Weird demand form my boyfriend

[kellyoinkoink 17]

Hello folks,

It is weird a bit when I am an only girl in this group who asks your advices about sensitive issue of relationship. And I know most of you are men. I think it’s better because I can understand what is happening in man’s brain beside his neurons.

 

Well, story is that my weird boyfriend keeps mentioning about a weird of relationship which I cannot accept it -3somes.

 

I think it violates moral standard. Moreover, as a official girlfriend, who wants bf “abcdxyz” with another girl in front of her, then that girl touch to her body.....that is so ewww. that girl is stranger, who knows if she gets HIV or not. 2 girls use 1 man. And that is my man. Whenever I imagine that situation, I just want to kill that girl and choke my bf’s neck. No mood for “abcdxyz”. For me, it’s like he cheats me under my permission.

 

As a man, please tell me your thoughts.

 

Thanks for listening my story.

Hope you have a nice day.

 

Edited January 27 by kellyoinkoink

[kingofthemountain 5,490]

Hi 

it could help to give a good advice with more informations

like your age and since how many time you are in the relation

plus what are the mutual involvments (Child? Owning a house or a condo together? And so on)

 

Anyway you are not forced to accept his demand if you don't agree or even 

if you aren't comfortable with the idea. Just expose to him your feelings

and explain it's not negociable for you. His fantasm is a classic for a man

(The ''harem'' syndrom) maybe he should be less comfortable if you propose the 

other way, you with 2 men?

 

Be prepared to a possible break in your relation soon or later

a disagreement in the sexual life in a young couple is often the begining of the end

 

good luck

 

[Maha Sarakham 302]

23 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

As a man, please tell me your thoughts.

 

You've already outlined how you feel about the situation.

 

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For me, it’s like he cheats me under my permission.

 

Either you're ok with it or you aren't.  Sounds like you are not.

[timendres 6,777]

The first thing to understand about men is that they think about sex much more than any woman can possibly imagine. Second, these thoughts often drift into fantasy. These fantasies are driven by many things, but the "threesome" fantasy is very common. Personally, having indulged in said fantasy numerous times, I can honestly say that the fantasy is always better than the reality. In fact, this is true of almost every fantasy.

 

So, the first thing you want to do is try to understand this aspect of men. Then, you should make it very clear to your bf where you stand on this question. There are women who are perfectly willing to explore some fantasies with their lover. And every woman has limits to what they are willing to explore. Simply make this clear, but in a non-confrontational manner. Explain how you feel about the idea. Explain that you understand that your bf has these fantasies, but that they must remain just that, unless he wishes to jeopardize your relationship.

[kingdong 5,324]

Tell your " boyfriend " you,d like to have a threesome with him and another male see how he reacts to that.

[kellyoinkoink 17]

1 minute ago, kingdong said:

Tell your " boyfriend " you,d like to have a threesome with him and another male see how he reacts to that.

He said: let’s do it. 
I don’t know what to say then....

[samisaurus 152]

He sounds awesome. Hope he replaces you for not behaving properly. 

[AlexRich 10,771]

Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it Kelly. Have a go, and then update us all with your thoughts. 

[sirineou 17,899]

Please don't feed the trolls, they get used to hanging around humans and sooner or later someone is going to get hurt. 

[kellyoinkoink 17]

5 minutes ago, samisaurus said:

He sounds awesome. Hope he replaces you for not behaving properly. 

Awesome? How can u agree to share your girlfriend with another guy? Are u jealous at all? just a bit ? No? If u are not jealous , are u sure that it’s love?

[kellyoinkoink 17]

Guys, After telling him my thoughts and asked him what if I and he and another man do it, he said “ let’s do it”.....I don’t know what to say! 
This man’s fantasy happens with you guys? 

[sirineou 17,899]

28 minutes ago, sirineou said:

Please don't feed the trolls, they get used to hanging around humans and sooner or later someone is going to get hurt. 

So First post in this community and it's a doozy  ,

then when I make a round and about accusation of trolldom, this first time poster knows exactly what a troll is and posts a Sad emoji for calling him so.  

Edited January 27 by sirineou
typo

[kingofthemountain 5,490]

4 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

Awesome? How can u agree to share your girlfriend with another guy? Are u jealous at all? just a bit ? No? If u are not jealous , are u sure that it’s love?

It's a complex and difficult question

you don't own the other, his mind and his body

it can be a proof of love to let the other chose how and with who to

use his\her body (The swingers for example)

 

the exclusive sexual notion between 2 persons in a couple is something created by the

western societies to deal with and organize the parental filiation

few others society and civilizations recognize polygamy and even the polyandry

[kingofthemountain 5,490]

6 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

Guys, After telling him my thoughts and asked him what if I and he and another man do it, he said “ let’s do it”.....I don’t know what to say! 
This man’s fantasy happens with you guys? 

I am more into the gang bang thing

 

[kingdong 5,324]

43 minutes ago, kellyoinkoink said:

He said: let’s do it. 
I don’t know what to say then....

If this is a serious post and not a wind up,tell him to sling his hook,

Edited January 27 by kingdong