

you sound like you are 😂

It's clearly obvious you don't get it and have to resort being a keyboard warrior, whatever, enough time wasted, life will provide you with exactly what you deserve, I hope 🙄

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5 minutes ago, Liverpoolfan said:

Are you on said Merry go round at the minute mate?

 

you sound like you are 😂

I'm on it for the ride, and the bar girls always provide a damned good one!

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21 minutes ago, bolt said:

 

Speak to a lawyer.

Assuming the OP is not trolling, he is not married and he doesn't want custody, so what on earth would he speak to a lawyer about??

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Time to MAKE UP and SPOIL HER.  

Take a family 'vacation' to your legal home country.

Then do whatever you want now that you are playing under fair rules of engagement.

She doesn't care.  You'll have to understand that to make wise logical decisions instead of from the heart once you can actually do what's best for your son.

Good luck.

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I'm not sure if you are from the UK or not but I'm assuming so.
If yes, I believe you can apply for a UK passport for your son if you register your child as a UK citizen notwithstanding that he was born in TH. If your child has your surname and you can get his birth certificate, you can apply for his registration from here. Most countries have similar regulations.

Then you may have the option of trying to leave the country with your boy even though many airlines / immigration officials may ask for some form of consent from his mother. This should only be a departure issue. Creativity may be required.

I feel for your situation notwithstanding that you probably ignored all the warning signs of problems to come. Good luck.

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17 hours ago, BritManToo said:

one was a sex addict

is  that  a  fault?

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17 hours ago, twocatsmac said:

 

Yeah mate, your girl was different. 😂

she  had  balls?

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Gambling is like any other addiction.

 

It is about the kick, not the Money.

 

Money is not important, it's a way to reach the kick.

 

If an addict would get the kick from drinking water, it will do just that.

 

An addict stays addicted for life.

Only difference is active or passive.

Just ask in any AA meeting..

 

If it can be "cured" by acting firm, why are all the "ex- alcoholics" refusing a drink??

 

It can stop, can't be cured.

Just look how many people stoped smoking and stated again.

 

The enormous amount of returns in rehab clinics.

 

And yet.. 

The hundreds of millions around the globe know that they are doing OK, as long as they don't go to Las Vegas..

(Or... You can fill in the gap)

 

They still are addicted, but are not gambling, doing drugs, or abusing alcohol. (Or food, or sex, or...)

 

"Clean and of the scene"

 

That works, for millions.

 

In real life:

Move, away from the card game "friends".

Not just now, a few months, possible years.

 

Get professional help.

Addicts helping addicts.

Make sure she stay of the scene, no new card game friends.

 

And even then...

You are looking at years of falling and standing up.

That is, if she is willing to give up the kick, the game.

 

If she is not, she just keep scoring her kick.

Heroin, cocaine, sex, gambling...

All the same.

 

It's never about the money.

That's just a sad side effect.

It's about the kick, and being willing and able to give it up.

 

For most people needing the kick have reasons.

Traumatic experience that needs to be drowned in liquor or anything that "helps".

 

As long as they don't learn an other way to deal with it..

Drowning is the only thing that "helps"  (with destructive side effects)

 

Yes, I write this from own experience.

Been there, done that.

You won't see me in Vegas.

Otherwise I'm doing fine for over 20 years now.

 

Cured? Never.

Clean? Yes.

Easy? It now is. 

Probably can go to Vegas without any issues, but why would I want to go there?

To test something I do for over 20 years?

Nope. If I would want to go there, it will be to gamble, be addicted, feel the kick.

 

If I want to go there it's time to think about what I'm unhappy about that makes me want to run away.

 

No reason at all for me to go there. Ever. Period.

One of the things I should not do in any day of my life, for the rest of my life.

 

And that's perfect. Most people don't go to Vegas 🙂

 

for the girlfriend / wife...

after Corona, she can come with you to an other country.

new language, new people, no card game friends.

 

if she doesn't want to come with you...

They are all just excuses to keep gambling.

You have your answer.

She like to stay addicted for a while, maybe rest of her life.

 

Then there's the choice for you.

Going down that dark rabit hole with her, path to destruction, or leave her behind.

 

One tip a friend told me before I went to Thailand:

Never invest more then you are willing and able to walk away from.

 

I didn't quite follow it, as I built a wonderful home for my family and me.

If things would go sour, I can walk away and start over, without leaving long term scars (is financial debt)

 

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2 hours ago, Tagged said:

Most likely the police is involved already. Here is the wife of the police who run gambling and expensive loans, as they run the yaba business. Totally screwed

Off topic I know but I have often felt that Thailand in many ways are like the US during or just after the prohibition ... The hey days of corruption and other illegal activities needed to keep the wheels running in a well oiled machine ...  

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I haven’t read through all the posts, but “taking the money away” is not always as easy as it sounds. My girlfriends mother has the same addiction and she took the car without our knowledge and used it as collateral with the mafia sitting outside the parking lot of the “casino”. They don’t care if it’s not her car, they will take it if you don’t pay them back. The mother also stole my girlfriends credit card while she was in hospital recovering from an operation (that I’m the primary card holder for), went and Bought gold and sold it to get money. Didn’t realize until it was too late. 
 

i think it’s hard to stop people gambling in western countries that have systems in place to get people to stop. I honestly think you have no chance in Thailand. 
 

I kicked her parents out and told them that if I ever see them again it will be 1,000 years too soon. Told my girlfriend if I find her supporting them in any way - she’s out the door too. You can’t really do that as you have your son. I’d get legal advice.

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2 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

It's clearly obvious you don't get it and have to resort being a keyboard warrior, whatever, enough time wasted, life will provide you with exactly what you deserve, I hope 🙄

Well so far its treating me just fine.

same cant be said about you, i bet.

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6 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I've tried virgins (3x)

and it's so inconvenient to find a decent restaurant for a vegan... I have heard they are kind of nasty too...

 

oh! virgin - your mistake too - never mind 

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5 minutes ago, 448glb said:

I guess we know how you make your living in Thailand. Let me guess an English teacher right??? Also (you’re) one of those guys who couldn’t get laid in his own country so you have to live here. And I’m sure those three virgins you were talking about where your students. Maybe Elon Musk texted the wrong guy on Twitter.

Retired, haven't worked for nearly 20 years, fully funded from age 45.

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