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How Do I Get My Husband To Stop Smoking?

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:D Hi their guys.., I'm just a very newly registered on this site, and as I read this site I really impress about people who are very much willing to quit from smoking, not just for their self but also for their family. How many times did I try to talk to my husband and please him to sttop from smoking 'cause me and my dayghter already got a hard coughf because of the smoke that we take from his being a smoker. And then he promise me me to quit from it, but then that promise will only take just A few ours, then after tat his back in smoking again. Please advise or give me some important tips in how I can make him quuit from smoking. Thank you.

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:D Hi their guys.., I'm just a very newly registered on this site, and as I read this site I really impress about people who are very much willing to quit from smoking, not just for their self but also for their family. How many times did I try to talk to my husband and please him to sttop from smoking 'cause me and my dayghter already got a hard coughf because of the smoke that we take from his being a smoker. And then he promise me me to quit from it, but then that promise will only take just A few ours, then after tat his back in smoking again. Please advise or give me some important tips in how I can make him quuit from smoking. Thank you.

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delia

Hi Delia,

Getting a loved one to quit is quite a challenge. The more you complain the more it will seem like you are nagging him. This will only irritate him. You need a more indirect strategy.

I'm assuming he smokes indoors at home? an/or maybe in the car. First step, ask him calmly and politely but firmly to stop smoking indoors at home and in the car. If he wants to smoke he can go outside. Please let me know how he reacts to your request.

Some background information would also be helpful. How old you both are and your daughter, how long has your husband been smoking and how many cigarretes he smokes per day. Does he have any hobbies or other interests that are important to him.

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Good day Delia!

I'm new also in this forum and your right this site is interesting and informative one.

Regarding your problems about your husband, Malcolminthemiddle is right if your husband wants to smoke tell him to smoke outside and explain to him you and your daughter cannot take the smoke of the cigarettes. Tell him that you’re having a cough if you can breathe the smoke.

Yes try to tell him once to minimize taking cigarette until his willing to stop smoking.

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My problem is that it is my wife who wants to stop smoking but she cannot.

However to be fair she ONLY smokes outside and does her best to keep the smoke away from our 4 year old son. In the car she does ask him first and she does open the window.

She has smoked all the 15 years I have known her and she is smoking less now so she is trying.

The noise she makes first thing in the morning reminds me that I once scrapped a car that sounded like that.

I am an ex smoker of some 37 years and I gave up successfully about 4 times until the last when I just stopped and gave away all my cigarettes etc and have never smoked again.

But it was hard to do.

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However to be fair she ONLY smokes outside and does her best to keep the smoke away from our 4 year old son. In the car she does ask him first and she does open the window.

This made me laugh. You say he is 4 years old. Why does she ask a 4 year old if she can or not?

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However to be fair she ONLY smokes outside and does her best to keep the smoke away from our 4 year old son. In the car she does ask him first and she does open the window.

This made me laugh. You say he is 4 years old. Why does she ask a 4 year old if she can or not?

Because she realises that it is his life and if he says no then she will wait until we have a break and then go out and smoke. Unfortunately we don't live in the car all the time or she would probably jump out.

As an aside I was flying back from Angola a rew years ago and we had a stop over in another country. We had to stay on board and one guy was out on the steps for as long as possible puffing away.

Have you never looked in the smokers rooms at the airports? I feel sorry for the people in there.

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:D Hi their guys.., I'm just a very newly registered on this site, and as I read this site I really impress about people who are very much willing to quit from smoking, not just for their self but also for their family. How many times did I try to talk to my husband and please him to sttop from smoking 'cause me and my dayghter already got a hard coughf because of the smoke that we take from his being a smoker. And then he promise me me to quit from it, but then that promise will only take just A few ours, then after tat his back in smoking again. Please advise or give me some important tips in how I can make him quuit from smoking. Thank you.

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delia

Aloha Delia

First off he must want to for life's sake and also for you, there is one thing you can do and that is to at least teach him to not flick his butts as it is killing our children, wild life along with making our waterways contaminated, as you must know, many die before they can quit, I wish you all good luck

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Personally I gave up when the pain of sinusitis got too much, so the hard line is to remind him that the smoking makes the pain worse when he coughs, snorts, has a cold headache or whatever. The carrot is the greatly improved health and zest for life, remind him of this too.

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stop badgering him ,you can only stop when its right for ypu,all the asking and begging only makes people smoke more

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I stopped smoking two years ago. Whilst part of the reason was that my wife did not like me smoking, I am afraid that, much as I love her, I would never have stopped for that reason alone. I think for anyone to really stop, that person has to be really "ready" to do so. Let's face it: most smokers do know that the habit is not healthy but q number of things need to come together to actually do something about it (am I making sense here :o ).

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Its difficult isnt it,we have an uncle that has smoked all his life, but he gave up for a year, my wife never ever said anything to him about giving up ,but when he came to visit us his skin on his face looked a lot better and she told him, in a very polite way, it made him think, and although hes started again hes smoking less for sure, compliments work better than pushing someone, we actualy have had rows over it but it did no good,.try saying

'"oh we saw bill smith the other day, hes looking really good and so proud of giving up,".dont worry smokers know we ( non smokers ) dont like it but that in itself wont have them give up, its a terrible drug nicotine and the user must want to stop,.most do ,but its not easy,.

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I used to work with a guy who said he couldn't quit, we saw a thing on TV about pain association so we hit him every time he went for a smoke (he agreed to try it by the way) and it worked. Some people have had success with less painful ways such as pinching or wearing an elastic band on the wrist and twanging it hard. It really does work.

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I used to work with a guy who said he couldn't quit, we saw a thing on TV about pain association so we hit him every time he went for a smoke (he agreed to try it by the way) and it worked. Some people have had success with less painful ways such as pinching or wearing an elastic band on the wrist and twanging it hard. It really does work.
But the punch in the nose is still the best ! :o

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make him smoke more not less

with this system.....things willl work faster!

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i smoke for 30 odd years and when i had settled in Pattaya with my gf and step son i wanted to live for many many more years and realised if i carried on smoking i would die a horrible slow death,gave my cigs away and stopped just like that.I can walk 15 + kilometer every day now and not even feel out of breath.Life is wonderful and i intend to live forever lol.

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