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To Tell Or Not To Tell

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You are in a sticky situation, This has happened to myself, a guys wife in our village had a thai boyfriend, i actually told the guy his wife was screwing around, he got quite shirty and we ended up falling out, now the guy has lost 4 million baht and back in blighty, her mate, same village, ferang built her a nice bungalow and shop, she said bye ferang, and he went to the phillipines, she then got the bus to Pattaya with the other lady, found another guy, he has now moved in, bought her a new 4x4, unknown to him, her brother who is also living in the same abode, is really her thai boyfriend.

I think it is better to be truefull, you may loose a friend, if he does not listen he will know you were right one day.

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Sometimes, they do shoot the messenger.

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Like i said in post 25, turn things round so he asks you questions, and answer "i dont really know mate but ,,, ,,, , ," Tell him to "borrow " her ID card, get it photocopied and go to the local Amphur office, have it checked, or even ask her to do this, if she refuses, its time to clear off.

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Well said Bina "unless he's your brother, don't get involved" Such situations are very difficult and telling him, in whatever way, is likely to cause you & your family grief.

There are two similar 'cases' in our village, I would just love to be able to take the farang involved aside & tell them that they are been 'played' by a pair of hardened Pattaya whores, however, they are big boys & have no one other than themselves to answer to & I don't want the aggro. I say leave well alone.

cause they ahvent read the million other threads that are about the same thing...

been hashed over and over pros and cons... from my woman's point of view, if he isnt your brother, dont get involved. if he is so dumb to not see it, then, nothing u will say or do will change his mind; and if he knows or suspects, then he will make his own decision anyway... never get in the middle.

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A few days ago i was talking with a euro falang about this, he said no problem, im married to 3 thai girls, they have good families with big houses and good jobs, no need to send money, i just let them know when in coming over, treat her and the family good, end of story,

Now theres a turnaround!!!

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Don't bother saying anything as much as it will attack your concience. I did the same to Antraving8 in telling him his wife was seeing farangs behind his back. Would he have it ? No. These kind of people live in denial in that they're so in love with their partner they can't see the truth. Let them get on with it.

I have another guy who lives in the village who I believe knows his wife creams him off. Why does he allow it. Firstly he hasn't got the chance of pulling a woman with his Thai wifes attributes back home. Secondly he's burnt his bridges back home and commited himself to here and his wife knows this. Thirdly as long as she provides for him and looks after him in a way he couldn't get back home, he accepts it.

On top of this, if you tell him, your wife will be seen as the source of information even though she isn't, which will then put her in a bad spot with the locals.

I've been in your shoes Ozy111 you'll end up with egg on your face if you get involved.

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try and find out if he has an e mail then get a unconnected third part y drop him a line as a "concerned" countryman.

Good call, I think that is the best option at least that way I'd know did something at least without my wife looseing face or worse if it got out I told him.

"One picture is worth a thousand words".

How do you know it's happening? Did you personally see her in the company of another man or is it village gossip?

If you can manage to get a photo...

I see her in the company of her thai husband almost every day when he go's back home to england the thai husband is back out of the woodwork again. I know what your saying but I don't think I want to be seen taking happy snaps of the couple though.

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Don't bother saying anything as much as it will attack your concience. I did the same to Antraving8 in telling him his wife was seeing farangs behind his back. Would he have it ? No. These kind of people live in denial in that they're so in love with their partner they can't see the truth. Let them get on with it.

I have another guy who lives in the village who I believe knows his wife creams him off. Why does he allow it. Firstly he hasn't got the chance of pulling a woman with his Thai wifes attributes back home. Secondly he's burnt his bridges back home and commited himself to here and his wife knows this. Thirdly as long as she provides for him and looks after him in a way he couldn't get back home, he accepts it.

On top of this, if you tell him, your wife will be seen as the source of information even though she isn't, which will then put her in a bad spot with the locals.

I've been in your shoes Ozy111 you'll end up with egg on your face if you get involved.

Sound advice thanks for that mate.

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The guy needs to find out - period. How many sob stories do we read about with the guy losing the lot to some un-scrupulous scam & then doing the five second flying lesson?

Condsider it your one good deed, however, if you can let the guy know without him knowing it is you that would be far better.

Adultery - un-pleasant but manageable.

Outright scam to get the guy for every penny - unforgivable.

This looks like the la

Cheers mate I respect your opinion.

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Right thing to do, but never forget it comes with costs.

I faced a similar situtaion last year, wa thingking hard about it. But in the end I knew I would lose friend little time goes by he has a Mia Noi, the first wife is doen the road and he is happy with the second one now, He still says hello. I have never metioned to him, no need to embarass him he found out on his own.

Right decesion I have no idea, but it all worked out.

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In the end I did nothing and it just worked itself out.

Everybody but the cheating wife is happy

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Ozzy111

I'm dying to know.

What have you decided to do?

:o

I decided after taking into consideration everyones advice to tell him but to do it anonymously.

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<br />Buy a new SIM-card with a number no one knows and sms him the bad news.<br />It´s up to him to believe it or not. Then you have done more than enough and<br />if it leeds to their divorce it can never be traced back to you.<br />
<br /><br /><br />i agree 100% then he can decide for himself.also i can't believe the posts that some people put on here sticking up for thai women.where i came it doesn't matter if your a thai,spanish,french chinese lady if you're a whore, you're whore it is irrelevant if your rich or poor or your family is doing tough.anyhow that's just my opinion.

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<br />Buy a new SIM-card with a number no one knows and sms him the bad news.<br />It´s up to him to believe it or not. Then you have done more than enough and<br />if it leeds to their divorce it can never be traced back to you.<br />
<br /><br /><br />i agree 100% then he can decide for himself.also i can't believe the posts that some people put on here sticking up for thai women.where i came it doesn't matter if your a thai,spanish,french chinese lady if you're a whore, you're whore it is irrelevant if your rich or poor or your family is doing tough.anyhow that's just my opinion.

That pretty harsh!!!!

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