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I mentioned in another post, and now mentioning again. I am 32, my gf is 21. She will graduate from a very renowned university soon. Her parents dont want a single baht, as long as her daughter is happy with me. We will live abroad, as I have already moved out of Thailand. I will give some money as show money but anyway, I will get it back much more than what I will give (my honey). She is fluent in English and an intelligent Thai-Chinese girl belong to a business family in Bangkok. I am her first bf and she is still virgin (I respect her decision a lot). Besides I am not a white guy (farang), but still considered as rich according to Thai standards. :o

As for OP, I just wonder why you are going to pay this much, as other posters say, run and dont look back etc. Listen to them and decide what your heart says. Nothing is more important than your own happiness, so if you are happy with the arrangement, I would say, go get it brother. :D

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Well that's unwrapped the cotton wool :o I feel as though I have just spent an hour on one of those rickety little green buses in Bangkok. By the way, I said I was 20 yrs older, not younger And yes, she has a Thai passport. And no, we havent discussed the wedding party yet.

My feeling is that Mama is dominent and my gf is naive. I guess they are a family of jobing farm labourers, trying to make good. I went into their neighbour's timber and reed house/hut one night to find the family sitting on the earthen floor below a single smoke blackened lightbulb. A small fire filled the thatched roof with smoke. There was no chimney. It was stone age.

For me the attraction is in the nature of the girl. Yes she is 7 or 8 out of 10 attractive, but she also has a real enthusiasm for life and an innocence that would be hard to find in a city girl. The pleasure of seeing her face as she first set eyes on the Taj Mahal, the Eiffel Tower or Selfridges Department Store would be huge for me. She says that for mountain people, husband comes first, family comes second.

I welcome your views. I am preparing myself for another ride on the rickety green Bangkok bus.

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Well that's unwrapped the cotton wool :o I feel as though I have just spent an hour on one of those rickety little green buses in Bangkok. By the way, I said I was 20 yrs older, not younger And yes, she has a Thai passport. And no, we havent discussed the wedding party yet.

My feeling is that Mama is dominent and my gf is naive. I guess they are a family of jobing farm labourers, trying to make good. I went into their neighbour's timber and reed house/hut one night to find the family sitting on the earthen floor below a single smoke blackened lightbulb. A small fire filled the thatched roof with smoke. There was no chimney. It was stone age.

For me the attraction is in the nature of the girl. Yes she is 7 or 8 out of 10 attractive, but she also has a real enthusiasm for life and an innocence that would be hard to find in a city girl. The pleasure of seeing her face as she first set eyes on the Taj Mahal, the Eiffel Tower or Selfridges Department Store would be huge for me. She says that for mountain people, husband comes first, family comes second.

I welcome your views. I am preparing myself for another ride on the rickety green Bangkok bus.

Mate, you are young and life is ahead of you...why not just go for it and let the cards fall where they may, as long as you keep the old girl in check you might be in for the adventure of a lifetime.

Good luck

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My feeling is that Mama is dominent and my gf is naive.

For me the attraction is in the nature of the girl.

She says that for mountain people, husband comes first, family comes second.

I think you have pegged it that Ma is dominant, it's the case with all Thai families I think. My mother in law is a sweetheart but rules her kids like she's royalty. That's just the way it is in the North and northeast from what i see it's part of the culture. I can see where you find the attraction with an unspoiled beauty not having been tainted by the outside society, it's something primal but you also have to realize that that will change and so will she once she gets out of that environment. As long as you are ready to accept that change it's fine.

I have to say that my wife thinks i come first but family is a close second. I also said my wife had been on her own for a long time and was quite modern in her thinking when i met her otherwise i think that would be totally different. Still coming up to songkran She has told me not to give her the phone if any of them call you you can take out of that what you want.

You didn't say if you planned on staying in Thailand or return home once you were married. If you bought some property (or property they had) and built a simple small Thai house, put in you wife's name, you could allow your MiL to live there. You guys would still have the money and title but she would have the status of having a new house. Sometime it's not always as it seems in the LOS. Or by them an old truck or car that's status too. Face is everything.

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Interesting question!

As someone already said before, where are you going to live? In her village, somewhere else in Thailand or in England?

That is quite important.

And how long have you known this wonderful girl? Have you been travelling around with her? She has a Thai pasport, have you been abroad with her or has someone else been abroad with her?

Is she naive only when it comes to this question about sin sot or is she a naive girl?

I think you should talk to her and find out how she is thinking about this. If she thinks it should be 1 mill then .... hmm...

If not, maybe she is the one that can do the negotiations with the MIL.

I popped the question to my MIL before our wedding and she said, "up to you!" and she really ment it. And I talked to my wife and we found out a sum that we thought would make everyone happy. Then I gave my wife the money and said, " this is for our wedding, whatever you want to spend on clothes, smink, photos, food and booze is up to you, the rest is going to your mother!".

We had a good wedding but quite simple, no extras, quite low budget. My wife could not say that I was "kenyo" because she had free hands to plan it. In the end my MIL got more than 90% of the money I gave to my wife. Everyone happy!

By the way, I live 700 km from my wifes homevillage, that is not a bad idea!

I wish you all the best !

:o:D:D

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