"What about us!?" Thais in relationships with foreigners separated by pandemic speak out

[Felt 35]

It should not be a problem if it is true love based on honesty and faithfulness. Many were separated during World War II, but shortly after the War they married and a little later my generations came into the world.????

[Benmart]

3 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

As long as they get their monthly sponsor money I think they'll be happy enough

I think people who think such as you may be happy to find love drinking alcohol.

[stephen tracy]

5 minutes ago, bino said:

Not at all. Being single allows you to enjoy the hooker / John lifestyle to the fullest.

Being single makes know difference whatsoever to someone engaging in sexual congress with hookers. You either are into that or you're not. Pretty simple. 

[Keyser Soze666]

3 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

A couple of d!<k comments so far... 

 

Real people getting separated by a government policy - its awful, unnecessary and absolutely horrible. 

 

Those foreigners who are married (with a marriage certificate) can apply to return, but the process is convoluted and not everyone can afford it; in many cases only business class seat are available on repatriation flights and the ASQ hotels are not cheap (>30,000 baht for 15 days).

 

For others, not married, there is no current route back which is outrageous. 

 

A horrible world situation has caught people out Thailand is not easing this burden at all by forcing them to remain apart. 

 

 

 

Still beating that same drum, then. Sounds like you're abut to burst into tears?

[Percy P]

3 hours ago, GeorgeCross said:

listening to the PTB effectively say "sorry, i'm in love is not a valid reason to extend your visa at the current time" is despicable

 

????

 

 

 

 

Do these couples in love give thought to families who's love one are in a foreign war torn country doing their duty for their country. Some of them never come back.

[Scot123]

3 hours ago, steve187 said:

that's a bit harsh

But sadly quite often true. 

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, giddyup said:

No, but you assumed every Thai/Falang relationship is based on cash transactions.

It does baffle me why this gets people's noses in the air. I give my Thai GF a monthly allowance. She is 23 years younger than me.

She gives excellent value in return, and I can say with confidence after 7 years with her she's had far less impact on my wallet than the two Western women I was with in long-term relationships. Can't recall either of them giving me a massage after golf, or cutting my toenails. I can recall them stinging me for half my assets.

Virtually all transactions with women involve cash, irrespective of nationality. Unless one is a bar stool warrior who has so much sex appeal they snared a brewery heiress. But then, I wonder why they are on TV.

[worldfun]

5 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

It does baffle me why this gets people's noses in the air. I give my Thai GF a monthly allowance. She is 23 years younger than me.

She gives excellent value in return, and I can say with confidence after 7 years with her she's had far less impact on my wallet than the two Western women I was with in long-term relationships. Can't recall either of them giving me a massage after golf, or cutting my toenails. I can recall them stinging me for half my assets.

Virtually all transactions with women involve cash, irrespective of nationality. Unless one is a bar stool warrior who has so much sex appeal they snared a brewery heiress. But then, I wonder why they are on TV.

yes irrespective of nationality. Thais included. ???? end of discussion

[Percy P]

15 minutes ago, kaneko86 said:

Yes this and property owners they should allow to enter aswell.

Yes but under strict rules. 28 day isolation for one.

[Mainhattencitizen]

3 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

As long as they get their monthly sponsor money I think they'll be happy enough

Now that is a stupid statement

[Swedenlars]

3 hours ago, steve187 said:

that's a bit harsh

but true

[from the home of CC]

maybe if these folks had partners that were from countries that didn't have runaway disease rates perhaps it wouldn't be as big an issue, maybe aid in cleaning up your own pox filled streets and perhaps it will be easier to visit/stay..

[Bezdomny]

Reading comments here, majority of expats on TVF are young, handsome and married to max 2 years younger woman who is CEOs and they meet in theater or opera.  ????????

[Scot123]

There are some very bitter and twisted people on here maybe through jealousy or their gutter minds. I have been married to my Thai wife for 14 years we have 2 children and my wife is well educated "degree" and from a good family (sisters Dr and accountants). Oh and when we met she was 24 and still a virgin so this myth that Thai women who marry foreigners must all be bar girls or financially desperate could not be more further from the truth. In fact a lot of my wife's friends who married Thai men all seemed to want to find a foreign husband and the reason was never money as they all have good jobs the reason always: loyalty and love. Have you ever been involved within the Thai community in your own country? Yes some wives were working in bars but by god the ones I have met are all doing well, working hard and helping provide for their family and also helping their parents back in Thailand which should be commended and not ridiculed. I'm sorry but women are women the world over but for my reckoning Thai and Philippine wives that I have met all have a tendency of being the cream at the top.

[ChipButty]

I've never met a bar girl, they are all cashiers so they tell me

[Pilotman]

4 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

As long as they get their monthly sponsor money I think they'll be happy enough

how cynical.  This business is making it very hard for normal families who just want to live their lives in peace. I feel very sorry for them. 

[Pilotman]

9 minutes ago, Scot123 said:

There are some very bitter and twisted people on here maybe through jealousy or their gutter minds. I have been married to my Thai wife for 14 years we have 2 children and my wife is well educated "degree" and from a good family (sisters Dr and accountants). Oh and when we met she was 24 and still a virgin so this myth that Thai women who marry foreigners must all be bar girls or financially desperate could not be more further from the truth. In fact a lot of my wife's friends who married Thai men all seemed to want to find a foreign husband and the reason was never money as they all have good jobs the reason always: loyalty and love. Have you ever been involved within the Thai community in your own country? Yes some wives were working in bars but by god the ones I have met are all doing well, working hard and helping provide for their family and also helping their parents back in Thailand which should be commended and not ridiculed. I'm sorry but women are women the world over but for my reckoning Thai and Philippine wives that I have met all have a tendency of being the cream at the top.

well said Sir.

[paulikens]

2 hours ago, HashBrownHarry said:

If you meet the criteria you are able to return now by other means than the repatriation flights, ie Emirates or KLM.

@HashBrownHarry but thats the problem hardly anyone meets the criteria 

[Youlike]

4 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

As long as they get their monthly sponsor money I think they'll be happy enough

In 15 years marriage i never paid my thai wife any sponsor money....She has a good job herself.

[sawadee1947]

4 hours ago, rooster59 said:

This has meant bad situations where pregnant women were without the support of their foreign boyfriends who might miss the birth of their children and be unable to register them. 

In many cases good excuse not being able to enter Thailand. 

And in addition many Thai girls/prostitutes have not only one farang supporter. If they would come all to Thailand at the same time...... overcrowded. ????

[BTB1977]

Any one who enters into a relationship with a foreigner who comes and goes knows there will be times they will be gone for months.  If you read between the lines seems their financial support has been gone too long. And the thought of actually working and making money scares the <deleted> out of them. Why not just find a side John that lives here and see if it pays out better 

[Alex80]

3 hours ago, CrunchWrapSupreme said:

But the TVF barstool brigade in their esteemed wisdom recently told me, that because my wife and her family are in professions affected by Covid, either losing their jobs or having salaries reduced, and not hi-so, university educated, upper level corporate minions like the wives and families they’ve all surely married into, then I MUST have married a bar girl!

and even if you did, where is the problem? bigots, bigots everywhere

[rumak]

1 hour ago, radjag said:

"Common Law Marriage" for 34 years so that she can continue to legally own property in Thailand. Same age (now both close to 65). Lived together in several countries as man and wife - visited many others. But now she is stuck in Thailand and I am stuck overseas.

i imagine someone else has already posted ............... if not,  that law was made obsolete a long time ago.

32 years ago my first land  wife and i bought had to be in someone elses name ( we used her parents)

 

No longer the case nowadays........ though land offices usually want farang to sign saying the money is hers.     But land easily goes in spouses name now.   So get married and stop living in sin   555 (joking, Yinn)

[ChipButty]

It could have happened to us we are not married but have lived together for 13 years we was about to go on a 3 month jolly if we had got stuck abroad the midget would have been able to get back to Thailand but not me, I would have had to go back to the UK with just a suitcase full of clothes

[stephen tracy]

48 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

It does baffle me why this gets people's noses in the air. I give my Thai GF a monthly allowance. She is 23 years younger than me.

She gives excellent value in return, and I can say with confidence after 7 years with her she's had far less impact on my wallet than the two Western women I was with in long-term relationships. Can't recall either of them giving me a massage after golf, or cutting my toenails. I can recall them stinging me for half my assets.

Virtually all transactions with women involve cash, irrespective of nationality. Unless one is a bar stool warrior who has so much sex appeal they snared a brewery heiress. But then, I wonder why they are on TV.

"Virtually all transactions with women involve cash".... I rest my case... see earlier comments.

[hotchilli]

4 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

For others, not married, there is no current route back which is outrageous. 

Yes it is outrageous... so would be hundreds of tourists saying they want to come to meet their girlfriends pretending to be in relationships, what would qualify as a relationship... FB/Line/snapchat/IG conversations?

A line has to be drawn somewhere.
Certificated partnerships is that line.

[Somtamnication]

Good for them. It ain't gonna improve. Military government, xenophobia, etc etc etc.

[FritsSikkink]

3 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

I didn't say it was, incidentally what's the age gap with your Thai lady/man?

How much do you pay?

[scubascuba3]

3 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

3 years...  

 

.... and you are continuing to fit into the exact same ‘stereotype’ stephen tracy painted....  (belief held by your own personal experiences of hooker-john scenario).

 

 

Touches a nerve with some people, are you saying it doesn't happen and no guys pay a monthly salary?

[ChaiyaTH]

"People have left negative comments on the site like "loving a foreigner is not real love it is only about sex".

Reminds me of my engagement in the village, people were only asking why she took a foreigner and how much money it would get her, not interested wether I would stay in the picture, what work I did or anything like that lol. Was entirely about money with most.

Edited September 12, 2020 by ChaiyaTH