Popular Post Pilotman 18,170 Posted December 5, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted December 5, 2020 Feeling rather guilty again about the amount of help I request and need from my kids back in UK, that I never anticipated. They don't mind at all, but I do. Makes me feel that I can't manage my own affairs from here, but companies based in UK, and probably in many other of our Home Countries, don't make it easy to contact them from Thailand. Amazon is a prime example ( sorry about the pun). Want to cancel Prime, can't do it from here. Want to sort of my ISA, can't do it from here. Want to tell of a change of phone number, very difficult., deal with government departments from here, not at all easy. Getting replacement credit and debit cards forwarded on, a pain. The kids are a valuable resource in doing all this stuff for their dear old Dad, but I don't think they expected it to be so much. Goodness knows how expats manage who don' t have those resources in their home country. 5 Link to post
Popular Post CharlieH 28,457 Posted December 5, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted December 5, 2020 Pretend they are not there, you will find away to achieve what you need. Humans are great at challenges and overcoming them. I am not saying you are taking the easy option, but sub consciously that may be the case. I was surprised when faced with certain challenges in that regard and when there is no one to turn to, you do find a way. As the saying goes"where theres a will there is a way" Thats my experience anyway, 18 1 Link to post
Pilotman 18,170 Posted December 5, 2020 Author Share Posted December 5, 2020 (edited) 49 minutes ago, CharlieH said: Pretend they are not there, you will find away to achieve what you need. Humans are great at challenges and overcoming them. I am not saying you are taking the easy option, but sub consciously that may be the case. I was surprised when faced with certain challenges in that regard and when there is no one to turn to, you do find a way. As the saying goes"where theres a will there is a way" Thats my experience anyway, I always try myself as a first and many other steps, but often the kids are the last and only real option. As I say, they don't mind at all, or say they don't. Its just me being too sensitive about involving them in my trivia when they have enough of their own,. It must be like having a kid of their own that lives away from home. They do say that you revert to childhood as you get older, perhaps that's it. Edited December 5, 2020 by Pilotman 1 Link to post
Popular Post Andrew Dwyer 14,408 Posted December 5, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted December 5, 2020 My daughter lets me use her U.K. address as my own, checks my mail and forwarded my new credit card recently. For this service she can request unlimited loans ( usually okayed ). My son has no requests from me for his assistance. For this service he can request unlimited loans ( usually okayed ). Now wait a minute ..................... !! 3 Link to post
Popular Post Pilotman 18,170 Posted December 5, 2020 Author Popular Post Share Posted December 5, 2020 16 minutes ago, Andrew Dwyer said: My daughter lets me use her U.K. address as my own, checks my mail and forwarded my new credit card recently. For this service she can request unlimited loans ( usually okayed ). My son has no requests from me for his assistance. For this service he can request unlimited loans ( usually okayed ). Now wait a minute ..................... !! yes. It's in my kids best interest to keep me happy for the inevitable day when I move off to the Quantum World. Same could be said of Mrs P. 3 Link to post
Popular Post Lacessit 22,623 Posted December 5, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted December 5, 2020 I have a CARE package hopefully arriving from my son in Australia soon. Vegemite, shaving cream, sunblock and golf gloves. In a year's time, repeat. I request technical assistance from my son on computer matters, we usually sort them out via LINE or Skype. While I am not computer illiterate, he is quite a few streets ahead of me. I feel no guilt about asking for help, as I assisted him quite substantially when he bought the house he lives in. He is caring for his mother, who has Alzheimer's. As he says, he has a vested interest in me staying healthy and compos mentis for as long as possible. 3 Link to post
Kwasaki 10,593 Posted December 5, 2020 Share Posted December 5, 2020 (edited) Don't ask much of my offspring most of them come here every year and stay with us except this year of course. My UK bank has my address here so they send my credit cards and debit cards here. My family is quite large so some of them can't always get over so we just keep in touch all year by facebook messager. Edited December 5, 2020 by Kwasaki 2 Link to post
Popular Post quake 1,131 Posted December 5, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted December 5, 2020 an ISA in the uk, when residing full time in Thailand says it all. next. 3 1 Link to post
topt 2,680 Posted December 6, 2020 Share Posted December 6, 2020 20 hours ago, quake said: an ISA in the uk, when residing full time in Thailand says it all. next. Why such a negative view? If it was opened before he left then nothing wrong with that at all. You can even trade with it. The only thing you are not supposed to do is add new money to it. 1 Link to post
quake 1,131 Posted December 6, 2020 Share Posted December 6, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, topt said: Why such a negative view? If it was opened before he left then nothing wrong with that at all. You can even trade with it. The only thing you are not supposed to do is add new money to it. yes, you are correct. my bad. but think you need to notify the provider that you have become non resident. i'm sure most people do that. Edited December 6, 2020 by quake Link to post
ivor bigun 4,016 Posted December 6, 2020 Share Posted December 6, 2020 All my family have line or messenger ,talk to my daughter daily ,any thing comes to the house she either sends on or shows it to me on line ,they nearly all come over and stay ,covid has messed that up this year ,fingers crossed for next . its as if we are never apart ,unlike many years ago ,when there was only the phone. Link to post
Colabamumbai 3,644 Posted December 7, 2020 Share Posted December 7, 2020 Have to use a friend's number in Canada for TD bank security. They don't accept Thai number. 1 Link to post
polpott 5,101 Posted December 7, 2020 Share Posted December 7, 2020 Best friend does a lot for me. I use his address. Have my own room in his apartment when I visit UK and store possessions there which I don't want to bring to Thailand e.g. winter clothing. Opens my mail and sends photos of it/forwards it as necessary. Collects my prescription from the pharmacy every 8 weeks and forwards it to me every 16 weeks. Generally runs the UK part of my life. Top bloke. In return I provide a room for him in my house for when he visits (regularly before Covid). Also keep tabs on his lady/ladies in Thailand and have provided non P4P contacts for him when he visits. Also do side trips with him to other parts of Thailand/S.E. Asia. I also tell him stories of my day to day life here which he normally appreciates but he hasn't been able to visit since February and no signs of when he can visit. He's also currently in lockdown and extremely peed off. Desperate to get back here. I think the tales of what a great time I'm having are beginning to pee him off so I've throttled back on them. Link to post
PGSan 220 Posted December 7, 2020 Share Posted December 7, 2020 I have very few problems dealing with my UK presence, almost entirely online except for credit card problems that need a skype-out call. I have even done property deals there using fully digitised agents and conveyancing/legal services, with only a single need for a courier service to send verified documents to the UK. But I do keep a lot of things going there: UK phone number, bank account, TV licence even (to verify my UK address) . . . Oh!! I had better not publicise all this too much, so please eat this comment after reading. 1 1 Link to post
Popular Post jessc 92 Posted December 7, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted December 7, 2020 On 12/5/2020 at 12:25 PM, Pilotman said: Feeling rather guilty again about the amount of help I request and need from my kids back in UK, that I never anticipated. They don't mind at all, but I do. Makes me feel that I can't manage my own affairs from here, but companies based in UK, and probably in many other of our Home Countries, don't make it easy to contact them from Thailand. Amazon is a prime example ( sorry about the pun). Want to cancel Prime, can't do it from here. Want to sort of my ISA, can't do it from here. Want to tell of a change of phone number, very difficult., deal with government departments from here, not at all easy. Getting replacement credit and debit cards forwarded on, a pain. The kids are a valuable resource in doing all this stuff for their dear old Dad, but I don't think they expected it to be so much. Goodness knows how expats manage who don' t have those resources in their home country. Don't feel guilty, feel grateful and proud. There are many, many people in the world who would give anything to lean on family, or to have family lean on them. Don't lose sight of your fortune in the face of self-doubt, and be happy you raised kids who are competent to help others. Also, remember to say thank you (out loud, so they can hear you). 3 Link to post
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