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Can we go justice for emotional or any kind of blackmail in Thailand?

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Hello everyone,

 

I would like to know if i can go court against my exgirlfriend for blackmail or emotional blackmail, i not sure how to call that.

 

 

She asks me for money in exchange for being able to see my daughter by camera or say if i not send money she will call police when i will go her home see my kid and i so send some to be able to see my kid (i guess that stupid)

Before she was asking me money in exchange to no leave me while i was back my country for work and i of course stop to send after she doing it.

 

There is solution to go court and asking money back or find way for she not doing it and let me see my kid?

 

I have a lot of text that show evidence of my request.

 

Thx in advance for any answer

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If you are really the father it is of course logical that you support your child. The best way to do this is by sending some money to the mother of your child. 

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10 minutes ago, dimitriv said:

If you are really the father it is of course logical that you support your child.

Yes i agree

 

10 minutes ago, dimitriv said:

The best way to do this is by sending some money to the mother of your child. 

Depend really of the mother.

In this specific case it seems the mother isn't a really good person.

Very often unfortunately the child stays with the grandparents and the real ''mother''

give them the minimum to take care of the baby, Then the rest of the money (The biggest part)

can be used by the single mom for an ''holiday life style'' in Pattaya or another city.

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24 minutes ago, dimitriv said:

If you are really the father it is of course logical that you support your child. The best way to do this is by sending some money to the mother of your child. 

how wonderfull it must be to live in a perfect world.

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1 hour ago, Kadilo said:

It’s not a logical situation otherwise I would agree. 
 

In his case he is just fuelling her greed and she is playing on his emotions. 
 

See how keen she is to keep playing that game without any money coming in. 

 

We don't know the whole story. The first 2 replies both said to stop giving money...  And that seems bad advice to me. If the mother has no money at all it will have bad consequences for the child.

 

 

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18 minutes ago, dimitriv said:

 

We don't know the whole story. The first 2 replies both said to stop giving money...  And that seems bad advice to me. If the mother has no money at all it will have bad consequences for the child.

"We don't know the whole story."   First and only post needed for this thread.

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Thanks to anyone for all your advise

 

Anything start when we decide to go my country for let my kid go to school there.

 

Once i get back i find and started work and from the 25000 THB i should send everymonth for her and mykid start make paper while i back to make visa with her she asking me 50000 THB per month and start acting bad about money.

 

She started to say if she not get that money she will go find new dad for my kid more rich and blablalbla and start saying my daughter is not my kid (my kid are declarate at the embassy, the re do not have paternity test but as her face there is no doubt, only a blind person can miss to see she is my daughter) - (5+ years i'm with that girl)

 

And i stand like this 10 month until christmas, at christmass once i get the home in thailand she only asking me money for anything have to pay and the blackmail goes up, and she start saying she will not come my country if her family not finish paid.

 

So i start understand there will be problem as money she asking me is pretty much for me, 50000 thb for thailand and i so have to make 35000/45000 more for can prepar stuff in my country. 

 

I think this is was just to using me before find way to kick me out by sayoing that i stop sending her money.

 

Now its actually 3 month i stop send her any money and while that happen she open a shop, make new roof at home, buy gold, buy new tv, pay the school for my daughter without my support.

 

I think they saved money i send and did like money was all time used every month and of course when i try talk about moeny with she or her parents, they not answer or change subject or even her mom hiding behind the phone to not answer, i asking question while calling my kid by LINE but they hiding and not answer anything or say they lazy to answer.

 

Total unrespect, only to F... ME as well.

 

I asked them why it's become like this as i work hard and do anything for all is being good, the only answer out from this question is i lied about to send them money everynonth as its 6 month i not send but its only 3 month. (just useless talking)

 

Now when i try talk with my kid, i get insult and saying i will not see my daughter anymore as i not send money since 6 month (the true just 3 month)

 

This month i was decide to send money as anyway its my kid, i think to send 10000 thb by 10000 and send it by western union and not bank transfer. Once i give her western union number and say its 10000 she only say if its not 80000 THB not need to send.

 

Resume of this is - i know they using me that few last month only to get money, i know my ex will stay my ex as no way i back with kind of girl acting like this - but i love my kid and even front of my kid her mother call me dick or tell me to go <deleted>.. my self as i not send money.

 

they use coronavirus to say i let my kid and my girlfriend die because not sending money since 6 month (true is 3 month).

 

My only chance to get back something or getting some part good of what they doing now is i think to proove she blakcmail me money ofr this last 10 month and since 3 month she try again by using my kid as shield.

 

That why my topic and need your advise of all and again thx for any quick answer

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8 minutes ago, Tristan fedoff said:

My only chance to get back something or getting some part good of what they doing now is i think to proove she blakcmail me money ofr this last 10 month and since 3 month she try again by using my kid as shield.

 

That why my topic and need your advise of all and again thx for any quick answer

Sorry i don't quote all your post

it seems obvious her and her family are just trying to milk you

as far as they can. To stop to send money was the good choice imo

 

Don't expect to have any of your money back, it's not going to happen.

Stay focused on what is the most important, and forget the blackmail and all the BS.

 

Stop ALL contact with them, but send 5000 by western union every month for your child

(It's more than enough and it's what most of the Thai people pay when someone else

is taking care of the child). Keep all the documents with you as probe.

 

When you will be able to return in Thailand, go straight to see a lawyer

with all the documents and start a claim in court for having your father rights respected.

 

You should also be clear with yourself about what you want or not

i mean do you want to try to take your child live with you in your country?

(Be prepared to a hard fight and you are not sure at all to win)

Or do you just want to be able to see your child when you come in Thailand?

(It should be much more easy to win in court on this one)

 

Good luck again

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2 minutes ago, kingofthemountain said:

Sorry i don't quote all your post

it seems obvious her and her family are just trying to milk you

as far as they can. To stop to send money was the good choice imo

 

Don't expect to have any of your money back, it's not going to happen.

Stay focused on what is the most important, and forget the blackmail and all the BS.

 

Stop ALL contact with them, but send 5000 by western union every month for your child

(It's more than enough and it's what most of the Thai people pay when someone else

is taking care of the child). Keep all the documents with you as probe.

 

When you will be able to return in Thailand, go straight to see a lawyer

with all the documents and start a claim in court for having your father rights respected.

 

You should also be clear with yourself about what you want or not

i mean do you want to try to take your child live with you in your country?

(Be prepared to a hard fight and you are not sure at all to win)

Or do you just want to be able to see your child when you come in Thailand?

(It should be much more easy to win in court on this one)

 

Good luck again

The best i would like to proove that they blackmail me this money to get it and can see my child when i go thailand as i know i will can't have my kid back with me.

So for sure instead to get any money back i want for sure fond the way to can see my daughter when i'm in Thailand.

 

Thanks for any quick reply

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2 hours ago, Tristan fedoff said:

The best i would like to proove that they blackmail me this money to get it and can see my child when i go thailand as i know i will can't have my kid back with me.

So for sure instead to get any money back i want for sure fond the way to can see my daughter when i'm in Thailand.

 

Thanks for any quick reply

You are welcome

 

Don't stay focus on the blackmail problem, your main concern is to be able to visit your

child when you come in Thailand.

 

the 5000\month given idea is to prevent her to pretend you don't give anything for your child.

Your ex gf needs to understand you are now in charge, and the only way is for you to stop to be the one who ask (Asking to see and to talk to your child) because as long as you ask, they want more money for give you what you are asking for.

 

So give her 5000 every month by western union or bank to bank. keep the receipt as a proof you send money every month for your child, as you can put a writing on the bank or WU sending (Doesn't matter if she uses the money or not my bet is the money should be quickly used by her even if she pretends the opposite)

 

Don't inform her about your acts or intentions, the best thing is to avoid any contact with her or her family, just send the 5000 bhts every month at the same date and stay silent.

 

Wait the moment where you are back in Thailand annd your lawyer in Thailand contact her about the court claim

it should be the moment for a game changer and you should be the one in the best position to negociate the conditions of your child visit.

Untill this time don't try to deal or negociate with her or her family, it's totally useless, costly and probably counter productive.

 

Just be strong and patient

stay focus on your job and to save your money

don't worry too much for your child, she is probably happy and 

taking care good by the Thai family, like most of the thai child.

 

 

 

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1 hour ago, kingofthemountain said:

You are welcome

 

Don't stay focus on the blackmail problem, your main concern is to be able to visit your

child when you come in Thailand.

 

the 5000\month given idea is to prevent her to pretend you don't give anything for your child.

Your ex gf needs to understand you are now in charge, and the only way is for you to stop to be the one who ask (Asking to see and to talk to your child) because as long as you ask, they want more money for give you what you are asking for.

 

So give her 5000 every month by western union or bank to bank. keep the receipt as a proof you send money every month for your child, as you can put a writing on the bank or WU sending (Doesn't matter if she uses the money or not my bet is the money should be quickly used by her even if she pretends the opposite)

 

Don't inform her about your acts or intentions, the best thing is to avoid any contact with her or her family, just send the 5000 bhts every month at the same date and stay silent.

 

Wait the moment where you are back in Thailand annd your lawyer in Thailand contact her about the court claim

it should be the moment for a game changer and you should be the one in the best position to negociate the conditions of your child visit.

Untill this time don't try to deal or negociate with her or her family, it's totally useless, costly and probably counter productive.

 

Just be strong and patient

stay focus on your job and to save your money

don't worry too much for your child, she is probably happy and 

taking care good by the Thai family, like most of the thai child.

 

 

 

Thanks for the advise i think i will go for it

I think i will go for send between 5000 to 10000 THB everymonth and stay silent 

 

Again thanks, i have read few topic in the forum about relationship, divorce, child custody...etc.

I see i'm not the only one to got that kind of problem.

 

Best of all for all of you and wish you the best.

 

 

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