ThaiAmericanHalfie Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 I am being asked to write a letter for a family member to get them approved for parole. They want me to put down my THAI ID as well which concerns me. The letter needs to state that the prisoner will be living in the same house as me. What I'm worried about is the responsibilities. Would I be able to leave the house for vacation for example? If this person commits a crime will I also be held accountable? Will I be financially responsible for this person? I'm being told this is a normal thing for family members to do for the prisoner in order to ask for parole in Thailand. I'm wondering if this is the same as a parole sponsor in regards to the responsibilities. They are calling it a guarantor? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BritManToo Posted March 3, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 3, 2021 Agree to do it, but never actually get around to writing the letter. 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scubascuba3 Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 Concerning for sure, especially if the Thai is shady and likely to commit again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Andy from Kent Posted March 3, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 3, 2021 17 minutes ago, BritManToo said: Agree to do it, but never actually get around to writing the letter. Where I come from that's known as being deceitful. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BritManToo Posted March 3, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 3, 2021 1 minute ago, Andy from Kent said: Where I come from that's known as being deceitful. Where I live, that's known as the Thai way. 5 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Popular Post FritsSikkink Posted March 3, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 3, 2021 22 minutes ago, BritManToo said: Where I live, that's known as the Thai way. Move to a better area in Thailand. 3 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackcab Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 1 hour ago, ThaiAmericanHalfie said: The letter needs to state that the prisoner will be living in the same house as me. Is the ex-prisoner going to be living with you if they get released? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Kwasaki Posted March 3, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 3, 2021 1 hour ago, ThaiAmericanHalfie said: I am being asked to write a letter for a family member to get them approved for parole. Well I wouldn't do it. Tell them to get one of the Thai family to do it. Would you jump off a balcony if someone asked you to. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Gracas Posted March 3, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 3, 2021 I guess it will be good to have the wife back home again. 1 13 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Patong2021 Posted March 3, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 3, 2021 Ask yourself the following; 1. Do you know this person well? If no, do not sign. 2. Do you know what the actual crime was, and has the person accepted responsibility if the person was responsible for the crime. If no, do not sign. 3. Would you accept living in same home as the person, and trust that person to behave? If no, do not sign. 4. Why are you being asked and not other relatives? Maybe those relatives do not want to sign for good reason. 5. Ask parole office what legal responsibility you are assuming. Do not ask the family. You may be in for an unpleasant surprise if this is a guarantor document. 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Muton Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 8 hours ago, Patong2021 said: Ask yourself the following; 1. Do you know this person well? If no, do not sign. 2. Do you know what the actual crime was, and has the person accepted responsibility if the person was responsible for the crime. If no, do not sign. 3. Would you accept living in same home as the person, and trust that person to behave? If no, do not sign. 4. Why are you being asked and not other relatives? Maybe those relatives do not want to sign for good reason. 5. Ask parole office what legal responsibility you are assuming. Do not ask the family. You may be in for an unpleasant surprise if this is a guarantor document. Number 2 55555555 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post tonray Posted March 4, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 4, 2021 (edited) I would let the Thai family handle it...after all why should this involve you as I assume you are not the homeowner ? And BTW...if this was a drug related offense...I would advise against it...the rate of recidivism is very high so expect a recurrence Edited March 4, 2021 by tonray 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Blue Muton Posted March 4, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 4, 2021 I just remembered that a few years back my wife's sister was begging to borrow 10,000 Baht to get her teenage son out of the trouble he'd got himself into with drugs. We lent him the money but he never took any responsibility for it and never paid back one Baht. Then about three years ago the sister sold some land to another family member, who diverted the 10k to us. This caused a big row with the sister in law's husband because he'd been lied to by the sister in law who told him that we'd given the money rather than lent it. He was really abusive to my wife over the phone (if it had happened back home I'd have destroyed the smarmy chav but TiT). My wife and her sister haven't spoken since. No good deed..... You have nothing to gain by doing this imho, just steer clear of it. 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tifino Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 SIL sponsored a nephew once....but never again! HE disappeared along with bulk Baht of jewelry phones and Cash. The jewelry was tracked thru a pawnshop, but the Bibs would not assist retrieval. SIL even tried to deal a recovery with the new 'owner' Anyway I recall he was always acting suss... never sleep when everyone else did... just made out he was slways online playing games - but was simply waiting for his opportunity... 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevemercer Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 On 3/3/2021 at 11:24 AM, BritManToo said: Agree to do it, but never actually get around to writing the letter. Yes, it took me a while to learn the Thai way. I always hummed and hawed when Thai people asked me to do something I didn't really want to do. For example, a teaching gig or some other commitment. I eventually learned to say yes, to tell them what they wanted to hear, but to then forget about it. Because there is never any follow up!!! And no need to feel responsible! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike787 Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 NO!!!!!!!!! DO NOT DO IT! You WILL be sucked into a vacuum of irreversible hell. Tell them to find someone else. You have Jesus tattooed on your forehead or something? You ready to save the world...go ahead...not my problem it's ALL on you now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connda Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 On 3/3/2021 at 11:24 AM, BritManToo said: Agree to do it, but never actually get around to writing the letter. Dude. You've lived in Thailand too long. Now that's going native! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connda Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Paroles a piece of cake. Probably less reporting requirement than doing the farang potential criminal 90 day reports. And as a plus? After a set amount of time the parolee is free from all reporting requirements - unlike the farang potential criminals who must do 90 day reports ad-infinitum. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daveAustin Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Could be a can of worms if you do, but likely fall foul of the family if don't. Would personally err on the side of caution and tell them to FO. Stand up for yourself; if you don't want to do something and feel uncomfortable, don't do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmarshall Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 Since the OP does not know all the implications of providing the parole letter and since no one here does either, why would he even consider taking on some risk that he doesn't understand? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotchilli Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 On 3/4/2021 at 12:25 AM, Patong2021 said: Ask yourself the following; 1. Do you know this person well? If no, do not sign. 2. Do you know what the actual crime was, and has the person accepted responsibility if the person was responsible for the crime. If no, do not sign. 3. Would you accept living in same home as the person, and trust that person to behave? If no, do not sign. 4. Why are you being asked and not other relatives? Maybe those relatives do not want to sign for good reason. 5. Ask parole office what legal responsibility you are assuming. Do not ask the family. You may be in for an unpleasant surprise if this is a guarantor document. Best reply yet, why don't other family members want to do it? Or do they think coming from a foreigner will add weight to the application for parole. I'd find out if it involves any responsibility for you after.. if yes, politely decline. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iron Tongue Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 What was/were the crime(s)? If they involved stealing, drugs, gang activity, the rates of recidivism are too high to chance it. Strangely, murderers typically don't commit again. Will this person actually be living in your home? The letter sounds like you will be acting as a guarantor. What if the police come looking for him, or if criminals come? What if they say the parolee owes money and now it is your responsibility? Sounds like you don't even know this person, why would you ever be willing to sign your life over to him? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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