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I know Sin Sot is much discussed elsewhere, but I cannot find it here despite looking back a year or more. I am seeing a wonderful hill tribe woman, who is mid 20's, never married, no children, younger siblings, father lives away from home. I am British, 20 yrs older and solvent, but no millionaire. Marriage is being suggested and I wonder if anyone has a feel for local bride price. Any recent precedent? The first 'punt' from Mama is 7 figures!!

Also, how do I negotiate with Mama, she doesnt speak Thai, so I will need to find someone who speaks mountain language and English?

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I know Sin Sot is much discussed elsewhere, but I cannot find it here despite looking back a year or more. I am seeing a wonderful hill tribe woman, who is mid 20's, never married, no children, younger siblings, father lives away from home. I am British, 20 yrs older and solvent, but no millionaire. Marriage is being suggested and I wonder if anyone has a feel for local bride price. Any recent precedent? The first 'punt' from Mama is 7 figures!!

Also, how do I negotiate with Mama, she doesnt speak Thai, so I will need to find someone who speaks mountain language and English?

Thais always think that all farangs are rich and always try to ask rediculous amounts. Don't let her mama take adventage of you. 50K-100K is more then enough. Why do you want to marry a older women anyway?

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Nah, I think most Thais on for instance Jedyod Rd. think the opposite and even though some would believe that westerners are richer EVERYBODY don't ALWAYS think like that.

I won't throw myself in the sinsod discussion but forget about the price until you have discussed what percent of the money is actually given away and not for show.

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I know Sin Sot is much discussed elsewhere, but I cannot find it here despite looking back a year or more. I am seeing a wonderful hill tribe woman, who is mid 20's, never married, no children, younger siblings, father lives away from home. I am British, 20 yrs older and solvent, but no millionaire. Marriage is being suggested and I wonder if anyone has a feel for local bride price. Any recent precedent? The first 'punt' from Mama is 7 figures!!

Also, how do I negotiate with Mama, she doesnt speak Thai, so I will need to find someone who speaks mountain language and English?

Don't be negotiating with mama at all, talk about it with your GF and let her do the talking with mama. I have nothing against sin sot at all but alarm bells would ring immedietly if a future mother in law started that sort of caper.

Treat these sin sot talks as an indication of how your marriage will be, to quote seven figures off the bat indicates to me that she has no respect for you from the get go. Mid twenties daughter with a chance to marry a young solvent farang....she should be paying you!!!

Good luck and eyes open young fella

Andy

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I'll go along with 50-100 as well. if she is uneducated but gorgeous the low end. if she's well educated and gorgeous with university degree decent well paying job and speaks English well the top end. If she is a virgin maybe a bit more because of her great moral upbringing and values.

I didn't pay a dowry exactly but Pa ended up with our car somehow,LOL (we were moving back to canada anyway) maybe worth 120,000 max and i bought Ma some gold about 10,000. I might add Pa is well connected with the Military (He's retired) and the police in Phayao province and that's a definite plus and my wife is very well educated and worked in the Faculty of Medicine at Chiang Mai University Hospital.

For a cool million you may be able to wed Thaksin's daughter or some well healed society type with real strong family connections to the government or Military.

They will get the million out of you eventually so don't make a huge down payment up front. :o

Did you discuss the costs of the wedding parties.. :D

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I know Sin Sot is much discussed elsewhere, but I cannot find it here despite looking back a year or more. I am seeing a wonderful hill tribe woman, who is mid 20's, never married, no children, younger siblings, father lives away from home. I am British, 20 yrs older and solvent, but no millionaire. Marriage is being suggested and I wonder if anyone has a feel for local bride price. Any recent precedent? The first 'punt' from Mama is 7 figures!!

Also, how do I negotiate with Mama, she doesnt speak Thai, so I will need to find someone who speaks mountain language and English?

I agree with all the others. Mid 20s hilltribe woman is already worth very little in the local Thai market. She'd be looking at a nominal payment only if she could even find a local husband.

The fact that she's asking such a totally ridiculous amount shows you are not being viewed as her daughter's husband that is joining the family but as a lottery ticket that she wants to cash in straight away before its lost. The pressure for money is only going to end when you leave or she leaves her family. There is not going to be a good ending to this.

Bad news for you I'm afraid and I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but in Asia you are marrying the family and this is a family you are taking a huge burden on board by marrying into.

My advice, again which you don't want to hear, is to realise that however wonderful your tilac might be she's unmarryable by you because of her family. Move on and at least you'll only have regrets rather than regrets AND a huge loss of money and a few wasted years of stress and hassle.

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One thing I forgot to ask. Is she a Thai citizen? If not you may be in for a huge can of worms.

100% correct lukamar

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I know Sin Sot is much discussed elsewhere, but I cannot find it here despite looking back a year or more. I am seeing a wonderful hill tribe woman, who is mid 20's, never married, no children, younger siblings, father lives away from home. I am British, 20 yrs older and solvent, but no millionaire. Marriage is being suggested and I wonder if anyone has a feel for local bride price. Any recent precedent? The first 'punt' from Mama is 7 figures!!

Also, how do I negotiate with Mama, she doesnt speak Thai, so I will need to find someone who speaks mountain language and English?

Where do you intend to take this lady? have you checked if your home country will issue a visa for a hill tribe person?

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Run for the hills!!!! (dont stop either) eekout.gif

But the OP says she's from a hill tribe, Brit...he'd better run to Bangkok..... :o

LaoPo

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We have been having a bit of fun at the OPs expense but there is a bit of truth in everyone's reply. Getting married to a Thai is definitely different than getting married to someone in our culture and can have some pitfalls if you are not ready for them.

I must admit i was lucky and my wife is her own person and although family oriented very seldom agrees to send them any money unless it's an emergency but her family is also not poor so that probably has a big bearing on it too. She paid for her own university along with scholarships so they can't hold that over her. :o

Just look into everything and put all your concerns on the table before you get married. If you don't want to send money every month lay it out right at the start - No money ever or you will only pay medical expensed up to X amount. Tell them you are not planning on building a house for them to move into, things like that. When we moved back to Canada my wife's parents moved into our house at our request, it's worked out well they even remodeled the bathroom and the front yard, at their cost..:D The downside is we probably will not throw them out when we return but we know our stuff is safe in "our" bedroom which is locked...LOL

Think things through and make sure you look at it as a business arrangement rather than a heavenly love story, her family are looking at it that way.

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