The meaning of friends

[BritManToo 45,383]

5 hours ago, sirineou said:

Have you noticed that Thais build their houses all the way in the back of the property and hung out at the front , to see and be seen. where , at least where we are here in the US, and I suspect in many other western countries, they build the house at the front with the fenced in yard at the back? 

I've always assumed it was because Thais want everyone to see how much land they own.

Whereas white folk wanted privacy.

 

If we were protecting ourselves from hostiles, we'd build at the back to give us a better 'killing field' at the front.

Edited February 24 by BritManToo

[sirineou 18,000]

Just now, BritManToo said:

I've always assumed it was because Thais want everyone to see how much land they own.

Whereas white folk wanted privacy.

Are you sure it's not because white folks  are ashamed of  how little land they have after they pay their property tax. ?

[DDBKK 158]

It's a very interesting topic this one. Not just for the mates/friends within thailand but also those "back home".

 

Ultimately though as I get older and wiser I have come to conclusion not to expect anything from any friend.

 

Friendships are no different than any other type of relationship. They have a start date and an end date. Sometimes the end date is clearly visable for quite some time but you both string it out for all it's worth until it's just not worth the effort any more and it drifts into oblivion. Whatsap/line probably allow those ones to string along well past their sell by dates. 

 

Then there are those that end quite suddenly that can leave you feeling a bit like "what the f$%k happened there" but what ever the event or situation, in all instances when you take a step back and look at it for what it is, it becomes quite clear that it was at the end of the line. 

 

It's all about being honest with yourself. Get a solid thai lady on your side from a decent family and you'll never look back or care about when a friendship ends. A solid thai family is absolute gold. 

[georgegeorgia 730]

2 hours ago, DDBKK said:

It's a very interesting topic this one. Not just for the mates/friends within thailand but also those "back home".

 

Ultimately though as I get older and wiser I have come to conclusion not to expect anything from any friend.

 

Friendships are no different than any other type of relationship. They have a start date and an end date. Sometimes the end date is clearly visable for quite some time but you both string it out for all it's worth until it's just not worth the effort any more and it drifts into oblivion. Whatsap/line probably allow those ones to string along well past their sell by dates. 

 

Then there are those that end quite suddenly that can leave you feeling a bit like "what the f$%k happened there" but what ever the event or situation, in all instances when you take a step back and look at it for what it is, it becomes quite clear that it was at the end of the line. 

 

It's all about being honest with yourself. Get a solid thai lady on your side from a decent family and you'll never look back or care about when a friendship ends. A solid thai family is absolute gold. 

Fantastic 

Your absolutely right about the friendships...some just end and we don't know why 

 

[Leaver 5,811]

On 2/24/2021 at 7:17 AM, BritManToo said:

If we were protecting ourselves from hostiles, we'd build at the back to give us a better 'killing field' at the front.

 

Build in the middle, and guard the perimeter.  

[thaibeachlovers 33,471]

On 2/25/2021 at 4:35 PM, georgegeorgia said:

Fantastic 

Your absolutely right about the friendships...some just end and we don't know why 

 

True, but sometimes I worked out the reason years later. It's difficult for a male as it's hard for a mere male to work out what a female's reasons might be.

I got dumped once for pointing out that she had an attractive posterior.

Then there was the one that dumped me AFTER I fixed her car, though she must have known she was going to do so before I did.

 

Not just women though. I was dumped by a male "friend" who rang me the next week to ask me around again. I worked out that that was because he'd forgotten I hadn't finished fixing his car when he dumped me on the phone. I didn't go back and for sure he couldn't pay someone to fix it. Sometimes there is such a thing as karma.

 

Sometimes the reason is obvious, like when a 30 year friendship ended because he stole a years wages worth from me.